Post by bornalion on Aug 10, 2010 13:49:05 GMT -5
Hi,
My name is Sarah and I'm new here. I've been pregnant 3 times and have had 3 losses. The most recent was diagnosed yesterday. I got pregnant in 2005 at 25 years old when I went off the pill for one month (oh how easy it is when you're not trying!). I was diagnosed with a BO at 10 weeks and had a natural MC at 11. Truth be told I never fully understood what a BO was because the doctors didn't really explain it well. They just said that it was bad luck, something wrong with the baby so it died and that it probably wouldn't happen again. After my husband and I got married I drove him crazy with TTC because I wanted to be pregnant again so badly.
After 8 months of trying with no luck I dragged him to a fertility doctor who told me my hormone levels were low and I was unlikely to become pregnant without drugs. I told Clomid for one cycle without success though they told me I had ovulated. The next month DH was preparing for knee surgery and asked for a break from TTC. I agreed and took no drugs though I asked them to do blood work to see if I ovulated on mine own out of curiosity. They said I hadn't so when I missed my period which is very regular it didn't even occur to me I might be pregnant. But after a week of cramping and no AF I did a test and was shocked when it was positive.
But that turned out to be an ectopic pregnancy in my fallopian tube. They gave me Methotrexate to dissolve the tissue but the bleeding and pain just kept getting worse and worse. Finally they took me to emergency surgery because the doctor said my tube had probably ruptured with the amount of pain I was having. When they opened me up they found the tube intact and were able to remove the tissue without taking my tube. But after that I seemed unable to get pregnant again.
I took both losses very hard and didn't deal with them well. It put a terrible strain on my marriage. My husband refused to go back to the fertility doctor saying if it happened, it happened but he didn't want to try anymore. We fought so much about that and other things at one point we actually separated for a while. But we reconciled and I had dropped the whole baby thing. It had been 3 years since the ectopic and I was sure I couldn't get pregnant anymore. Then in May of this year I missed a period and was shocked to get a BFP. I was worried about another MC or ectopic but was very, very excited.
At 7 weeks my doctor told me I had another BO but I kept hoping she was wrong. I had had no spotting, and my hormone levels kept rising. I had terrible morning sickness and tender breasts like I had never had with the other 2 so I was sure this time was different. She agreed to let me give it some time. I hoped that either the baby would show up later or that I would MC naturally like I did the first time, I really didn't want a d & c. My doc went out of town so I've had 4 weeks between appointments and an eternity of waiting. Yesterday I hit 11 weeks and I started to spot and i had terrible cramping.
I went to the ER and they did an ultrasound and confirmed nothing in the sac. They said the sac only measured 7 weeks so even that had stopped growing. They gave me pain meds and sent me home. I wanted to MC on my own but my hormone levels are still high so it may take weeks and after all this time of waiting and being sick already I just want it over with. So I'm going to talk to my doctor about a d & c. I couldn't believe this was happening again. I'm going to be 30 next month but I didn't really think of myself as being too old to have kids but now I really wonder.
I asked my doctor why this keeps happening and she said it wasn't hormonal since all my levels were good, that it must be genetic and there is nothing they can do to fix that. That either there was something wrong with some of my eggs or that my husband and I weren't compatible genetically. She told me that one of her patients had 6 BOs but was now in her 3rd trimester with a pregnancy and that sometimes you just have to keep trying. DH has 2 kids already, beautiful and healthy. All my pregnancies have been with him so I don't know if its just me or something to do with us together. I'm really frustrated by the knowledge that this may keep happening to me and there isn't anything I can do.
Me 29 DH 31
BO 2/06
MC 9/07
BO 8/10
My name is Sarah and I'm new here. I've been pregnant 3 times and have had 3 losses. The most recent was diagnosed yesterday. I got pregnant in 2005 at 25 years old when I went off the pill for one month (oh how easy it is when you're not trying!). I was diagnosed with a BO at 10 weeks and had a natural MC at 11. Truth be told I never fully understood what a BO was because the doctors didn't really explain it well. They just said that it was bad luck, something wrong with the baby so it died and that it probably wouldn't happen again. After my husband and I got married I drove him crazy with TTC because I wanted to be pregnant again so badly.
After 8 months of trying with no luck I dragged him to a fertility doctor who told me my hormone levels were low and I was unlikely to become pregnant without drugs. I told Clomid for one cycle without success though they told me I had ovulated. The next month DH was preparing for knee surgery and asked for a break from TTC. I agreed and took no drugs though I asked them to do blood work to see if I ovulated on mine own out of curiosity. They said I hadn't so when I missed my period which is very regular it didn't even occur to me I might be pregnant. But after a week of cramping and no AF I did a test and was shocked when it was positive.
But that turned out to be an ectopic pregnancy in my fallopian tube. They gave me Methotrexate to dissolve the tissue but the bleeding and pain just kept getting worse and worse. Finally they took me to emergency surgery because the doctor said my tube had probably ruptured with the amount of pain I was having. When they opened me up they found the tube intact and were able to remove the tissue without taking my tube. But after that I seemed unable to get pregnant again.
I took both losses very hard and didn't deal with them well. It put a terrible strain on my marriage. My husband refused to go back to the fertility doctor saying if it happened, it happened but he didn't want to try anymore. We fought so much about that and other things at one point we actually separated for a while. But we reconciled and I had dropped the whole baby thing. It had been 3 years since the ectopic and I was sure I couldn't get pregnant anymore. Then in May of this year I missed a period and was shocked to get a BFP. I was worried about another MC or ectopic but was very, very excited.
At 7 weeks my doctor told me I had another BO but I kept hoping she was wrong. I had had no spotting, and my hormone levels kept rising. I had terrible morning sickness and tender breasts like I had never had with the other 2 so I was sure this time was different. She agreed to let me give it some time. I hoped that either the baby would show up later or that I would MC naturally like I did the first time, I really didn't want a d & c. My doc went out of town so I've had 4 weeks between appointments and an eternity of waiting. Yesterday I hit 11 weeks and I started to spot and i had terrible cramping.
I went to the ER and they did an ultrasound and confirmed nothing in the sac. They said the sac only measured 7 weeks so even that had stopped growing. They gave me pain meds and sent me home. I wanted to MC on my own but my hormone levels are still high so it may take weeks and after all this time of waiting and being sick already I just want it over with. So I'm going to talk to my doctor about a d & c. I couldn't believe this was happening again. I'm going to be 30 next month but I didn't really think of myself as being too old to have kids but now I really wonder.
I asked my doctor why this keeps happening and she said it wasn't hormonal since all my levels were good, that it must be genetic and there is nothing they can do to fix that. That either there was something wrong with some of my eggs or that my husband and I weren't compatible genetically. She told me that one of her patients had 6 BOs but was now in her 3rd trimester with a pregnancy and that sometimes you just have to keep trying. DH has 2 kids already, beautiful and healthy. All my pregnancies have been with him so I don't know if its just me or something to do with us together. I'm really frustrated by the knowledge that this may keep happening to me and there isn't anything I can do.
Me 29 DH 31
BO 2/06
MC 9/07
BO 8/10