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Post by brittanydesiree on Jun 4, 2011 7:38:00 GMT -5
Im New At This Whole Forum Thing & Have no clue as to where im suppose to post Anything so bare with me:) Im 6 1/2 weeks preg. and had my 1st visit to my ob/gyn Yesterday morning; i wasnt suppose to see him til the end of the month but due to havin some awful gallbladder attacks the previous week he wanted to have me come in earlier. They decided to do a ultra sound..The ultra sound tech. Said the baby was to small to really see or get a readin on how many beats per. minute the heart was..BUT She did think she saw a heart beat she just couldnt pick it up. after a couple minutes of bein silent she said she found a hematoma But that was common; and told me not to worry to much but she did want to see me back in the office in a week in a half. Then It Was my OB's Turn To talk to me; he brought in my ultra sound pictures And asked if the ultra sound tech had explained alot and i told him some so he wanted to go over everything with me again..he said I had a enlarged yolk sac and that that usually lead to miscarriage which almost caused me to competely shut down right then but i tried to pay attention to the rest of what he was sayin; He then brought up that i may have blighted ovum and made me another appt. for the 15th for another ultra sound simply sayin he'd know more then. I was in shock so i didnt ask a whole lot of questions (dumb i know) so i came home and started to research which is just leavin me confused and frustrated because nothing matches what he's telling me; I was just hoping somebody who has been in this situation can help me understand a little better; because all im doin is confusin myself more Any information would be appreciated VERY MUCH.
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Jun 5, 2011 0:16:53 GMT -5
Brittany, First I want to say that I am sorry you are going through this and had to find us. My heart goes out to you. Second, just so your posts don't get lost in the shuffle most new posters post in the main area and you can start your own thread. I would hate for someone to miss what is going on with you because they have already read the post you posted on. Please know we are here for you. You were not dumb for not asking questions to your Dr. we all went into shock when the Dr. said the words blighted ovum. I will cross everything I can he was wrong. Keep us updated. (((HUGS)))
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Post by brittanydesiree on Jun 5, 2011 20:06:12 GMT -5
I Just had my First OB appt. Friday (june 3rd) At 6 1/2 weeks; I Wasnt suppose to have my 1st appt. til the end of june; But due to gallbladder issues my doctor had me come in early for a ultra sound; I went into the appt. thinkin another ultra sound on my gallbladder but when i got there it was a ultra sound for the baby! I was pretty excited that i was goin to get to see my baby for the 1st time no matter how small he or she is:) after answering questions about my first pregnancy the ultra sound tech. started; she explained that the baby would be very small so we wouldnt be able to see much and i understood and waited quietly while she examined the screen..after a few moments she pointed out a hematoma that she said she was concerned about but it was common so not to worry myself to death about it; but she did want to see me back in a week in a half. She then pointed out what she believed to be a faint heart beat ( she said at just 6 weeks sometimes its hard to pick up) She couldnt give me bpm but she said she should be able to the next appt. ..then my OB doctor came back in to talk to me some more about the ultra sound saying that lookin at all the pictures he seen a enlarged yolk sac and that usually ended up in miscarriage; i tried really hard to pay attention to everything else he said but needless to say it was almost impossible; my Doctor gave me a minute; so i would be able to try to concentrate on what he was telling me; then he mentioned a blighted ovum which i' had never heard of before in my life; he said my body thought i was pregnant but the baby most likely had never developed which i thought was crazy sense i had just seen what the ultra sound tech thought was a heart beat! i didnt say much or ask any questions i got my appt. card and left. I made a very emotional phone call to my husband before leaving the parkin lot then drove the hour to our house and got online as soon as i got threw the door researching anything and everything i couldnt about "blighted ovum" and a enlarged yolk sac. And Everything im finding is just confusing & frustrating me that much more. Some sites say with a blighted ovum there could have been a heart beat and then some say with blighted ovum there never was one; im confused & over whelmed so anybody who's been in a similar situation that has anything that might help me understand better or even questions i should ask my ob i would apperciate it soo very much!
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Post by carlsangel on Jun 5, 2011 22:54:55 GMT -5
I'm so sorry you are going through this uncertain time! I think the first thing I would do if I were you is ask for a repeat ultrasound. I'm not sure why they gave you conflicting opinions, but if they saw a fetal pole or heartbeat at ALL, it wouldn't be a blighted ovum. Last Dec I did some research on yok sacs because I was pregnant and all they saw was a small fetal pole and no yok sac or heartbeat. When I read up on it, I remember reading that an enlarged yok sac almost always means miscarriage, but I'm not sure what qualifies as enlarged. you might want to go get a print out of your ultrasound report and do your own research. I will be praying the DR was wrong, and everything will be fine! If not, we will be here for support! *HUGS* ~Hannah~
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Post by mzr on Jun 6, 2011 1:11:11 GMT -5
On hon, I am so sorry for this emotional rollercoaster! At the end of the day, hearing the term "miscarriage" or "pregnancy loss" regardless of whether it is from a BO or a not, is devastating, and while it sounds like your doctor tried to give you a chance to let the news soak in, I agree that it is very confusing news following what the u/s tech said. Of course you didn't have time to process it all and think of the questions you wanted to ask. And, yes, the information out there on the internet can be very confusing and is not always accurate.
By definition, a blighted ovum is a pregnancy in which the embryo stops developing before the fetal pole and heart beat appear. That is why some people will say that "there was never a baby" as if that makes it better (it doesn't!). BOs are the most common cause of early pregnancy loss. But, once a fetal pole and heart beat develop, you can still experience a loss, and, without doing further testing of the baby, mom's blood, placenta, etc, it is virtually impossible to saw what the cause is so the term "BO" has been applied in some of these cases too. In the end, I'm not sure if it really matters why or when the baby stopped developing. For most women, we think about the baby from the moment we find out we are pregnant. It is real for us and we begin to imagine what it will be like to hold the baby in our arms, what the baby will grow to be. Therefore, it is devastating to hear that this will not happen. And, remember too, that even if the baby stops developing, your body still thinks you are pregnant so you are also dealing with the hormone changes, and maybe even the early symptoms of pregnancy. So, your feelings are normal. You confusion, sadness, desire to understand what is happening and why, etc. It's all normal.
I agree with Hannah that having a repeat scan is a good idea. Yes, an enlarged yolk sac is usually not a good sign. But, as Hannah said, what exactly does an "enlarged yolk sac" mean, I'm not sure. I would start making a list of the questions you want to ask and take it with you to your next appointment. That way you won't forget to ask something and you will, hopefully, get the answers you need.
One important comment that I will throw out there is to try to be patient and kind with yourself. According to the medical literature, pregnancy losses occur in 20-30% of all pregnancies (depends on how pregnancy is defined and the study population) so it is a very common occurrence even if we've never heard about it before it happens to us. And, in almost all of those cases, there is nothing the mom could have or should have done differently that would have prevented the outcome. I think we all sit there after a diagnosis and think, "oh if only I hadn't had that glass of wine with dinner last week" or "if I hadn't gone to the gym and did an extra set of crunches or run an extra mile" but none of those things cause a pregnancy loss. Bad things happen even to good people. And in most cases, a pregnancy loss is just an unlucky and terrible event in your life but is just a fluke. As the many women on this site can attest to - as devastating as a loss can be, hope is not lost. You can still have a beautiful, healthy child afterwards. And I hope that this will happen for you.
Hugs and know that we are always here for you!
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Post by brittanydesiree on Jun 6, 2011 13:05:58 GMT -5
Thank You Both So Much; I go For Another ultra sound on the 15th and will know more then; My soon to Be Step Mom Is A Labor & Delivery Nurse So I called Her Yesterday morning to ask her Some questions to see if maybe she could help clear some things up; she wasnt sure on a whole lot but she asked a OB that she works with at UK In lexington and He said he couldnt say with 100% certainty because he hasnt seen my U/S Pictures but From What she had told him he said it sound as if I might have been having twins and 1 made it and 1 didnt; While that still breaks my heart it does give me some hope to; But like i said he's not my doctor and has not treated me he is just goin by what he was told of my appt. But any information or opinion right now is great; sense i feel so in the dark about it all! & I would like to thank both of you for the support! It means SO Much! I will Post Up dates as i know more! Again Thank You!!
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Jun 8, 2011 1:29:37 GMT -5
I am going to cross everything I can that the tech was right and the Dr. was wrong. There have been some stories on here that had happy outcomes and I hope you are one of them. I can't imagine what it must be like not knowing what is going on with all my losses there was never a doubt. I really wish I had answers for you. Please let us know how it goes on the 15th. Big (((HUGS))).
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Post by mzr on Jun 10, 2011 11:19:45 GMT -5
My philosophy has always been "prepare for the worst but hope for the best". I will be hoping right along side you! I know the waiting is tough but we are here to help you get thru it if you need us! Hugs!
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Post by felita71 on Jul 7, 2011 21:31:52 GMT -5
Glad I found this forum. When I was 25yrs old, I suffered a miscarriage due to a blighted ovum. Fourteen years have passed and I was still childless. So in July 2010 I decided to try to have a baby before I turned 40. I always thought I would have one before 35. But since it didn't happen, I made it goal to try to conceive by 40. Two months after my 40th birthday it finally happened. My cycles were always exactly every 28 days. When my cycle didn't come on time, I took a pregnancy test on May 22 and it was BFP. It was one of the most happiest moments in my life. The next day I called my doctor's office to set up an appointment. My appointment was set for June 20. Since I previously had a miscarriage, I was sitting on pins and needles until June 20. On June 18 I started spotting. I freaked out. This can't be happening again. Some people try to reassure me everything is fine. Some women spot during their first trimester. June 20th finally arrived and I was still spotting. When I went in for my ultrasound, the technician was very quiet. I didn't hear a heartbeat so I knew something was wrong. So, she pointed out that the the fetus started to form but stopped. In other words, another blighted ovum. After my ultrasound, my doctor examined me and said well before we schedule a d&c, lets check your hcg levels first. If your levels increases we will do another ultrasound in a week. They drew blood on 20th and had to return on the 22nd. When they called me on the 23rd, they told me my hcg levels dropped from 12,900 to 9,300 (can't remember the actual numbers). It was one of the worse days of my life. I couldn't understand how one of the happiest moments of my life turned into one of the saddest moment in my life. I cried so much that my eyes were swollen and sore and my face actually hurt. I prayed several times that day. Finally, I ended up having a conversation with God. I felt more at ease after the conversation. Although, I lost another baby, I'm still blessed. One day God will bless me with a beautiful healthy baby. I tried the natural miscarriage but it didn't work for me. I spotted from June 18th to June 22nd. On June 23rd the blood flow was like a period. Some days the pain was horrible. The bleeding continued thru July 6 when I ended up doing the d&c. It went extremely well much better than my first one. I have one of the best doctors any one could ask for. He was compassionate, sympathetic and understanding. I was blessed with a good doctor. Before surgery he said "This is always one of the most heartbreaking surgeries I have to do, I wish it was a better outcome." "Don't give up just try again"
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Post by yoyis on Jul 10, 2011 15:14:30 GMT -5
Felita, As a read your story I couldnt contain tears coming out from my eyes! Im VERY trully sorry. I had a BO last year and now im terrified to get pregnant Im on the pill and im very very very careful to not get pregnant, Im 26 yrs old now and im planing to get my tubes cauterized. My situation was very difficult ( still is), im in the healtcare field, and my husband is in the military. WE planified the whole deal of getting pregnant, ovulation, temp, mucus you name it! eeeverything and yeah got pregnant, i was in shock because i got pregnant right away, on my 12 week went to the doc for the ultrasound and the heart beat and to do other test for down syndrome, pap smear, breast exam, the whole nine yards...when she placed the doopler and i heard the heart beat and she said " oh no, thats you not the baby" and i said ok?, then she brought the ultrasound machine and she went accross and took a pic, when i saw it, i just turned the other way and tried not to cry, since my husband was there in the room with me, then she said " ill be back I need to get the doc" he came back and they turned the monitor and then i had a vaginal untrasound, he printed out the pics and explained to me. I didnt cry, my husband didnt understand a thing, he wa just pale pale pale and didnt know wht to say...I got dressed and got an apointment to come back....got pills to go into labor and i had the worst pain and bleeding in my living room for 3 days. I didnt up to the D&C, because i know the risk of punture the uterus. But it was horrible horrible, and to make things worst, my sister that is 24 yrs shes preg 3 months, with a baby on the way....i try not to blame no one, but i dont think is fair that my sister that had 3 abortions, is not able to have a baby, and me that neeeeever had to have an abortion, i cant! Im very sorry you went thru this I understand your pain, I still cant get over it and i dont think we never will. But you know sometimes knowing too much hurts just as much as not knwing at all about this issues. Take Care and God Bless, you're not alone! Hugs! Gloria
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Post by felita71 on Jul 15, 2011 21:03:06 GMT -5
Thanks Yoyis! One of the hardest things is seeing other people pregnant. It bothers me that some of those that are blessed with kids take advantage of their blessing. Meaning some of these people abuse their kids whether it's sexually, physically and/or emotionally. When the news report that a child have been killed by their parent, it sickens me. Here I am wanting a baby and these people are killing theirs. I will think positive. God will bless me with a baby. I will pray for all of those on this forum that lost a baby. *Hugs to all*
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