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Post by newlymrsg on Mar 22, 2010 23:29:11 GMT -5
i went for my first prenatal appointment at 10 1/2 weeks and was told it was a blighted ovum.
i'm trying my best to cope with the news, but it's been hard. no one i know has experienced this, so they don't know how to react. people are trying to be positive and telling me to get a second opinion, but i am too afraid of getting my hopes up.
what makes coping for me harder is that i have no cramping and no spotting and my body is still in full blown pregnant mode. none of my symptoms have gone away... and im currently 11 weeks and 2 days. my doc said that with my cervix being as high as it still is, it's unlikely that i will be able to pass it naturally and that i should have a d&c...
i guess what i'd like to know is... has anybody had a similar experience? i've tried to research things for closure... but it seems like people either miscarry sooner or lose their pregnancy symptoms sooner and then miscarry... i just don't know what i should be expecting at this point.
any information would be greatly appreciated...
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Post by lilly77 on Mar 23, 2010 8:39:57 GMT -5
hi there. I just posted my own thread but as my story is slightly similar to you i'll copy it here.. I was 11 weeks and 6 days when I went to the loo and saw some light spotting - I rushed to hospital.. they did a scan and found an empty sac, no baby, no heartbeat and no yolk sac - measuring 5 weeks. I am definite about my dates and there is no way that I could be 7 weeks out. They are making me come in again for a scan on Friday before they officially diagnose me, though they did say they are 99.9% sure it is a m/c. Even though I have been spotting slightly for the last 3 days - i have had no cramping and no big bleed yet, and i still feel pregnant. My tummy is still sticking out a bit, breasts tender and want to urinate all the time. Its so unfair that they body still thinks its pregnant! If at my scan the sac is still there, empty, I would definitely opt for a d&c as after that the pg hormone stops completely and your body can get back to normal.
Hope this helps - and i'm so sorry for your loss too. It is hard. I've not stopped crying since and just want this week to be over. xxx
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Post by Emily on Mar 23, 2010 13:20:33 GMT -5
I found out about my BO at 10 1/2 weeks. My first OB appointment. I was devastated just like you. I personally couldn't wait for my body to take care of things on its own so I had a D&C the next day.
You will hear so often that things will get better, and I believe that the do. I struggle on and off now with loosing my 3rd child. Most of the time I do well, until I see my sister or am around my sister-in-law who has a small baby. It has been since Jan. of this year and my body is getting back to normal. DH and I have decided the best thing for us to to try again as soon as possible for another child.
Know that you are definitely not alone here. It was suggested to me that I write in a special journal all of my feelings, that helped me a lot. I cried a lot. I also found myself a ring that has the word "Faith" on it. I wear this everyday to help remind myself to have faith in God, and that he knows what is best for me at this time.
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Post by newlymrsg on Mar 23, 2010 17:43:59 GMT -5
thank you so much for your responses. i am going to have another ultrasound on tuesday and will have the d&c the following thursday. my family is still hoping that the doctor is wrong (part of me does too of course) but i have faith that everything happens for a reason. if the second shows the same thing as the first, i trust that god had other plans for me and my husband this time around.
i will keep you posted on how things go. thanks again for the support.
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Post by mzr on Mar 24, 2010 8:47:24 GMT -5
I am so sorry you are going through this! The day my BO was confirmed was definitely one of the most devastating days of my life. Like Emily, I couldn't sit around and wait to start m/c naturally because it would have driven me crazy. So I had a D&C. It was hard and I will never forget that day either - the doctor trying to reassure me by telling me that pregnancy losses are actually common (up to 30% of first trimester pregnancies will miscarry) but, in truth, while it helps to know you aren't alone, it doesn't make the pain go away any faster.
Regardless of your decision about whether or not to have a D&C or wait for a m/c, try to be gentle with yourself. Know that it is normal to cry, to be angry, and sometimes to feel numb. We are here for you if you need us. It sounds like you have a lot of faith and I hope that someday soon, you will understand the reason this happened to you - when you are holding your precious little baby in your arms.
Big hugs, Marisa
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Post by jlbbeam on Mar 30, 2010 8:39:12 GMT -5
Mrs. G. Im so sorry for your loss and i hope this site helps and bring comfort to you the way its had for me in the last 4 weeks. I too have had the same experience that you have. It was my first pregnancy, I was due to go to the doc for my first prenatal appt, on march 8th i would have been 8 weeks, but on the 2nd of march I came home and noticed a very light brown in my discharge. I got worried, because my pregg symptoms seem to be vanishing. My bbs werent as sore and i knew that they are supposed to get worse not better. So me and Dh went to the doc the next day.I was only mesauring 5 1/2 weeks. They told me i got the dates wrong maybe, but i knew when i concieved, and this was wrong. They made me come back that friday and checked my hcg levels, with a BO, it takes the body a little time to realize that the sac in empty and the placenta keeps producing the hormnone. My leves did go up, but they should double every few days and mine did not double. They had me come back for another us just to confirm what i already knew. They told me I could opt to wait and have the M/C natural, but becasue of the rising levels, it would prolly take me another 2-3 weeks for m/c to happen naturally. I opted for the medical induced M/C and when you do this you have to return the next day or so for U/S to make sure the uterous is empty, I found this painful. The meds basically make you have contractions, the docs will give you pain med to help. I would prolly never opt to do it medically again. Dont get me wrong this works great for some women, me not so much,. I went back for the us and my uterous was not empty. So they gave me another med to take oral and asked me to come back in 2 days i did this and it still was not empty they made me go in for a D&E that afternoon at the hospital. The D&E only took about 15-20 minutes to complete. They will put you out, and you will This friday will be 3 weeks since my D&E. I felt a little sore and tired after the D&E, but with in a day i really felt ok. No cramping, lots of bleeding but this normal and it tapered off in about a weeks time. Even with a natural m/c i think they still like to check the uterous to make sure you expelled all the products of conception to make sure infection does not set in. I did not really know what to expect, but the ladies i have met on this site are wonderful and have helped me a great deal. I have found so much comfort in this site and the love of the people on this site. You will be in my prayers because you are not alone, i know it feels that way at first but take comfort in all the wonderful people on this site. If you need any thing or have any questions that i can anwser i will please ask.
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Post by newlymrsg on Apr 9, 2010 16:36:12 GMT -5
i just wanted to update you guys... i went in for another ultrasound on the 31st and the sac was still empty. i had the d&c on the 1st of april... i would have been almost 13 weeks. i guess what was weird for me was i had no signs of miscarriage... only very minimal spotting really early on. i am still recovering emotionally, but we want to try again in the next few months. thanks again for the kind words
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Post by mzr on Apr 12, 2010 13:41:20 GMT -5
Thanks for the update. I'm so sorry. I know it feels weird that your body didn't m/c on its own. The placenta can continue to grow and produce pregnancy hormones throughout the first trimester so know that you are not alone. I'm glad that you are recovering physically well from the D&C. The emotional healing definitely takes a lot longer. There will be ups and downs for sure and we are here if you need us.
Take care of yourself. Marisa
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Post by shanney on Apr 13, 2010 17:09:06 GMT -5
Mrs.G I like you never had any symptoms of a misscarrage either of my b/o. I know it feels like a cruel joke like your body just dosn't want to give up the dream. It will get better I just had my second D&C last Wednesday and am still recovering. Make sure you give yourself and your body a break and the TLC that they need. The first time I drove myself to show everyone and myself that I was OK and ended up in the ER. So please be good to yourself and lean on the people around you. I wish I would have found this site after my first B/O but I am glad we have all found a place to give and recieve support.
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Post by janmarie on May 27, 2010 15:07:07 GMT -5
Hi all. Am so relieved to find I am so not alone.
Last nov I had a blighted ovum at 8 weeks. I was at doc today for a 6 week and could only see a sac. I have to go back in a week and have convinced myself it's another.... So petrified. Doc said could be to early to see though? Thoughts?
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Post by Lauren on May 27, 2010 15:22:47 GMT -5
Dear JanMarie, It is definitely early at 6 weeks to see more than a sac. Try to relax and be hopeful for next week. I know it is hard. I just found out I am pregnant again, and have had 3 miscarriages since my daughter was born. It is hard to have faith that it will work, but a wise person on this site had a quote, "we are ready to try again when our fear of not having a child outweighs the fear of losing one." I try to think of that when I am scared. Praying this is the one for you! Lauren
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