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Post by claremc on Apr 30, 2007 11:53:08 GMT -5
I started brown spotting on thursday and then dark red blood today (alot more of it) I am just wondering how long it is going to take? I should be 10 weeks and 1 day today. Will I definatley pass the sac? Im wondering if I should go into work tomorrow, or if it will just be like af. Please could you let me know your experiences.
Also do you think I need to go to the hospital or just wait it out? The doctor has already confirmed that I will miscarry soon, Im just wondering?
Thanks Claire. X
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Post by carmenivy on Apr 30, 2007 12:46:00 GMT -5
You have to pass the sac before the miscarriage is complete, but you may not be able to tell for sure when. Based on what I have heard from other women on here (I had a d & c), it's heavier than a period, especially if you were 10 weeks, so I would stay home. It would really depend on whether you have to stand for long periods at you job and have few restroom breaks, because if that were the case, I would say to definately stay home. Good luck, I hope everything goes ok. If the doctor did not tell you to go to a hospital when the miscarriage starts, I wouldn'y worry unless you are soaking more than one pad in an hour. I would call him, however, if you are concerned at all.
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Post by daffylexer on Apr 30, 2007 13:02:29 GMT -5
Hi Claire, If you're going through a maxi pad every 30-60 minutes, then go to the ER. Don't drive yourself -- get someone else to or call 911. Chances are you won't need to go, but it's good to be prepared just in case. It does sound to me as if the m/c is starting. For me, I never would have made it through work if it had happened on a weekday. However, I was over at a friends house the day it happened and knew it was time to go home because the contractions were coming more frequently. About an hour later they were 2 minutes apart and lasted a minute each for the next 4 hours. That was the climax of my m/c, which happened 3 days after I started bleeding something other than brown spotting.
The day before I m/c I didn't feel like going to work. I didn't feel bad, I didn't feel good; I just didn't feel right. I went anyway knowing that I'd leave early. I didn't want to waste the vacation day. If the next day had been a work day I would have called in sick. I think you need to decide what feels most comfortable for you. Please make sure you have a good painkiller on hand in case you need it. I had hydracodone prescribed, and that took the edge off only an hour after I took it. My one regret is that I didn't have it on hand to take the moment the contractions became bad. After the contractions stopped, it was just like AF, with some mild cramping. The bleeding stopped 4 days later.
I've heard that some women reabsorb the sac, but I'm not sure if they were earlier along than you. I was about 6w when my b/o was confirmed, and I did pass the sack. It wasn't scarey the way I thought it would be. It looked like a prune (the placenta) and a red-to pink-to-white string attached (my sack had collapsed completly, hence it looking like a string). I thought I had passed it on Sunday, but it actually didn't pass until Tuesday. It had detached itself from me, so the contractions stopped. It didn't hurt when it passed. It just slid out. And there was no blood when it did. The crappy thing is that I was able to feel it separate from my uterus during the m/c. Those were the 2 worse contractions.
I hope this doesn't make the experience sound scarey. It really wasn't. If anything, it was euphoric after the worse was over. I can't explain it. I just felt very positive about the whole experience, like if I could face this, I could face anything God or whatever higher powers exist put in front of me.
I'll be thinking of you and sending out good vibes to help give you strength through this. I know you'll be okay. Feel free to PM me if you feel like it.
{{{{Claire}}}}
Alexa
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Post by lfischer on Apr 30, 2007 13:06:13 GMT -5
(((Claire)))
I am so sorry that you are going through this. It is very difficult to day how long the m/c will take to happen. I was diagnosed at exactly 10 weeks with a BO - I had started spotting brown the day before. My m/c started the day after the diagnosis. However, I went ahead with the D&C that was already scheduled for the following day. I know at the time I began to have some very uncomfortable cramping and I started to pass tissue. I did not pass the sac, though. That was taken care of during the D&C.
Each person has had a different experience. Please make sure that someone is with you and that you are not alone. Some of the women have had difficulty with hemorraging and had to go to the hospital. I don't want to scare you - just prepare you.
Please take care of yourself and let us know how you are doing.
Many hugs to you!~
Leah
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Post by daffylexer on Apr 30, 2007 13:07:50 GMT -5
Claire, I forgot to add that between the Wednesday the bleeding started and the day I m/c my cramps were growing more and more intense. They came in waves and I didn't really think of them as contractions until I was able to time them. If you're having intense cramps that are coming every hour or so or less, then stay home from work. I know, it's a hard judgement call, but if you have contractions like mine and you hit the climax while working, you won't be in any condition to drive yourself home.
Alexa
Alexa
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Post by kathmlm on Apr 30, 2007 14:35:52 GMT -5
Hi Claire,
First of all, I am sorry you have to go through this. Please take care of yourself, my thoughts are with you.
To answer your question, I would stay at home. I was diagnosed with a BO at almost 12 weeks and I was scheduled for a D & C, but had miscarriage at home before my appointment. I was so glad it was at home because there was no way I could do it at work and I have a desk job. It was not like a normal AF, it was more bleeding and it included cramping. It wasn't horrible, but the last place I would have wanted to be was in a public bathroom. I was glad to be in the privacy of my home with my DH home with me.
So if you're starting to bleed red, I'd suspect your mc is starting. I would stay home and also have someone (DH or a relative) stay with you just in case you lose a lot of blood and need to go to the hospital. It probably won't happen, but better safe than sorry.
And if the miscarriage doesn't progress, I would consider a D & C. Often docs recommend them if you're that far along anyway. I ended up having the D & C the day after I miscarried at home because I was so far along and my docs wanted to make sure everthing was out. I don't think I passed the sac at home, but I'm not sure.
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Post by claremc on Apr 30, 2007 14:43:55 GMT -5
Thanks ladies Alexa, how far on where you when you eventually miscarried? Im also wondering if I will definatley have contractions? Im so scared of this. I just want to get it over and done with. I am a teacher and really dread the though of passing lots of blood infront of the students. I just dont want to take anymore time off.I will just go home when it gets bad. Thanks again Claire
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Post by kathmlm on Apr 30, 2007 17:01:26 GMT -5
Hi Claire,
I'm sorry you're afraid, it is a natural feeling. I did have mild contractions with my mc, but it wasn't anything as intense as labor. Perhaps you might consider a D & C for closure. It is a very simple, painless procedure. It's one way to get the physical aspect of mc over, of course you still have to deal with the emotional aspect. Please hang in there.
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Post by daffylexer on Apr 30, 2007 17:47:44 GMT -5
Hi Claire, I was close to 8 weeks when I m/c. Chances are you won't gush blood so dont' worry about what your students might see. It will probalby be much like a heavy AF. Mine was heavier than AF, but I've had worse AF's than what my m/c was. For me, the contractions were bad, but I've had bad cramps that were just as debilitating. The contractions were different from cramps in that it felt like something was being pushed out of my cervix once the worse of it started. I will say this. I am a wuss. I hate pain. When I get a filling, the doctor has to drug me up. I tell every new doctor I have that I have a high tolerance to pain killers (which is true) and usually need twice the amount a normal person does, and yet if I am ever faced with this situation again I'll choose to go natural if possible. M/c is a scarey thing to face, but when it was over I realized I was more scared of what I imagined it would be like than I was of the actual m/c when it finally started in earnest. Honostly, once the contractions really started, I wasn't nervous or scared at all. It was just something that I had to go through to get to my next step -- ttc'ing again. If you find, however, that doing the D&C might be easier, than talk to your doctor about it. Since the m/c I've found it's been much easier for me to move on emotionally. With a D&C you might get to that point faster than waiting it out. In the end though, make the decision that's best for you.
I'm sending out good thoughts that you get through this with as much emtional and physical ease as possible.
Big hugs, Alexa
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Post by boots on Apr 30, 2007 19:14:57 GMT -5
Hi Claire, I'm sorry you are going thru this. My m/c that was at 12 wks starting with cramping that got much worse. I did work the day of cramping, but in the very early morning the next day it got much worse and I went to the ER. I must say that even tho the cramping was very bad, no blood came out until I sat on the toilet. TMI I'm sure, that's why we ask questions, right? Once I got to the hospital it was the same. Lots of blood but controlled so to speak for me. It was only when the idiot ER dr decided to take an internal look that he freaked b/c I was bleeding so much he called for a bucket. What did he expect? ? I ended up staying in with major blood loss and having an eventual D&C while in there. Not fun at all before the D&C. So others will have different experiences, but I must say that of all my losses, the one that was the farthest along (12 wks) was the worst. The others were either D&C (8 wks) or like AF (7 wks and 5 wks). I really feel for you and know the uncertainly that you are feeling. Don't be afraid to make a trip to the ER as soon as you don't feel comfortable with what is happening. Take care and hugs to you. Barb
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Post by carmenivy on Apr 30, 2007 20:37:33 GMT -5
Is there anyone at your school who could be kind of like an on-call emergency sub? I work at a school as a para educator intern and I have had to do this when a teacher goes home sick. I would make sure your principal knows what is going on, and that you might need to leave suddenly. This is the kind of thing I worry about when I finish school and I become a teacher, though, because every school is different. My school was very understandingwhen I had to take half a week off, but I had the whole week of spring break to recover, too. I hope yours is understanding and that you work with sensitive people.
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Post by brbsmiley on May 1, 2007 1:23:29 GMT -5
Claire,
I had a natural m/c at home by myself. Although I did not have tons of bleeding, there is a possibility of it. The drs will tell you not to go to hospital unless hemorraghing (sp?) but if you feel bad go anyway. I had extreme pain and the contractions were terrible. I had two labors with no medication, this was worse. Everyone is different. You will know when it is coming. You may feel tired and not in the mood to talk to others you will have discomfort and feel light cramping that will progress. It could take hours so I agree to have a person Dh preferably to be there in case you need to go in and being at work would not be the best place for you. Physically it takes a lot out of you and it will be an emotional time as it progresses. The best thing to be is informed and prepared. I'm sorry that you have to go through this! Get some rest and be sure to keep hydrated. My thoughts and prayers go out to you. Please keep us posted so we can help you through this. B
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Post by jennygrl84 on May 3, 2007 13:05:32 GMT -5
I was diagnosed with a b/o at 9 weeks and miscarried 3 weeks later. I dont wanna scare you but, I had it pretty bad. The first few days I had brown spotting. All of a sudden , the day after that, I woke up and was passing clots the size of golf balls. I was only about 120 pounds, so it came as a huge shock and made me feel very weak. I say, if you can stay home do it!!! You never know whats gonna happen. It's different for everyone. When people told me, ''it's like a heavy period" , I got so mad!!! I also, the doctor told me after I explained, had actual contractions and labor pains with each passing clot on the first day.
also, I was on percocet, which didn't put a dent in the pain. again I don' t want to scare you but, I also don't want you to be totally surprised by what could happen. I wish someone would have told me what happened to me was going to be more than a heavy period.
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Post by marisofparis on Jun 1, 2011 10:37:29 GMT -5
I totally agree with jennygrl84 in that I wish someone had told me that miscarrying at home would be similar to having a very heavy period. I wish!
I began spotting during week 11 of my pregnancy & had an emergency ultrasound showing that the embryo had ceased growing @ 7 weeks. I did originally schedule a d&c but after some research & discussion with my midwife I cancelled the procedure in favor of miscarrying @ home. I had figured I was already quite far along in the process after day 2 but I was very wrong. I had a few days of not-too-heavy bleeding, mostly brown & controlled the pain mostly with ibuprofen & keeping busy/moving around. On night 5 the contractions came in with a vengence. I took 4 200mg ibuprofen when the pain began and they did absolutely nothing to help with the pain. I sat on the toilet grabbing my husbands arms while I passed what looked like a few handfuls of.... stuff. I didn't get a good look because the pain was so blinding and my husband didn't want me to look so he quickly flushed after I passed tissue or what have you. The whole thing lasted about an hour or so. It was horrible. I figured at this poing that that was that and it would all be healing from there on out. Not really. The following two nights I had more contractions with heavy bleeding and more passing of tissue & clots. Not as horrible as night 5 but still pretty bad. Again, ibuprofen did nothing to help. Hot baths did help but I didn't like being in the water with stuff passing. I'm now on day 8 since the diagnosis of b/o and I am still bleeding fairly moderately, very red blood. The pain is not very bad and I hope, hope, hope I don't have anything more to pass aside from blood.
My feelings are all over the place and I have questioned whether miscarrying at home was really the best idea. The pain was so far beyond what I was expecting and I am a bit miffed that the midwives only recommended iburofen for pain relief. It was NOTHING like a horrible period. I am not fond of hospitals or going under anesthesia and that is why I did not go thru with the d&c. If you have a very high threshold for pain (and maybe have some proper narcotics), go ahead and good luck. If not, just go for the d&c and start your healing earlier.
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Post by mzr on Jun 1, 2011 16:16:41 GMT -5
Sorry for your loss, Marisofparis. And sorry that you had such a difficult time physically. I am glad you have found this site and I hope that you are able to find some support thru this difficult time. It sounds like now you are finally on the road to healing physically. The emotional wounds can take longer. If you need us we are here for you.
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