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Post by lauramarquis on May 24, 2011 16:58:13 GMT -5
Hello, I am new here and was pleasantly surprised that this is available. My name is Laura and I am 33 years old. When my husband and I got married in 2008 and started TTC a year later, we never expected it to be so hard or that it would involve so much heart ache. After a year of TTC we decided to see a fertility doctor to see if there was something wrong. We found out that my husband has azoospermia (no sperm in semen) probably due to hernia operation when he was 6 months old. We decided to have a surgery done where the doctor gets sperm from my husband straight from the source (called TESE) and try IVF. It was found that I also have Factor V Leiden (blood clotting disorder) and MTHFR (folic acid deficiency). I also have a hypothyroid. Our first IVF cycle was hard and it did not result in a pregnancy. Our second IVF cycle was even harder. We thought we were almost 7 weeks pregnant until last night when we went in for our first ultra sound. Never in a million years did I expect to be diagnosed with a blighted ovum. My worst nightmare came true....no heartbeat.....no developing baby. We are crushed and don't know how to get through the rest of the day. We both took the rest of the week off of work but don't know what to do with ourselves. Any guidance would be appreciated. Thanks, Laura
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Post by rita828 on May 24, 2011 20:56:24 GMT -5
Laura,
I am so sorry you are going through this. I didn't do IVF, but my dh and I tried for yrs to get pregnant but to no avail. We finally got pregnant after nearly 4 yrs of trying only to find out that we had a BO. I was crushed and my husband felt helpless because there was nothing he could do or say to help me.
My only advice is that over time things will get better. It won't be easy and it will be an emotional rollercoaster but it WILL get better.
Hang in there and I will keep you in my prayers.
Anita
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Post by justinandjakesmom on May 25, 2011 5:22:00 GMT -5
Big HUGS hun! I actually have a very similar history to yours. I got DX with hypothyroidism after my blighted ovum. I did go on to have a son, before my 2nd loss. After my 2nd loss I got dx with PT20210. With lovenox and progesterone (and an RE), I had my 2nd son. I had two misses after that though (both unplanned pregnancies) one a chemical PG and the last one had a HB one week and it was gone the next. It's devastating to go in for an u/s and not see a HB Did they freeze any embies for you? I hope and pray that the 3rd time is the charm if you choose to go that route. There is also a group on baby center called Lovely Lovenox Ladies. I am assuming you were on lovenox. HUGS hun best of luck and will pray for you! Take one day at a time and allow yourself time to grieve and share your feelings with your spouse. God bless!! Kris
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Post by texasmeg1 on May 26, 2011 13:32:52 GMT -5
I am so sorry to read through your struggles We just discovered the blighted ovum at our first u/s appt yesterday at 8 weeks. It is our first pregnancy and I am just devastated. I can't concentrate at work, cannot get off of google and am convinced there is a problem with the quality of my eggs or something else in my body. it is such a terrible feeling. I woke up this morning and thought it was a dream. I wish you the best as your continue the TTC process, whatever you decide is next.
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Post by lauramarquis on May 26, 2011 14:45:45 GMT -5
Wow! Thank you all so much for your responses! I can't even tell you how much it helps to know we are not alone. We went and got a d&c yesterday morning so it was another struggle to get through the day....but we did...that's what matters. One day at a time. We found out that we have no frozen embies since none of them made it so we must start over. Right now it feels like it's never going to happen for us but my husband keeps reminding me that it will. I feel mentally and physically drained right now and most of all....hopeless. Hopefully with your support and our families we'll find a way to keep fighting for our biggest dream...a family. Thanks again. I look forward to your responses, Laura
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Post by carlsangel on May 26, 2011 16:56:23 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss...praying for you!
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Post by carmenivy on May 28, 2011 13:43:37 GMT -5
Laura, I am so sorry for your loss. I am sorry you are having to deal with so much. All I can say is to be kind to yourself - do something, anything, that makes you feel even a tiny bit better, and go from there. I have been through some rough times, and any little bit of happiness helps.
There are many women on this site that have been through heck to have their little ones - so don't think that your problems are too great to overcome. Anything is possible. And in the meantime, we will be here for advice, help, or just so you can vent. After my miscarriages, I don't know what I would have done without the wonderful ladies on this site.
Texasmeg, I am also sorry for your loss. I can understand feeling like everything is just a dream. I remember feeling like that.
I will pray that you both feel better soon. Big hugs.
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Post by lauramarquis on May 30, 2011 12:36:05 GMT -5
Thank you all again for your kind words. My fertility doctor sent the tissue from the D&C away for more testing. We are meeting with him on Wednesday to get the results and talk about our options. I don't know what we'll do if there is a chance that this could keep happening but I do know that not having a family is not an option for us, no matter how tough it is. We'll do whatever it takes. We also have a first meeting with a support group here is So. California on Wednesday. We are looking forward to meeting with other couples who have been through something similar since we really need that support right now. Thanks again everyone! Hang in there!
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Post by mzr on May 31, 2011 15:38:17 GMT -5
Good luck tomorrow, Laura! I hope the doctor is able to give you some useful information and answers. And I am glad you have found a local support group. You can never have too much support! Please know that we are always here for you too. As Carmen mentioned, there are several women on this site who have had multiple losses and gone thru several rounds of IVF and are now holding precious little ones in their arms. Before we moved to France, I was a genetic counselor in Colorado and one of my closest friends had a Factor II deficiency and MTHFR mutation. And she now has 2 beautiful children too. So, I believe that there is lots of hope left out there for you. My thoughts are with you! Keep us posted, Marisa
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Post by mzr on May 31, 2011 15:42:27 GMT -5
Texasmeg - I am so sorry for your loss too. You are right, it does feel like a bad dream. It has been 4 years since my first loss and 1 since my second loss. I have a 3 year old son and another due in just a few weeks but it still feels surreal when I think about my losses. And, while life does go on, I do still think about them. I think we always hold some sorrow in our hearts and that is normal. I wish you all the best as you continue your TTC journey. We are always here for you if you need us!
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