Emily
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Post by Emily on Feb 8, 2010 19:24:12 GMT -5
Well, I have been worried about this day for two weeks. I managed to make it through work with out having to deal personally with those here that are insensitive. In fact, they are so insensitive that those who knew what had happened (my boss), didn't even bother to stop by and say hi, or welcome back. Is it a good thing or a bad thing.... don't quite know.
On one hand I am grateful I didn't have to see the man that makes me so incredibly angry, but also angry that he didn't even have the compassion as a boss to make sure his employee is okay. Engineers..... men.... I am going to go home to the men in my life that love me.... My DH and 2 boys.
Thanks for letting me vent.
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Post by carmenivy on Feb 8, 2010 21:33:54 GMT -5
Emily, I'm sorry the men at your job are so insensitive. That's just men, and really most people for you. I think a lot of people just don't know what to say to a woman who has had a miscarriage, so they opt to say nothing at all. Either way, at least you got that first day back out of the way. I hope your work days get easier as time passes.
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Post by justinsmomma on Feb 9, 2010 9:35:59 GMT -5
So sorry, Emily. I think no matter how people react, that first day is hard So sorry for your loss Hang in there and hold your two boys tight! How old are they? Mine are 8 and 4 HUGS Kris
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Post by lfischer on Feb 9, 2010 10:18:43 GMT -5
{{{Emily}}}
I'm so sorry that things were difficult. I hope that things get better as time goes on.
Hug your boys tight!
Hugs~ Leah
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Post by jaimec on Feb 10, 2010 2:33:11 GMT -5
Hi Emily, I have been tied up at wk and missed your first posts. Firstly let me say how sorry I am that you had to find us. This such an awesome supportive board that please feel welcome. I think that that first day is just the worst and it sounds like you did survive. I remember mine so clearly, i was so scared to even speak because i thought i would just burst into tears. As for insensitve bosses, my ward was quiet a couple of weeks later so she chose me as the best person to go work in neonatal intensive care for the day... very appropiate. Bt hey i got thru it and as time goes on so will you. I remeber being flabbergasted at how strong everyone seemed on the board when i had just had my loss. But it does get easier. Until one day you will wake up and its not the first thing you remember. hang on in there. thinking of you. x
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Emily
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Post by Emily on Feb 17, 2010 16:00:38 GMT -5
Thanks so much for your support. Ive been back to work now for about 1.5 weeks. Things are going okay. I have been seeing a famiyl councilor that has helped me learn somethings to protect myself emotionally from the men I work with.
You are so right. Things have gotten better and I can talk about my loss, and I am okay. There are times that I hear preg. women I know talk about how sick they are, and I just want to say "Be greatful you are sick, I would do anything to have morning sickness right now!"
My SIL told me that after a loss you are so greatful for how sick you are. I can't wait to be happy to have morning sickness.
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