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Post by lily09 on Jun 8, 2010 15:09:55 GMT -5
I'm so thankful to find this board. I've been a member of other forums for miscarriage support and infertility boards, but I always felt out of place as there weren't many people who have experienced blighted ovums.
My background: I'm 36, DH is 37. Married 10/2007. No children...yet. Had no problems getting pregnant...just staying pregnant. I had 1 bo 4/2009 at 6wks and 1 bo 7/2009 at 7wks. I've been through major testing - tons of blood work, several ultrasounds, an HSG, and an SIS. My husband also had the genetic blood panel done. What did they find...nothing. The Dr thought it might be a problem with my egg quality. So I was told to come back when I was ready and I'd start on Clomid to hopefully produce a better quality egg. I was all set and the cycle was cancelled because I had a cyst. They put me on bc to shrink the cyst. I was going on a cruise in few weeks after my next cycle, but I was too scared to go through another m/c while on vacation so I put it off a couple more months. So last month after working up the courage to try again, a week before I'm supposed to start taking Clomid, a stupid study comes out linking Clomid to autism. I realize there is just a small chance of it happening, but it was enough to make me reconsider and decide to try one more time on our own without anything other than the prenatals, wheatgrass, royal jelly, and extra folic acid I'm already taking.
We will start trying next week and I'm excited and terrified all at the same time. Reading some of your posts has really given me so much more hope and I really appreciate that. I'd love nothing more than to see/hear a heartbeat for the first time. I look forward to reading more success stories here and hope that I can add my own soon!
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Post by sheryl1976 on Jun 9, 2010 11:22:21 GMT -5
Hi Lily... Sorry to hear about your losses. I just was told I had a B/O on Monday and then told that I would loss it naturally. That night I did and the pain and sadness was horrible. Iam 34 and I just want to be pregnant. I don't want to run out of time. But the doctor say we have to wait at least 3 months or more. They are sending me to a gyno because of my age and that I only have about 3 maybe 4 af's a year so that make it extremely hard to know when you ovulate. And I have a low hormone level that makes ovulation not occur.
I don't blame you for not wanting to take clomid right away. I didn't know about the autism. I wish you all the luck in the world.
I would have to agree about the exited and terrified, I have just had my first loss and it feels like you loss that specialness with your first pregnancy. Then the second one would be a little uneasy feeling. But after reading posts it gives me a little more assurance and faith that things will eventually happen.
I hope everything turns out and you will see/hear that heartbeat in no time. Good luck
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Post by daffylexer on Jun 12, 2010 4:21:20 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your losses and and the struggles you've been through to have a baby. This board is a great place to find support. There are quite a few of us who have had multiple losses for one reason or another so we can fully understand all the heartache and frustration you're facing. Please know we're here for you. Also know that one day you will have your baby.
Big hugs, Alexa
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Post by rocklandk on Jun 12, 2010 10:38:24 GMT -5
Hi, I am going through my second b/o, and I know how painful and horrible it can be. I wanted to ask if you've had your thyroid levels checked? We are thinking I keep having these b/o's because my thyroid level goes way high during pregnancy. Ask your midwife to check your TSH thyroid levels. You might have hypothyroidism, which causes b/o's. Kate
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Post by mzr on Jun 16, 2010 2:57:59 GMT -5
Oh ladies- I am so sorry for your losses. As Alexa said, you have come to a great place for support and friendship.
Lily: it sounds like you have a good attitude about trying "naturally". After my BO in 2006, I had some complications and was told to wait 6 cycles before TTCing. I ended up having accupuncture and got pg "by accident" after 3 cycles (I was charting my cycles so I thought I had already Oed). That pregnancy gave me my beautiful baby boy. I recently had another loss, a chemical pregnancy, in April and have started accupuncture again. I don't know if this is an option for you but I do think it helped not only with getting my body into good form but also getting my mind healthy - my acupuncturist did several points for emotional release too. Also, Alexa recommended a book to me, "The Whole Pregnancy Handbook" by Dr. Joel Evans. It has a lot of good information about holistic approaches to preconception.
Sheryl- like I said to Lily, we were told to wait 6 months but only waited 3 (after 4 months of waiting for AF so 7 months after my BO). I think most doctors suggest waiting several cycles so that you (but mostly they) can "make sure" your cycles are back on track and that you have given yourself a chance to heal emotionally. But you need to do what feels right for you. I am now living in France (we were in the US at the time of our BO) and the doctors here have told me that I don't need to wait at all to TTC after the loss I had in April. Every woman is different and only you and DH can know what feels right for you.
Kate: Are they treating you for hypothyroidism now? I hope that is the answer for you!
I'm hoping and praying for each of you ladies. May you all be holding little ones in your arms soon! And, in the meantime, I hope you find comfort here. We have all been were you are and understand how you feel.
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Post by chasity on Jun 28, 2010 13:55:00 GMT -5
What about MET I was put on MET and got pregnant within a couple of months. Talk to your doc about it.
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Post by shell on Jul 5, 2010 9:14:11 GMT -5
Hi Lily, firstly Im so sorry to hear about your loses, and secondly welcome to the board. Im 41 and joined the board when I was around 37. I know how hard it is for you especially when you have not had any children yet. I was 33 when I had my first b/o but did not really understand what it was all about. I was told it would not happen again. Then in 2005 I tried again in April only to find out it was another b/o. It was very hard to deal with it as you wonder what is wrong with you. I was told that it was just fluke that it happened a second time so bravely I tried again and at 7 weeks had not had any bleeding or anything so stopped worring but when I went for a scan at 8 weeks AGAIN I was told it was ANOTHER b/o. I eventually went for all sorts of blood tests, so did my husband and they all came back as 'normal'.... by that time I was very anxious and started wondering if there was just something wrong that they were not seeing. I waited 10 months before trying again and during that time I joined this forum and the ladies inspired me and helped me get over my fears of trying again. I asked a specialist if I could take baby aspirin and asked if it could help... he told me 'it wont harm you and will only help if help is needed'. Anyway I decided to take it without my normal GP's concent. I fell pregnant but refused to get excited. When I went for my first scan I almost fainted when they said 'baby and heartbeat'. I gave birth to a healthy baby girl who is now 3 years old. Ive now been trying to fall pg for the passed 2 years and finally 2 months ago I fell pg only to find out it is a b/o again. Its really heartbreaking to go through it and sometimes you just want to give up but you have to keep trying. Some women are very lucky and they fall pregnant straight away with no problems but for us on this board its really hard and alot of women are still trying for there first child. I didnt realise how common b/o's were untill I did research and found that its more common that people think and most women still go on to have healthy babies. Im proof... 3 b/o's, healthy pg then another b/o. I hope I have not been 'to' open here with my opinion... I just want you to know that you can go on to have a healthy pg even after having b/o's. xxxx
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