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Post by tayvt on Oct 21, 2005 17:21:25 GMT -5
I was supposed to be 7w2d, we were told today at the ultrasound the large gestational sac was empty. I go in for the D & C on Monday. What can I expect?
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Post by kurby68 on Oct 21, 2005 18:35:00 GMT -5
Tayvt
I am so sorry that you did not get very good news today at your u/s. I personally m/c naturally but there are many women here that have.
I do want to welcome you and let you know that you have come to a place where we have all been through what you are going through. Feel free to ask anything and vent as much as you'd like.
Take care
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Post by mamabear on Oct 21, 2005 22:44:02 GMT -5
I am sorry that you had to find this site. Everyone here is very wonderful and understanding. My D&C was 10-07-05.They gave me alot of "relaxers" before hand and of course on an empty stomach, the effect was rather quick. The surgery was over in about 20 minutes. I was sent home with pain pills/ antibiotics and told the bleeding/cramping would be like a "Bad" period. The pain wasn't as bad as I thought and probably mini pads would work ok. 2 weeks later I still have some bleeding, but have been told some do for a month or until their next cycle. I am sorry if I am being too graphic or blunt. I don't mean to be as this is a painful time and emotions are raw. We all have different experiences here with the same common issue. But someone told me their truth about the D&C and that helped me prepare as I am a world class wimp with pain. Emotionally, let's chat about it, when you are ready... You will be reading some heavy duty venting and believe me it helps so much to be with these ladies. But Honestly physically, for me this was the only option. MY body was telling me 11wks preg and I was looking like it... My baby was about 5 wks. I had done the medication route before and having never experienced true labor, think that was the closest I will ever come, and DONOT want that pain again. Also even after the medication, it did not go well for us. I hope I have helped and not created any more hurt. Again, so very, very sorry to see yet another new person here, but welcome and I hope you will be able to find everything you are looking for. Mamabear
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Post by thurese on Oct 21, 2005 22:46:30 GMT -5
Dear Tayvt, So sorry to hear about your loss. You have found a good place to come and vent. I had my D & C on July 5. It isn't too bad but a couple things I can give you a heads up on. They will make you sign paperwork about the "products of conception". I freaked out because I wasn't aware of that paperwork. Also, be sure and buy some throat lozenges for after. Your throat will be very sore if they use the breathing tube. Lastly, I didn't have any pain and only minor bleeding. I am not sure if that is the typical scenario but that's how mine went down. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. It really isn't that bad and many people have posted that it actually turns out to be a kind of like closure. Take care, Thurese
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Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on Oct 22, 2005 0:23:56 GMT -5
I was 11 weeks also...and I didn't think the procedure was bad at all. I was in first thing in the morning and out by 2pm. I did have a sore throat, and ended up with a bruise on the inside of my mouth where I must have bit myself because of the tube, but it didn't really hurt much. The pain afterwards wasn't bad, the worst part was peeing for the first time, which they make you do before leaving. It stung that first time, but not bad otherwise. It hurt a little when I sat, kind of like I was a bit raw. I was kind of a mess, but could totally have gone back to work the next day (mentally, it was hard, but this gave me closure).
My friend actually went out of town the night of hers and drove herself home from the hospital...which I wouldn't recommend but she was able to get around fine.
I could have even done without the pain pills afterwards I think, it just really wasn't as major as it felt emotionally. I'm glad I did it though because I think I got past that hurdle and emotionally healed a lot. Up until then everything was kind of "unkown" and scary. I got AF 6 weeks later, but the next three were heavy one time, light another, the 2nd one went on for 14 days on and off. I was told it can take awhile to get regular. We were told we could ttc after the third AF. We did, and our son was born 9 months later. I tell you this, because I want you to know that there is hope on the horizon. For me, where you are now felt like a deadend, but it wasn't. I still felt less than kind when I saw pregnant women, but every day some of that bitterness left me.
***hugs**Let us know how you do.
Lin
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Post by justinsmomma on Oct 22, 2005 1:09:08 GMT -5
Tayvt
I am so sorry for your loss. I had a D&E which is different than the type of surgery you are having but I found it painless and mercifully quick. My 2nd b/o was at 11.5 weeks. :0(
Big HUGS we are here for you sweetie. Hope your surgery is painfree and uneventful and you are on the road to recovery, both physically and mentally ASAP.
Kris
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Post by Charlotte on Oct 22, 2005 8:45:32 GMT -5
Tayvt, I am so sorry that you had to find this site but, let me tell you-you are at the right place. There is a lot of support here from these women. We all have a common ground to speak from. Please feel free to post as much or as little as you need and about whatever you need to talk about. I am truly sorry for your loss. Take care and keep us updated.
Charlotte
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Post by andee on Oct 22, 2005 10:15:48 GMT -5
I am sorry for your loss also.I didn't have a D&C.I started m/c on my own and then was put on Methergine to finish expelling the stuff.I m/c may,11 2001 and went on to have a boy june 14,2002 and a girl July 30,2003.I also had a boy January 5,2000.Point is though it happened it DOES not always mean it will again.I still think of my angel baby even to this day.The pain eases with time.The love will always be there.
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Post by rae on Oct 22, 2005 10:55:14 GMT -5
I am also sorry for your loss...I had my d&c on 10/18. The procedure was scheduled for 12 noon at the hospital and I had to be there by 10:30a. They did preliminary stuff, got me situated, and tried to make me as comfortable as possible. The staff who were going to be present and assist during the procedure came in and spoke to us, answering any last minute questions. At 12:15 I was headed to the operating room and in recovery by 1pm. We left the hospital at about 1:30pm to return home. I felt fine the first day as I probably still had the anesthesia in my system. I have had no bleeding and very little spotting. My throat still hurts a bit from the breathing tube that is required. At the end of the day I have noticed that I have minor cramps possibly due to exhaustion. I haven't had to use any of the pain meds that were prescribed. This was my 2nd d&c (and hopefully my last). My first one was Nov 2001. Both of the experiences were similar with not much pain or bleeding, but emotionally very difficult.
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Post by Egirl on Oct 22, 2005 11:31:17 GMT -5
tayvt ~
Am very sorry for your situation. I found out I was PG in June, BO at 8 weeks, and opted for a D&C. The surgery went very well. I was spoken to by the nurse and my Dr. in regards to what to expect from the surgery. (MY OB is awesome.) They took me into the operating room, gave me the anethesic in my I.V. and said "Good night Erin." It seemed like 1 second later I was awake and coherent!!! Amazing. I had a bit of a sore throat and some minor lower back cramps. Nothing bad. They gave me over the counter pain meds and I was able to go home within 1 hour or less of the surgery. I slept all day and most of the evening. The next morning I was myself again. Bled for about 1 and 1/2 weeks (not heavy). Four weeks later I had a normal period.
Of course, this is different for everyone, but it went smooth for me, and I'm sure it will for you. The women here are WONDERFUL and will give you all the support you need. :-) Come here anytime for support or advice.
Keep in touch with us. Let us know how you're doing.
Take care...HUGS!! Erin
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Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on Oct 23, 2005 20:55:10 GMT -5
I'll say a prayer for you tomorrow, let us know how you are.
**hugs**
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Post by kurby68 on Oct 24, 2005 7:08:31 GMT -5
tayvt
Good luck today and know that you are being thought of.
Rae welcome and I am sorry for your recent loss as well.
Take care
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Post by gobigred on Oct 24, 2005 10:34:20 GMT -5
I am thinking of you today. My d& C was at the end of June. It really wasn't bad at all. Even if you feel pretty good after, take a few days to really relax. I think that is why I recovered so well. I slept a lot and felt much more like getting back into the routine of things after a couple of days. Best wishes to you.
Nancy (((hugs)))
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Post by mamabear on Oct 24, 2005 12:33:30 GMT -5
Tayvt, If you are already home and reading this, get off the computer and go to bed. I did not rest like I was supposed to the day I got home and though I was back to speed the following day..... Too much, too soon. Now go to bed and take care. Let us know when you are feeling better. Prayers hugs and luv. Mamabear (We are all grieving with you)
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Post by Egirl on Oct 24, 2005 13:05:21 GMT -5
Tayvt ~
Hope you aren't reading this for a few days at least, but wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you today. Hope you are doing all right. Check in when you feel up to it. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
Erin
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Post by amyldougj on Oct 25, 2005 16:19:35 GMT -5
Tayvt, I want to start off with I am soory for your loss. I know it must be hard for you. We are here to help. If you have any question please ask away. We would Love to help you get through this tuff time. Take care and rest and when you feel like it let us know how you are
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Post by Charlotte on Oct 25, 2005 17:03:00 GMT -5
Tayvt, I hope this finds you well. Please keep us updated on how you are doing.
Take care, Charlotte
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Post by katiel on Oct 25, 2005 21:34:51 GMT -5
Tayvt,
I didn't see your post until today. I hope that you're taking it easy and resting. I'll be thinking of you.
Katie
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Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on Oct 25, 2005 22:17:54 GMT -5
{{{{Tayvt}}}}}
I hope you are hanging in there and doing ok.
**hugs**
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