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Post by lmurillo on Jul 5, 2011 17:06:40 GMT -5
with the diagnosis of blighted ovum? Hi I'm new here. I started spotting around 8 weeks, and called the midwife who said it sounded like everything was ok, if I wanted to come in, she would be glad to see me, but my spotting sounded like typical first trimester spotting. And it soon stopped. At 11 weeks it started up again this time heavier and kept getting worse, so I went in, they couldn't find a heart beat, so they sent me for an ultrasound. They didn't have to tell me anything was wrong. I knew as soon as I saw the picture up on the screen that something was terribly wrong. Then to hear that there was no baby there. I miscarried the following weekend, the weekend before father's day. And I still can't get closure. If there was no baby how could I have been pregnant? I need help getting past that. I was expecting to hold a baby sometime around Christmas, and all along my body was playing some cruel joke on me? This is my fourth pregnancy, and second miscarriage. But it just doesn't get easier.
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Post by carlsangel on Jul 6, 2011 1:22:41 GMT -5
I am so sorry for your loss! I know how devastating it is to see that empty screen:( My last loss was also due in Dec. I was looking forward to a Christmas baby, so I can share in your disappointment. When you have a blighted ovum, there was a baby in the beginning, but at some point it just stopped growing because your body recognized that something was wrong, then whatever was there is either not visable via u/s or was already re-absorbed by your body. Since the placenta and sac are still in place, your body doesn't know that there is no baby, and keeps supporting it. It really is a cruel trick...I remember feeling so betrayed by my own body. Have you decided on natural miscarriage or D&C? I will be praying for you, an again, I am so sorry for your loss!
HUGS! ~Hannah~
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Post by mzr on Jul 6, 2011 5:42:25 GMT -5
I am so sorry for your losses. You are right, whether it's your first, second, or fourth, they are never easy. You said this happened just before father's day. That was barely a month ago so be patient with yourself. It's been 4.5 years since my first loss and I still have days when it hurts a lot. I'm not sure we ever fully get closure. This is a great site for support and friendship and I'm glad you have found us. Like Hannah said, you were pregnant even if the baby didn't develop. Your hormones elevated, the placenta grew. And, just like the post-partum period that follows the birth of a live child, your body is now coming to terms with the loss physically as your brain tries to go thru the emotional healing. So, take care of yourself. Know that your feelings are normal. And that you are not alone.
Hugs and know that we are here for you always! Marisa
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Jul 7, 2011 4:52:19 GMT -5
I am so sorry for your loss , I know those words don't make it better but it is from the heart. I think we have all been where you are. It feels like you will never feel better but as time passes the pain will not be so overwhelming. Like the other ladies said it never goes away but it will get better. My first loss was almost 10 years ago and it still hurts. My husband dealt with my BO by saying it wasn't really a loss as there was no baby in fact the OB at the hospital said almost the exact same words. So I hit the internet and discovered a sac and placenta do not grow without a fertilised egg so there was a baby my body just didn't get the message that the baby hadn't made it. It does feel like your body is betraying you but I liked to think of it as my body just didn't want to let it go. You have discovered a fantastic site the ladies here have been so much help to me through my losses, pregnancy, birth, both my childrens issues and anything else I need support for. We are all here for you for advice, emotional support, just to let you vent or anything else we can help with. Please take care of yourself and give yourself time to heal. Keep us updated on how you are doing. (((HUGS)))
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