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Post by vernkatherine on Aug 24, 2005 18:05:20 GMT -5
Hi Laides:
I have a quetion. I know I'm jumping the gun, but since the positive pg test, all I can think about is the appt. on 9/8 w/the u/s. On 9/8, I will be 7 wks (exactly)...have any of you had an u/s this early and seen a heartbeat only later to have a BO? Both of my previous BOs were diagnosed at about 9 - 10 wks (both times this is when I had my first u/s). I'm worried because this time I'll have the u/s at 7 wks, and I thought, well if there's a heartbeat, I'm good to go. But then I started thinking.....maybe the BO happens after 7 wks. Any info is greatly appreciated. I am just constantly thinking about this. One minute I'm excited to be pregnant, the next minute I'm having a reality check and asking why this time will be different from the first two. I probably won't stop worrying/thinking about it until after the 9/8 appt.
Thanks for listening!
Katherine
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Post by alaskaice on Aug 24, 2005 22:08:39 GMT -5
Stop worring the stress is bad for you... all you have to do is just keep in mind...the the man upstairs ( parton the reliligion speech) knows what he's doing. Just try to keep upbeat. You should be excited.. and who knows third times a charm.
I was told at 11 weeks about my bo... i went into the emergancy room as soon as I started bleeding and knew bleeding wasn't good. The airman told me she had a fetal heartbeat of 72. (mine usually ranges around 70 -75) only to find out there was no baby and She was testing my heartbeat.....
Just keep your head up AND DON"T STRESS SO MUCH... it's BAD for the baby!
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Post by vernkatherine on Aug 25, 2005 5:25:31 GMT -5
I know worrying isn't going to change anything - and I do believe God's got this under control - whichever way it turns out, He has a reason for everything. I guess I simply want to know. I'm not very good at waiting. I woke up today feeling much more positive, so I guess that's a good thing. Last night I said to myself there is nothing I can do about it either way, so I'll try to stop stressing. It's just that I feel the exact same way as I did the first two times. I really have no symptoms - maybe a little soreness in my breasts - that's it.
Thanks for listening. My husband keeps telling me the same thing you did - so does my family - and my friends....blah blah blah - I guess I should listen to everyone!
Have a great day!
K
Have a great day!
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Post by alaskaice on Aug 25, 2005 22:09:54 GMT -5
I know.... i know how you feel to. I just got over my miscarriage a month ago and I'm still having trouble adapting to it. I still have to get up every morning and tell myself. Yay you can have that cigarette now or yeah a beers okay. Oh Yeah I can take Ib profine again....
I didn't have symptoms either. I thought I was just lucky..... that small few that didn'thave any problems... yeah I should of known better. BUt being possitive is always better than negative. HANG IN THERE!
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Post by vernkatherine on Aug 26, 2005 5:11:25 GMT -5
I definitely know how you feel. After my first one, I thought, oh, this happens to so many people, it's not going to happen again. I didn't try again for a year after the first one. When I got pregnant the second time, i thought, there's no way this will happen again - impossible. When I went to that first u/s at about 9 weeks and they saw nothing, I couldn't believe it. I think it hurt more than the first one. And my DH went to that appt. w/me. I won't make that mistake again - not that he'll be around for the appt b/c he's in the Navy and being shipped out in a few days for about 6 months. I think I deal with these things better by myself at first, and then I'm able to talk about it. That's why I feel this way now - why should the third time be different. I will say that reading these posts gave me some hope, but there's still that nagging voice saying "why should it be different this time - don't get too excited like the last time so you're not disappointed if it does happen."
This was your first BO right? I'll keep you all in my thoughts and prayers for a successful pregnancy when you're ready again. The third time I waited about 8 months (had to get pregnant before he left!!!!) Your DH is in the military right?
I wish you guys the best and you hang in there too - you know there are women who have gone on to be successful after having BOs, and that's what we have to focus on - if it works for them it can work for us.
Have a great day!
K
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Post by alaskaice on Aug 26, 2005 10:11:52 GMT -5
yep hubby is airforce. I know how you feel though. I had to deal with alot fo mine on my own. my parents live 4000 miles away. this would of been my first. and this was his 3rd milcarraige. I'm waiting on AF to start again... just so i can see if it's going to happen again. we got pg on the first try to being pg was a shock to me anyway. I can't wait to try again. But a part of me also wonders if it's going to happen again.... It's so hard to deal with. You're a strong woman. I couldn't go through 2 and then still try again. i was ready to give up after one. My dh took everything TO well....but then again....men will be men....I don't like things i can't have cometrol over....thats why this sucks cause I don't know what caused it!
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Post by vernkatherine on Aug 26, 2005 14:39:34 GMT -5
Gosh - we sound a lot alike - other than I'm quite a bit older than you. I hate not having control over things too. My DH was very supportive. After the 2nd one, (he was present for it) he said "I don't blame you if you don't want to try again." That made me feel better. It was almost a challenge to me too, I told him I'd try one more time but that's it. If it doesn't work this time I'm done. I guess that's why I'm constantly thinking about it too. Of course, if a dr could tell me what was wrong & that it could be fixed & we'd be successful, then I would try again. But to hear "everything's fine - just try again" ticks me off. I'm going civilian this time. The first 2 occurred when we were stationed in Italy, so there wasn't much of a choice there, but not that we're back in the States we can go civilian. The military drs in Italy were fine - once I got back here & went military for the testing, I just wasn't thrilled with the dr I had. I'm sure she didn't mean any harm but.....
Well I hope you have a great day & weekend if I don't see you on here.
K
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Post by alaskaice on Aug 26, 2005 16:28:06 GMT -5
i know how you feel about military docs... mine was okay here but of all the i had the only one I even remotly liked was the one that told me about the bo. She was more concerned for me than anything. Gave me infor for a local support group and even offered sperm testing for hubby. SHe ran test on me and said I was fine. Drs don't usually even think of test until the 3rd miscarriage....but she was very supportive. If i get pregnant again.. I won't go through anyone but her. See here in alaska we have one of the "best" military hosp there is and if we go off base... insurance won't pay for it AT ALL! So I don't have a choice here....
I'm tired of hearing try again.... also... I wast to know whats wrong LOL there is nothing that happens for no reason in my book... although i know there are things that do.. just my personality won't except it like that. I have to have REASONS for everything...it'll make me feel better
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Post by vernkatherine on Aug 26, 2005 19:01:33 GMT -5
I am going civilian, but I got the health ins through my work - my dr isn't covered by tricare - she's out of network - anyway - that's great your doc did the test after 1 BO - I didn't have testing until after 2 - my DH had chromosome analysis - but no sperm testing - i'm off to get some sleep -
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Post by kurby68 on Aug 26, 2005 21:39:50 GMT -5
Katherine
A bo happens pretty early and I understand what you are feeling. When I 1st got my bfp I stressed out over every little twinge. I had cramping and spotting and was so freaked, but things are fine. It is a very trying time and you need to remember that this is a different pregnancy and take each day and each step 1 at a time.
We are here for you. Plus I wanted to mention that there is an area in the ttc & pg after bo area. There are several people that are pg right now. We are all taking it one day at a time.
((((hugs))))
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Post by vernkatherine on Aug 27, 2005 18:27:32 GMT -5
Thanks Kallie! I just like to be prepared - I would hate to go in at 7 wks & then go back to find the BO happened after I heard a heart beat. I'll just wait and see what happens at the appt. How do you get to the area you mentioned in your last post? Others mentioned it to me but I couldn't figure out how to get over there. Thanks again!
Congratulations to you! I wish you the best. It's just hard for me, as I've said, after 2, I'm cautiously optimistic. Have a great weekend!
Katherine
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Post by kurby68 on Aug 27, 2005 21:38:19 GMT -5
Katherine also w/ a bo there won't ever be the heartbeat. You will just have an empty sac. So seeing a heartbeat is a great sign.
Take care
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Post by vernkatherine on Aug 28, 2005 6:50:08 GMT -5
Kallie:
Great!!!! Thanks for that info. That answers my question. Have a great day!
K
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