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Post by laylasmom on Sept 5, 2010 17:54:10 GMT -5
I'm new here too, I have on daughter who's 3 1/2 and had no complications. This time we were so excited, but I went in to the first ultrasound my doctor found just the sac, sent me to radiology for another ultrasound and when she called me after that she said they found twins. was one b/o and one sac with a pole but no heartbeat one was 7 weeks the other 8.
Now I'm waiting to miscarry, which is horrible - mostly because I don't really know what to expect and when. My doctor advises if it don't miscarry in the next few days I either get a D/C or some pills inserted and MC at home. I think Im going with the latter as I want to conceive again asap.
I'm having a hard time with just wanting the time to pass faster and wanting it all over - it's hard to carry them knowing its over. I'm thankful I found others in the same situation - I don't feel like many in my family understand how I feel right now.
thanks for the support.
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Post by arkoch on Sept 5, 2010 21:13:37 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for what you are going through. You are not alone and have found a great site full of wonderful women who truely understand. I unfortunately know all too well as I lost 4 babies before I finally was able to concieve my daughter.
As far as what to expect, I've done both, a natural MC and a D&C. The D&C was quick and painless (physically).... but it is advised to wait longer after a D&C before concieving. My natural MC I was lucky and actually miscarried the day it was confirmed. However, I bled for a week prior to it being a confirmed MC. For me the bleeding picked up more like a period, and I started to cramp. the cramps came as waves (like contractions) and for me started about 10 pm. It progressively got worse until it was finally over at 1 AM. You'll pass multiple clots. Remember that if you start bleeding extremely heavy (soaking more than a pad an hour) you need to go to the ER. Take Ibuprofen/Tylenol as soon as the cramps start to help with the pain. For me the pain was bad, but I think the emotional pain was worse.
I hope this wasn't too much information for you, but I wanted you to be informed. Again, I'm so sorry for what you are going through, but please know that you have come to the right place for support. The women on this site have helped me more then they will ever know.
Hugs, Alisha
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Sept 5, 2010 23:26:00 GMT -5
I am so sorry for your loss. It breaks my heart every time someone new has to find us. The ladies on this site have helped me through so much. I have had three m/c one an incomplete (when there is a baby but no hb)that I had a D&C for, a BO that I took the pills for and at least one chemical that was natural. The D&C was the least painless but had the longer recovery and the pills were very painful but recovery was quick. If you decide to go the pill route I can give you more info then as not many ladies on here have gone that route.
I hope that things move along quickly for you. Please come here anytime you need us. (((HUGS)))
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Post by justinsmomma on Sept 6, 2010 8:24:44 GMT -5
Hello laylasmom, I am so sorry for your losses I am waiting on a miscarriage, too, at the moment (almost 2 weeks!!) ;( This is my 4th loss, 3rd 'missed miscarriage'....this baby had a heartbeat...and I have had a D&E with the other two, so I am new to this whole natural miscarriage thing, just like you. I have a appt. on Weds. to discuss options. I will let you know what they say (what I should expect if I continue to wait)...however, I just want this over with, at this point. I am still nauseous and my boobs still hurt I would be 10 weeks Weds. HUGS hun God bless I am here if you need me! Kris
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Post by laylasmom on Sept 6, 2010 10:58:43 GMT -5
Thank you all so much, nothing has happened yet, since its a holiday weekend I've just been hanging around my house. Tomorrow my doctor will call me to schedule me in for whatever I have chosen. Which I think will be the chemically induced one - I really just want it over.
I have another question too - how did you all handle work when you did this? I'm a HS teacher, my boss told me to take the week off - as long as I needed, but in a way sitting around the house seems worse than doing stuff - at least as long as I'm waiting. Any ideas there? How long did you all stay home once the worst was over?
Thanks again - It is so comforting to find understanding beyond the sympathy from my family.
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Post by justinsmomma on Sept 6, 2010 11:08:01 GMT -5
I would definitely take a week off, if you can get it, after the surgery or induced miscarriage. Emotionally and physically you will need it, if for no other reason then to pamper yourself. I took about 3 days off from work, after each loss. It was unpaid for me, or I would have done longer. Big big HUGS and God bless, sorry we have to do this thing together Kris
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Sept 6, 2010 17:37:56 GMT -5
I agree with Kris I would take the week off from the day that you take the pills or book the D&C. Allow yourself a little time it is a very hard thing to go through. Keep us updated on how you are doing. We are all here for you for all the highs and lows of the path we are all on.
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Post by laylasmom on Sept 6, 2010 19:54:40 GMT -5
Thanks, I think you're right. I put in for the whole week off even tomorrow- just because at this point I feel like if the doctor calls me tomorrow and can get me in, i just want to get it started and don't want to have my schedule get in the way. And I do need a little more time to before I see people. What's another day at this point anyway.
Thanks so much for being here. I can't even express what this means.
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Post by justinsmomma on Sept 7, 2010 6:06:10 GMT -5
Big HUGS, please feel free to PM me if you need extra support. I am sitting here waiting for tomorrow, when I finally see the Doc. I do NOT want to feel pregnant anymore Hang in there and God bless! Kris
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Post by lfischer on Sept 7, 2010 7:36:09 GMT -5
{{{Hugs}}}
I am so very sorry for everything that you are going through. As others have said, you have found a wonderful place for support and understanding.
I chose to have a D&C with my lose. However, this is a personal choice for everyone. For me, I needed/wanted physical closure and was already 11 weeks before my BO was discovered.
I would agree that taking some time off is good. I also teach and had my D&C on a Friday and had the weekend to take it easy. The most difficult thing for me was the emotional/hormonal roller coaster.
We are all here for you every step of the way.
Many hugs and prayers~
Leah
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Post by laylasmom on Sept 7, 2010 15:26:39 GMT -5
I'm glad I took the time off, I started bleeding in the middle of the night, so I guess it came naturally, It was a lot of pain at first, but I took some ibruprofin which seems to help. Some clots and stuff but it hasn't been a whole lot yet, seemed to slow down as the day has gone on.
@juntinsmomma - good luck to you today, i'll be thinking of you - hugs.
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Post by justinsmomma on Sept 7, 2010 16:08:27 GMT -5
I started spotting, too Glad to have it all over with (finally) but somehow it makes it more real!! I still have the Dr. appt. tomorrow, I guess I will go anyway incase I need some pain killers or something. Big HUGS hun!! Kris
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Post by arkoch on Sept 7, 2010 21:10:37 GMT -5
I'm glad you've taken the time off work. You'll need it. After one of my M/C's I re-painted our bathroom just to do something other then sit around... yet I had no desire to be at work or really around anyone. I hope that the process moves quickly for you so you can begin to heal emotionally and physically.
Hugs, Alisha
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Post by justinsmomma on Sept 8, 2010 15:33:32 GMT -5
How are you doing today, laylasmom? I went to the Dr. and she said my cervix is still closed No more spotting either I am having a D&E next week... Hope you are OK! HUGS!! Kris
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Post by Tina Jo Young on Sept 8, 2010 22:29:21 GMT -5
Hope you are ok... I know all to well about losts.. I had a BO (D&C), then two natural mc's back to back. I was devasted and thought I would NEVER be a mom..... but I am now almost 25 weeks pregnant with a little girl..........
Please take time for yourself.....and you will heal.......it does get better with time....but you will NEVER 4get....... You are in my thoughts and prayers!
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