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Post by mrswingy on Oct 7, 2010 20:16:33 GMT -5
I saw the doc on 10/1 after some spotting and when they did the ultrasound saw no baby. I was 10.5 weeks then. Had another u/s on the 5th and again saw no baby and the sac measured around 7w5d. I've had maybe a slight amount of pink spotting here or there but nothing to indicate m/c was starting. I'm supposed to go back for another u/s on Mon. and my doc said he's in surgery on Tues if I want a D&C. I'm scared of the mental/physical pain of a natural m/c but I'm a mom of 3 and I'm also terrified something will go wrong with the anesthesia or something if I have a D&C. Scared of both. Any thoughts, anything you've experienced that can help? My husband travels for work a lot this month and I don't want anything to happen while he's gone that I'll be alone with 3 kids through. My bday is also the end of this month and I don't want to m/c on my bday after waiting an entire month for it to happen.
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Post by carlsangel on Oct 7, 2010 20:47:11 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss! I had a natural mc at 7 weeks so I don't know much about the D&C. I hope you are able to make the right decision and be at peace with it. Hugs and prayers!!!
-Hannah-
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Oct 7, 2010 21:35:58 GMT -5
I am so very sorry for your loss. I have m/c naturally, with meds and with D&C and for discomfert and healing the D&C was the easiest for me. It is a personal choice though. Although I would suggest that if you decide to m/c naturally then get some pain meds from your Dr. it will make it more comfertable. Please remember that we are here for you if you need us. You are going through a tough time and we have all been there. Take care. (((HUGS)))
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Post by mrswingy on Oct 8, 2010 7:27:59 GMT -5
Thank you both. I only found out a week ago but it feels like I've been waiting for the m/c to happen for weeks. Doc says he has absolutely no idea when I'll start the process and that gives me no comfort. It really does begin to play mind games with you when you go to the bathroom and think 'am I going to see bleeding?' Or when I get cramps and then nothing happens. I know the sac had started to deform a little from the 1st u/s to the one this week but to know that it could be weeks is just messing with my mind. There's no more hovering rainbow like when I knew my baby was probably in there growing, just a looming black cloud. I really wanted to be able to get pregnant again by the end of the year but now I don't think that's going to happen. I'm just a little lost right now. I'm glad I found this board because I'm with people who've been right where I'm at. It's heartbreaking that we've got this in common - I wish no one had to go thru a loss.
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Post by lfischer on Oct 8, 2010 7:42:43 GMT -5
{{{Hugs}}}
I'm so very sorry. Please know that you have found a wonderful place of support and the women here will help in any way possible.
I chose to have a D&C with my BO. It is something that is definitely a personal choice, but one that was right for me. I needed/wanted physical closure as soon as possible and I needed to start the emotional healing. The D&C itself was very easy. I went in at 11:30 am and left around 3:30. I was under for only a short period of time and did not have a breathing tube or anything like that. I went home and slept for the rest of the day and was able to attend my daughter VB tournament the next day. I was tired and slightly crampy for a few days, but over all I healed very quickly physically.
The most difficult part for me was the hormonal and emotional roller coaster and it was here that I found great support.
Please feel free to pm me if you have any questions or anything at all.
Hugs~
Leah
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Post by justinsmomma on Oct 8, 2010 17:07:54 GMT -5
Hi hun, I am so very sorry for your loss I just had my 3rd D&E on Sept. 16. I was about 11 weeks, but my baby had passed at 8. I waited 3 weeks to miscarry, and all I did was spot a little. The day before my surgery I did bleed more but it didn't amt. to anything. I will admit, I was scared to death of the anesthesia this time around too. However, they give it to you gradually so by the time you get the mask, you are so mellow, you really don't care! I told them to give me the least amt. possible because I am very sensitive to medication. The one thing that bothered me was that they tried to give me more fentanyl (that is what they knocked me out with) immediately after the surgery. I actually had to refuse it, they had already filled it up. I didn't need it, at all. They did give me something to help my uterus contract when leaving the hospital, if they do give you that, be sure to ask for something stronger than motrin. Trust me, that stuff hurts. This was the only time I was given the cramping stuff and the only time I was in a lot of pain. Vicodin helped with that, but I had to go back to the Dr. and suffer another internal and more pressing on my stomach, to get it. HUGS sweetie, we are here if you have more questions. I truly believe the surgery is the way to go, if you have other children to look after. Kris
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