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Post by jdc on Oct 28, 2009 19:30:27 GMT -5
I am 32 years old and my husband and I just suffered our second BO (We had one with our first pregnancy six months ago). We have no children (other than the two losses that will forever be children in our hearts). My doctor is telling me that it is rare to have more than one BO in a lifetime, but especially rare to have two in a row. I just had a D&C last Thursday and physically am feeling better, however emotionally I am a mess. Has anyone out there had more than one BO's and then gone on to have a healthy baby? I want to see a heartbeat one day...
Thank you for any help, wisdom, encouragement. My heart goes out to each and every person on this site that has lost a piece of their heart.
Jami
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Post by nicole on Oct 28, 2009 20:39:47 GMT -5
Jami - I'm sorry to hear of your losses. You've come to a great place. It is rare to have more than one BO, but not out of the question. The first one often gets brushed off as bad luck, but when it happens twice, it makes you wonder - what's up? I know all too well what it's like to have multiple losses, BUT I did have DS, and if we had not found success again, I KNEW how blessed we already were.
That being said, I did go onto have a successful pregnancy after SIX failed pregnancies. I was under the care of a reproductive endocrinologist after the second loss. Ultimately, we were blessed with a second miracle last year when our DD came into the world.
Now to answer your question, has anyone gone on to have a healthy baby after two BO's?? - YES!! There is also someone on here that had more than two losses before having success with her first live birth! So, bottom line is don't give up hope!
I would encourage you to request a miscarriage blood panel to check for related conditions (immune, thyroid, clotting, etc.). Your Ob-gyn can order the blood work, but sometimes they give you a hard time until you've had 3 losses. You're the patient and tell them you don't want to face another loss before you have the opportunity to explore possible explanations. If you have any questions, you can send me a 'personal message' by clicking the link at the top of the page!
Hugs, Nicole
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Post by Lauren on Oct 29, 2009 9:44:21 GMT -5
First of all let me say how sad I am for your loss. I know how it feels to have multiple losses, and how unfair it seems.
I have had two BOs, but had my daughter in between them. I then had a 3rd miscarriage last July due to a Trisomy 16 baby that died at 9 weeks. I did have a miscarriage panel done and discovered that I have an immune disorder called Elevated Natural Killer Cells. I do an IV when pregnant once a month called IVIg.
I agree with Nicole that you should insist that your doctor start looking for explanations as to why you are miscarrying before getting pregnant again. It helped me to feel as if I was being pro-active and looking for answers and doing something to protect my next pregnancy. Let me know if I can help you in any way.
Thinking of you, Lauren
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Post by jdc on Oct 29, 2009 19:38:40 GMT -5
I can't thank both of you enough. No one really understands and having others that have gone through similar situations is a huge blessing to me. The best is seeing that you both have kids. That makes me want to cry out of pure excitement for you as well as excitement for our future.
Luckily my Doctor is fantastic and has pushed me forward on doing blood work to try to figure things out now rather than waiting for another loss. I go for my D&C follow-up with him in 1.5 weeks and he will schedule the blood work then. He wants my hormone levels to go back to normal first and said that may take up to 3+ weeks after D&C?
Do either of you know how long it will take for them to tell me the blood result findings? Is it just a few days like any other test? I am very anxious to TTC.
Thank you so much for your response. No one gets it and I'm so happy to have found this site. One week from today is my first due date and I know with all currently going on, it will not be the easiest day. Luckily, I have a new place to look forward to visiting...where everyone "gets it."
Thank you from the bottom of my heart! Jami
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Post by mle24dec on Oct 29, 2009 20:34:02 GMT -5
Jami, I want to welcome you and tell you how sorry I am for your losses. As the others have said, the doctors say it is rare to have 2 bo's but there are many women on here who have had 2 or more. There is a woman who joined the board at the same time as I did and she had 3 bo's. She had started to lose hope when she was blessed with a baby girl. It seems like pregancy should be so easy and natural. For some it is. However, this board is full of women who understand that sometimes it is more difficult than it seems it should be. Please know we are here to support you on your journey. I have found the women here to be absoutely amazing!!! I pray that you get some answers quickly and are blessed with a healthy pregnancy very soon. (((HUGS))) Michelle
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Post by davila43 on Oct 29, 2009 22:46:11 GMT -5
I had a healthy son, then 2 b/o in a row, then the month after my 2nd b/o I conceived my 2nd son. My husband and I decided to try for a daughter last month and I had another b/o...so to me, this is not a coincidence! So I will get blood work done as well.
But it does show that even though I had 2 in a row, I saw my little one's heartbeat on that screen and was soooo happy because I was starting to worry. So I cross my fingers you can conceive. It could be something you can fix such as baby aspirin for clotting, progesterone suppositories, IV's etc.
If/when you find out what may be causing it can you post to the group? It may help others know what to ask their dr. about. I know I will take it into concideration when talking to mine! Good luck
shelly
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Post by justinsmomma on Oct 30, 2009 7:35:31 GMT -5
Hi there, and welcome, I am so very sorry for your losses I have had 3 miscarriages, myself, two blighted ovums, and one chemical. My first pregnancy was a BO (after that I was dx with hypothyroidism, which may or may not have been a factor), then I became pregnant with my son (had to take progesterone in week 5, but other than that, and a little pre-term labor scare at 24 weeks, no problems), then I had my 2nd BO. I received testing and I found out I have a genetic blood clotting disorder. With treatment (Blood Thinners and progesterone pre-conception) I became pregnant with my 2nd son. Then last year I had another loss (surprise pregnancy). I would suggest that you pursue testing, as your Dr. recommended. It will make you feel better to find out nothing's wrong, and if there is, as you can see from the women that have posted, it is most likely treatable. Let us know if you have any questions, and God bless! HUGS Kris
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Post by Lauren on Oct 30, 2009 15:54:34 GMT -5
Dear Jami, If they do genetic testing after a D & C it can take a few weeks to get the results, so be prepared for the wait. If the tests show that the pregnancy was genetically healthy, then you will look for other issues as Kris and Nicole and I have all discussed and then you can take it from there when trying to conceive again. I hope that you are hanging in there. I know that there are good days and bad ones. Let me know if you have any more specific questions. Thinking of you, Lauren
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Post by jaimec on Nov 3, 2009 2:00:33 GMT -5
i am so sorry for your loss. The other ladies have had much better advice than i could hope to give, but just know that i am sorry you had to find us. my thoughts are with you at this time. xx
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Post by jdc on Nov 14, 2009 8:55:00 GMT -5
Thank you for all of your kind words. I just had my post D&C check-up and I had all of the blood work done. I should know the results of the blood in two weeks and the testing from the D&C in about four weeks. As soon as I hear I will be sure to post. I know Shelly had requested knowing to potentially help anyone else going through this. Hopefully something will be found that is an easy fix but my Dr told me not to expect anything. He said around 90% of this testing will show nothing wrong and for us to keep trying. As happy as I am to be back in "did it work this month" and have something to hope for, it kills me that we very well may have to go through this again with no answers. Maybe the third times a charm...
I hope you are all doing well and I thank you for your advice, support, and thoughts during this yucky time. Jami
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Post by daffylexer on Nov 16, 2009 13:35:37 GMT -5
{{{Jami}}} I'm so sorry for your losses, but glad you're getting the blood work done. Even if it doesn't give the answers, you'll be able to rule stuff out, which is always a step in the right direction. I've had 2 losses too, with my son born in between, so don't know what it's like to have them back to back, but to give you hope, my co-worker had 2 b/o's back-to-back and had testing done after her 2nd loss becuase her sister found out she had some issue that prevented he from staying pg. My co-worker thought she might have it too, and sure enough, she did. She was able to be treated for it and now has 2 beautiful daughters. So don't give up the fight, and don't lose hope.
Big hugs, Alexa
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Post by EGeddes (Eryn) on Nov 22, 2009 18:05:33 GMT -5
Jami, I am so sorry for you losses, and there are quite a few women on here that have suffered mulitple losses and went on to have healthy babies. We are here for you my dear and feel free to vent to us whenever you need to. Thinking of you! Eryn
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Post by jdc on Dec 13, 2009 21:09:33 GMT -5
Thank you all so much! We have just received all of our testing back and everything came out "normal." I was really hoping to hear that they found something small that could easily be fixed but instead they patted us on the back and said to just keep trying. My husband and I talked at length about what our next move should be and decided it is okay to try again. I am unable to tell anyone because we are so nervous right now, but i just got a positive pregnancy test this evening!!! With our fingers crossed, we are going down this path again. Third times a charm, right? (we hope!) I wanted to pass this information on, though. I spoke to a high risk pregnancy Dr. that is a friend of my brother-in-laws. He told me that he wished a baby aspirin was in all prenatal vitamins because women need it. I have been now taking a prenatal vitamin (Prenate Elite) each day along with a baby aspirin and now am even taking an extra dose of folic acid (per another OB that said it can not hurt me and could solve the problem). Hopefully with all of these things, this pregnancy will stick! I have been nervously dreading the holidays ahead because I should have an an infant from our 1st B/O (due date was 11/5) or be about 15 weeks pregnant right now from our second B/O. Now, I am so excited for the holidays and look forward to what 2010 will bring us. Maybe this time it will be a healthy little baby!!! Thank you for letting me share. It is always so hard not to shout it to anyone that will listen. We've had a very long year and it is finally looking bright again. Pray for us, please, as I will for each person on this site.
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Post by carmenivy on Dec 13, 2009 21:31:12 GMT -5
I am sorry for your losses. I am waiting for the results of the genetic testing from my most recent miscarriage right now so I know how hard that can be. I'm afraid everything will come back normal, but I want it to be normal at the same time. It doesn't really give you a plan of action, does it? Congratulations on your BFP! All of us here know the excitement an then anguish that comes with a brand new pregnancy. Your innocence is gone, that's for sure. All you have is massive worry. We will all be praying that this little one is the one that will be your baby someday. Please keep us updated.
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Dec 13, 2009 21:36:53 GMT -5
Congrats on your BFP! I know how hard the beginning is. I still worry about our little one all the time. It think there is a part of me just waiting for the other shoe to drop. Hang in there it is possible to have a healthy little one after more than one loss. Keep us posted.
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Post by lfischer on Dec 15, 2009 9:56:03 GMT -5
That is wonderful news!!
I also took extra folic acid before and during my last pregnancy after my BO. I do believe that it made a difference!
Praying that 2010 brings a precious little bundle your way!
Leah
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Post by cheri on Dec 17, 2009 15:29:37 GMT -5
I hope everything work out for you! Just wanted to say that there are many women here with 2 BO in a row.
I had two in a row and went on to have a healthy DD at 40!
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Post by justinsmomma on Dec 17, 2009 15:32:57 GMT -5
Third time is definitely the charm! Will pray for you, and hope for the best!!
Big HUGS
Kris
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Post by jdc on Dec 30, 2009 11:20:04 GMT -5
Thank you for all of the prayers! I am at the beginning of my 7th week today and have my first sonogram next Monday. I go back and forth all day, each day with fear and excitement. My husband made a good point - at some point our luck has to change! Hopefully this is our time. I am praying for all of you and am grateful for the prayers and support given. Hopefully, my next update will be fantastic news. I'm hoping that 2010 is a great year for all of us! With love, Jami
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Dec 30, 2009 12:34:21 GMT -5
Keep us updated on how you and your bean are doing. Sending tons of sticky dust your way.
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Post by daffylexer on Dec 30, 2009 13:07:06 GMT -5
How did I miss this? Congratulations! I'm so happy for you and am looking forward to hearing about your u/s next week.
Alexa
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Post by jdc on Jan 4, 2010 18:24:24 GMT -5
We had our appointment today and we finally saw our baby and a nice, strong heartbeat!!! We are over the moon. Thank you so much for all of your support and prayers during this difficult time for me. We still have a few weeks until we are out of the woods, but seeing that heart beating was the most satisfying feeling I've ever experienced. I will continue to say lots of prayers for all of you and anyone else that has a reason to find this site. Thank you for being a place to feel "normal."
Love, Jami and her little gummybear
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Jan 4, 2010 20:19:00 GMT -5
There is nothing like that sense of relief that overtakes you when you see that flicker. Keep us updated on how you and your gummybear are doing.
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Post by jdc on Jan 31, 2010 9:11:43 GMT -5
Congratulations on the birth of Hayden! How blessed you must feel!!! I am happy to report that we are one week away from the beginning of our second trimester and could not be happier! I feel terrible and am loving every second of it. It is so amazing to know, after all we've been through, that this little baby is growing strong. We've been fortunate enough to have a sonogram each week of this trimester to help calm our nerves - one week with a high risk Dr and the next with our regular OBGYN, and so on and so forth. It has helped to make the time fly and to keep us calm through these scary weeks. I will keep everyone posted on how things progress. Hugs and prayers to you all!!!
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Jan 31, 2010 11:07:20 GMT -5
So glad to hear everything is going well with you and your bean. Keep us updated we all love hearing happy endings.
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Post by maya on Apr 28, 2010 14:00:33 GMT -5
I'm glad to read that after multiple B/O couples still have kids. I hope and pray for you that everything will be just perfect with this baby. I just had my 3rd B/O in a period of 1 year (first was in March 2009, 2nd in October 2009). Next month we are going to the genetic and blood testing and we are hoping that whatever is causing this can be treated. Keep fingers crossed and we will update you because there are not many sites like this and couples must know what to expect especially in a desperate situation like this one.
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Post by mzr on Apr 29, 2010 6:35:54 GMT -5
Maya- I am sorry for your losses. Definitely do not loose hope! There are several women on this site with similar histories to yours and they are now pg or holding their little ones with joy. I hope you get the answers with your testing. Keep us posted!
Big hugs, Marisa
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Post by justinsmomma on Apr 29, 2010 6:57:14 GMT -5
YAY best of luck to you Jami! Hi Maya, so sorry for your losses I have been through all the testing if you have any questions...after three losses, I have two beautiful children. So with help, it's very possible to obtain your dream Lots of love and HUGS to all Kris
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Post by tigira on Apr 29, 2010 14:59:40 GMT -5
Maya, I'm so sorry for your losses. I wish I had more than cyber-hugs and condolences to offer. So many of these other ladies had much more to offer, though. (I think I might start adding a baby aspirin to my regimen, now, since I know my platelet count is always at the high end of normal or over the normal range).
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Post by maya on Apr 30, 2010 4:56:46 GMT -5
Thnx! ;D I have not lost hope at all, can say I'm even calmer than last 2 tries, weird but good. Also thnx to you and what I have read here. I've been taking 50 mg acetylsalicylic acid (pills in the same group as baby aspirin) for 1,5 month before this pg. Guess didn't helped this time. I will inform you about the results.
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