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Post by roseprincess on Nov 3, 2005 9:21:23 GMT -5
I am still learning about blighted ovum, I was 9 weeks pregnant when I was told last thursday they couldn't find a baby. They did a D&C on Monday (Halloween), so I had to get my sister to take my other kids 8, 6, 1 1/2 trick or treating. Anyway about 7 years ago I had another miscarriage and it helped to name that baby. My question is was there actually a baby this time, and would it help to name it if there wasn't. I am still kind of confused by all this. Thank you for your help.
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Post by gobigred on Nov 3, 2005 10:36:14 GMT -5
Roseprincess:
So sorry you had to find us. I think you need to do what makes you feel best. Did they ask you before your D&C what you wanted done with the remains? Mine were buried with the remains of other D&C's done at a local cemetery. If you did something like that, maybe you can go visit there and that will help with some closure. Some of this sounds a bit morbid, but I thought I should ask. I know several women here refer to their BO's as angel babies. I like that! Again, do what is best for you, and give your other three darlings the love I know you want to give the babies you lost. I love my two boys, but after my BO, I had the kind of love for them that almost burns you up. I thank God for them and it makes you realize what an amazing thing it is to bring a life into this world. Best of luck to you.
Nancy
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Post by andee on Nov 3, 2005 10:47:21 GMT -5
I had nothing to show for my b/o.I wanted something to make her more personal.I named her.She would have been a child to us and for her short time here she was.She isn't any less importnant than any of the other kids.If you want to name her/him then do.I didn't know mine was a girl.I just felt it.I am sorry for your loss.A b/o is confusing.I wasn't asked about the remains.I was really early on.The nurse just took the clots and threw them in the garbage.It haunts me to this day.I don't know what i could have done differently but It still is disturbing to me.The only evidence I saw was a small gray bubble on one of the clots.
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Post by roseprincess on Nov 3, 2005 10:58:39 GMT -5
Thank you all for your support. No the hospital did not ask me about any remains. With my first miscarriage I really felt it was a girl, with this one, I am really not sure. Maybe I should choose a unisex name. Also, I had another question, the hospital told me not to take a bath for 2 weeks, is there a reason? I don't have a shower, and sponge baths are kind of annoying. Thanks again for your help!
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Post by andee on Nov 3, 2005 11:10:19 GMT -5
Possible risk of infection.After I had all my kids I wasn't supposed to.I don't remember the time limit but was told that was why.I gave my b/o a unisex name Ashlin Terry.Just in case if I was wrong about the "girl" part.
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Post by andee on Nov 3, 2005 11:17:57 GMT -5
After having my babies I was told not to drive for two weeks.However I don't remember being told that after my b/o?I m/c naturally and didn't have a d&c or d&e.I went on to have two more healthy kids and one healthy kid before the b/o. Alec 5 1/2, Ashlin my little angel baby,Nathan 3 1/2, Allison 2 1/2.
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Post by gobigred on Nov 3, 2005 11:50:09 GMT -5
Rosepricess:
I believe it is due to risk of infection, and I would take it seriously. Maybe you could get one of those attachments that go on your tub faucet that is like a hand sprayer. Good luck.
Nancy
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Post by katiel on Nov 3, 2005 11:51:10 GMT -5
Roseprincess,
I'm sorry for your loss, but I'm glad that you found us. The ladies here are so helpful. I had a d&c also. The hospital never asked me about remains either. My husband and I never talked about naming our angel baby, but I always felt that it was a boy. I think of him as Aiden. You should do whatever you feel is right for you. If it helps you, then it's the right thing to do.
Hugs, Katie
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Post by kurby68 on Nov 3, 2005 12:45:41 GMT -5
Allison
I am so sorry for what you have been through. According to my dr you were really pregnant and there was a baby but it stopped forming very soon after conception and that is why they do not find anything. I prefer to believe that there was a baby and I feel that mine was a boy.
As far as bathing I am guessing that there is a risck of infection due to the D&C. I would try to get a sprayer as Nancy suggested.
Please know that there are a lot of women here that have been where you are and they are very ccaring and are here for you.
((((hugs)))))
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Post by tayvt on Nov 3, 2005 17:21:33 GMT -5
Hi Roseprincess,
I too had a D&C recently for a blighted ovum. Many have tried to comfort me in saying there never really was a baby, but honestly that hurts in way they just can't understand. There was a baby for me when the HPT showed 2 lines. I thinking naming it would be very appropriate if you think it will help me heal. I have had many irrational or "outthere" feeling (according to others), but are all part of the healing process for me. If you want more info on blighted ovums I would google it, the facts and staying informed have helped me feel more in control of a situation that is sadly uncontrollable. I'm thinking of you, take care of yourself. Lauren
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Post by vernkatherine on Nov 3, 2005 19:17:04 GMT -5
I absolutely believe there was a baby and it stopped forming for whatever reason. And my dr told me that too. People say "well it wasn't really a baby" because they think it will make you feel better - but it doesn't. I don't think they mean harm, they're trying to rationalize it but it's not able to be rationalized. I'm sorry you're having to go through this and please ask any questions. I can't help with the D&C info because I miscarried both my BOs naturally.
You're in my thoughts & prayers!
Katherine
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Post by mamabear on Nov 3, 2005 20:41:25 GMT -5
Hi Roseprincess, So sorry to have to meet you like this, but welcome. I had my post op exam today (D&C was 10-07-05) I was never told anything about a bath, but I was sent home with a Rx for major antibiotics. BUT YES I mimic all those wonderful ladies who have already answered... There was a baby. I am leaving the site now to google all these blood tests that they ran on me&DH today, we are trying to see if there are any answers for us. I have chosen to believe that my babies are in heaven with all their family members that most I have never met and they are watching over their little brother, that God allowed me to keep on earth. Does that help? I hope so. Mamabear
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