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Post by jujima on Jan 25, 2010 19:23:05 GMT -5
Hello All,
On January 17, I went to the ER because of bleeding - and learned that I had a blighted ovum... I was almost 11 weeks along, but the sac measured 5/6 weeks, and the hcg levels were over 4,000.... Why on earth would nothing happen for 6 weeks??? This is very confusing. How far along was everyone here when they realized that it was a blighted ovum?
DH and I are eager to try again... When will my period return? I'm still bleeding - that started on Jan 17 (its now Jan 24) is this normal? I did not have a D&C. is there any way for me to predict when I may get my next period?
Emotionally I am doing much better than earlier last week... This has been a very very difficult week. I want to honor the baby I lost (even if it appeared to be 'no baby' - there WAS a baby, I dont care what anyone says).... Any suggestions on honoring a baby you've lost? I was thinking of maybe getting an angel/baby figurine.... DH suggested planting a tree, but I want something that can feel closer to me....
Anyways, I'm happy there is a group specifically for people who have had a BO.... Support always helps...
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Post by rjsbailey on Jan 25, 2010 20:21:12 GMT -5
jujima,
I'm so very very sorry for your loss. You will find a wonderful supportive group of women here. You are right we have all been through this and for each of us it was a different experience.
I was very eager to try again for a baby because having lost one baby I couldn't feel good or whole again until I was pregnant again. I became very obsessed with it. SOme ladies do get pregnant right away and for others it takes a bit longer. I had a D&C so I'm not to sure about your periods. I know that my doctor wanted me to have at least one period to give my uterus a chance to heal and create a better enviornment for a future pregnancy.
I have honored all of my babies. I have planted rose bushes, I have angle baby figurines and I also have my babies birthstones that I can wear.
It sounds like you have a pretty supportive husband so maybe for him planting a tree is something that the two of you can do together to heal and you can also do something of your own as well.
Please keep us posted and know that we are here for you. There will be good days and bad and although we are so sad to know that you had a situation that had you look for us we are so very happy that you have found us.
Big hugs, Rebecca
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Post by tara on Jan 25, 2010 20:23:48 GMT -5
I am so sorry for your loss. I had 3 u/s to confirm by bo. I was at about 10 1/2 weeks when I decided to get a d & c. My body did not want to naturally bleed and my numbers kept going up so I couldn't wait (I was sick and very emotional). I am sure your doctor will want to see you to make sure everything is ok to try again. My friend just had a natural miscarriage at about 10 weeks and she bleed for about 2 weeks. Everyone is different. After my d & c I got my period about 6 weeks later. My doctor asked that I wait 2 full cycles and then I tried again. I did not get pregnant the first month but I did the second. I am so sorry I know how all the waiting is so hard. As for a way to remember your baby... do or buy whatever feels best to you. An angel would be wonderful or maybe a small charm that you can wear. Sending you hugs. xx Tara
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Post by jujima on Jan 26, 2010 20:42:16 GMT -5
Thank you both for responding - it really is wonderful to have the support.
I am still bleeding - about 10 days now (it has become heavier and I'm cramping a lot....) but I'm hanging in there. Hopefully it wont go past 2 weeks (as it did for your friend, Tara). I'm guessing I should call the doc if it goes farther than that?
I really like the idea of the angel figurines, birthstones and charms - thank you for the wonderful suggestions! It is SOOO nice to see the photos of your children Rebecca (and that you are 23 weeks pregnant Tara!) It is very hopeful for me. Thanks guys!
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Jan 26, 2010 22:00:19 GMT -5
I am sorry for your loss. The other ladies gave great suggestions for remembering your lost little one. I used meds to m/c and bled for over two weeks and it took almost eight weeks to get a regular period again. 7 months after that I finally got my BFP. We all understand your pain and the road you are on even if our paths went slightly different directions so please feel free to post here whenever you need to. (((hugs)))
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Post by lilly77 on Mar 23, 2010 9:00:14 GMT -5
Hi Jujima You have a very similar situation to me! I was 11 weeks and 6 days when I went to the loo and saw some light spotting - I rushed to hospital.. they did a scan and found an empty sac, no baby, no heartbeat and no yolk sac - measuring 5 weeks. I am definite about my dates and there is no way that I could be 7 weeks out. I also wonder why the hell my body carried on for 7 weeks thinking it was pg??
I have not been bleeding alot, more spotting and old blood. I just want it to end so we can ttc again.
I know you posted 2 months ago but if you are still here how are you getting on? xxx
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