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Post by erica1 on May 18, 2011 10:59:39 GMT -5
Hi, I thought that everything was ok with my 8 week pregnancy until I suffered a small amount of bleeding during last week. I went for an early scan and there was no baby, the nurse thought that I had gotten my dates wrong and we counted over and over again, but it did not add up. They have now invited me for a second scan in 2 weeks which I took as a sign of hope, but actually I know that there is no hope left, that it is just a formality. I was completely devastated, sitting outside the hospital I could not stop crying. Two days down the line I still feel so sad. My partner has been very supportive and lovely, although it hit him too. The sadness has no end. I am terrified of going to the second scan, to see the empty black circle again. Any advice on what to do next? Will my body do the rest of the work on it's own or do I need to undergo a medical procedure? If I take the pills (one of the two options they gave me) how much blood will there be? I am terrified of it. Everywhere around me people are giving birth to healthy babies.... Thank you.
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Post by carlsangel on May 18, 2011 12:17:12 GMT -5
Erica, I am so sorry for your loss! I know this is a devastating time:( I can not tell you what is best, but I can tell you what I have been through. My first blighted ovum was 5 years ago...I had 3 healthy babies, so I didn't see it coming either. I decided to miscarry naturally and it took about 2 weeks for my body to realize something was wrong and start to miscarry. That was a really hard two weeks...just knowing I was pregnant, but there would be no baby was just heartbreaking! So, I finally started bleeding and it was pretty heavy for the first few days, then I passed the sac...it was about the size of a large grape and looked kind of fleshy. I was expecting a clear sac like in the pregnancy books, so it kind of surprised me. Once the sac was passed, the bleeding got more like a period and lasted about another week or so. In ended up getting pregnant 2 months later with a healthy baby boy. I went on to have another healthy baby boy, then a chemical pregnancy, then a healthy baby girl.
Just last December, I got pregnant again, but at 8 weeks found out there was no yok sac and the baby didn't have a heartbeat. I was devastated again and decided to wait it out. At about 10 weeks, I started spotting. I thought it was odd because my last miscarriage started pretty heavy and got heavier. The spotting lasted for a few days, then all of the sudden I started hemorrging and had to be rushed in for an emergency D&C. I really didnt want one, but the DR said I would bleed to death or lose my uterus if I didn't get it. Well, The recovery was not too bad with the D&C...I liked the finallity of it, and I didn't have much bleeding after. There wasn't a whole lot of pain either. I gave my body a few months to heal, then we started trying again. I got pregnant in March, and found out it was an ectopic pregnancy and had to have my right tube removed just 2 weeks ago. One thing that I am curious about, is that if my D&C could have caused scar tissue that caused me to have an ectopic pregnancy. I guess I will never know. So, in conclusion, I really can't advise you of the best route to go, there are risks with both, but also benefits to both. With my natural miscarriages, I felt comfortable TTC right away, and with D&C They say you should wait 3 months. I have no experience with the pill, but I dont think I would ever take it because of the risk of hemmorage, but since I have no experience with it, I can't really judge weather it's good to take or not. Maybe you can have them check your HCG levels, to check if they are going up or down. It might give you a better idea of when you will start miscarrying. Again, I am so sorry you are going through this. I promise it does get better. I know what you mean about everyone else having babies... I was in the store the other day, and I swear I saw 20 pregnant women! Nothing can take away the hurt, but be prepared it does come in waves...one minute you will feel like you can handle it, then the next a crying mess. Just take the time to grieve your baby, and maybe plant a tree or find some way do a little memorial...that really helped me. I will be praying for you!**HUGS**
~Hannah~
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Post by carmenivy on May 28, 2011 13:35:35 GMT -5
Erica, I am so sorry that you are having to go through this awful ordeal. How are you doing?
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