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Post by lyndseycherise on May 19, 2011 16:00:42 GMT -5
I went in or an ultra sound at 7weeks because I had no pregnancy symptoms and had been spotting. I was told that I had a bo and was measuring at about 5weeks. My midwife recommended a natural MC and told me it would be like a heave period because, as she put it (while looking at the u/s pics), "there just isn't much in there". I'm ok with all of it, I knew something about this pregnancy was different, as it's my 3rd, and never expected a good outcome. So here I sit, I have been spotting off and on for a few days now. Nothing worth even putting in a panty liner for, no cramps or anything. I'm ready to be done with this whole thing. My main concern is that my husband just left this morning for a deployment so I am now at home alone with a 3yr old and a 4yr old. I want to keep life as normal as possible for them but at the same time I am terrified to go out with them in case something happens...it's hard to make a quick get away to home with two little one's in tow!! When can I expect that things will start to work themselves out? My mom is staying with me this weekend, is there anything I can take to try and move this along (other then the prescription pill)?
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Post by existential27 on May 19, 2011 18:39:29 GMT -5
I'm sorry you are going through this. It's really hard to know when a natural miscarriage will start-- for some, it never does start on it's own, and some form of intervention is needed, which tends to be considered if a women gets to the 11-12 week range without miscarrying. It's also hard to know how severe the bleeding will be. Most women who have natural miscarriages do so without problems, but some do hemmorhage and end up needing emergency treatment-- that has happened to a few women on here, at varying weeks of gestation. I hope your midwife told you to go to the ER if you start soaking more than a pad an hour. It's good that you have someone with you this weekend-- it does worry me a bit when women are alone waiting to miscarry naturally/going through natural miscarriage.
My BO was suspected at 6 weeks 3 days, and measured at 5 weeks. I started miscarrying at 6 weeks 5 days-- it was very heavy bleeding that came on all of a sudden during the middle of the night, with several clots the size of eggs. But, after that first rush of bleeding, it slowed down considerably, to where I was barely bleeding at all 2 days later. I didn't go to the doctor until then. For whatever reason, he still said I needed a D&C, although I'm pretty certain in retrospect that was unnecessary. Since everything was happening so quickly, and I had never been through this before, I didn't question it at the time.
I hope the physical part starts soon for you and goes smoothly. It has to be hard with the timing of your husband leaving on deployment. My heart goes out to you!
KC
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Post by lyndseycherise on May 20, 2011 17:15:20 GMT -5
thanks for your reply. I am going to call my midwife on Monday and schedule a d&c for the following Friday if nothing has happened by then. My in-laws are already scheduled to watch the kids that weekend so I can just worry about myself. My only concern with this is that having that done will make it more difficult for me to have children in the future. My midwife, after running test and looking at the u/s, said she see's no reason we shouldn't be able conceive again and I am really healthy. I guess I feel very blessed to be told that and don't want to mess with it by having an invasive procedure done.
The fact that I am alone with the kids terrifies me more then anything else about this process! I just want it behind me so we can move on with our summer and I can enjoy myself and them.
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Post by existential27 on May 20, 2011 18:57:20 GMT -5
Having a D&C shouldn't affect your future ability to have kids. There are risks with any procedure, but complications (i.e. uterine scarring that could affect implantation) are pretty rare with D&Cs. It's a very quick procedure. The only pain I had afterwards was a sore throat from the breathing tube for anesthesia. I was just told not to lift anything for few days. I had very little bleeding afterwards. So, the physical part was easy. It's the emotional part that's hard for most.
Most women on here do go on to have healthy pregnancies after D&Cs or natural miscarriages. It really has been an exception for someone not to have a successful pregnancy after a loss, and often, those who don't are women who unfortunately have never had a successful pregnancy for whatever reason, or those who are older, 40+. I got pregnant with my son 6 months after my D&C. It took a little longer than I would have liked, but my cycles were really off for a few months after the D&C. There is no reason to believe you won't have another child, too, if that's what you want.
I hope everything works out for you, and things will happen naturally!
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on May 23, 2011 22:59:05 GMT -5
I had a D&C with my first m/c and took the pill with my BO the D&C was definately the easier to go through and recover from. I would not advise that anyone take the pill outside a hospital. The bleeding and pain are horrible my Dr. ended up coming to my house and hooking me up to IV. Please take care. I am so sorry you have to go through this. Please keep us updated (((HUGS)))
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Post by carmenivy on May 28, 2011 13:49:57 GMT -5
So sorry for your loss. I was concerned about being alone with my kids as well after I had my miscarriages - this is why I opted to have a d & c done right away after both of my losses. I didn't want to be home alone with my girls and have to be rushed to the e.r. for miscarriage-related bleeding.
I had a miscarriage and a d & c before both of my pregnancies with my sons. So it in no way affected my ability to have children in the future. I trusted my doctor, too, and that helps. Having an awesome doctor that is experienced and sympathetic is a plus.
I hope you are feeling better now, as you may have already had your d & c. Enjoy your kiddos this summer. I know being around my kids and family healed my heart right after my losses.
(((hugs)))
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Post by lyndseycherise on May 31, 2011 20:04:40 GMT -5
Still haven't had the d&c, actually my hcg levels are slowly rising! I don't know what to think anymore, as I am still spotting and passing small dark brown clots which can't be good. I go in for an ultra sound tomorrow hopefully, not sure what exactly is gonna happen next and REALLY REALLY scared. I just want this over!
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Post by mzr on Jun 1, 2011 16:24:07 GMT -5
Good luck tomorrow, lyndsey! It is scary and we are here for you. I just posted to you on your other thread about my experience which was similar in terms of the HCG rising (I didn't have any bleeding though). So, you are not alone. We are all here holding your hand through this difficult process. Thinking of you!
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