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Post by carrie12929 on Aug 19, 2005 18:53:39 GMT -5
I am so thankful to have found this board and would love to learn about good pregnancy outcomes after being diagnosed with BO during prior pregnancies. My name is Carrie and I am 27, I also have PCOS. MY Husband is 36 and has many sperm issues. Both of these factors led us to IVF. We did our first IVF in July and were so happy to get pregnant the first time. Two weeks ago I had an early u/s after spotting and we found out we were having twins. This week we had our followup to see the heart beats and were devestated to learn that both were BOs and were not viable. We have opted for D&C on Monday- a procedure that I am worried about after having had so many unpleasant procedures recently. I am so upset and any words of advice or stories of success would be so helpful! Thank You!!
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Post by Heather (hlam) on Aug 19, 2005 21:04:03 GMT -5
Carrie, I wanted to welcome you here eventhough it's under very sad circumstances. There are a lot of ladies here that have gone on to have babies and some are pregnant now after BO's. There are all kinds of success stories. There is also the common thread that we all have some idea what your going through having suffered losses of our own. I personally didn't have a D & C after my BO but I know that a lot of women here have and I'm sure they will share their experiences with you. I mostly just wanted to offer you HUGS & support and let you know that you found a wonderful group of supportive people.
Take Care!
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Post by amyldougj on Aug 19, 2005 22:32:52 GMT -5
Carrie, I'm very sorry that you are here, but welcome. Before you have a dnc please check out this web site, it might change your mind about having one. misdiagnosedmiscarriage.comThere is a section there for blighted ovum. These ladies are very nice ladies just like the ones on here. They were all a big help when I had my bo back in April. I hope the ob is wrong and everything turns out better Amy
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Post by justinsmomma on Aug 20, 2005 6:48:06 GMT -5
Hi Carrie,
I am so so sorry for your losses. My friend went through IVF and lost triplets on her first try, so I know the pain you must be in. Big big (((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))). I myself have had two blighted ovums, with a healthy child in between. I have also been through infertility testing and treatment (well more like pregnancy loss testing, I am quite fertile) and I was diagnosed with a blood clotting disorder. So my route to pregnancy was quite different than yours but the treatment worked. I am in my 30th week with miracle #2 now. Believe me, the surgery is not that bad and if your RE is sure of your dates (LMP, conception, etc.) then you can go into it with a good feeling. God bless you during this sad time.
Big HUGS
Kris
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Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on Aug 20, 2005 21:55:17 GMT -5
{{{{Carrie}}}}}
I'm so sorry you are going through this. The D and C wasn't that bad IMO. I was just a little bit sore afterwards and it helped me find some closure. It just made me a bit sore when I sat down, no discomfort really beyond that and I was in at 8am and out by 2pm.
**hugs** Lin
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Post by carrie12929 on Aug 21, 2005 6:37:17 GMT -5
Thank you all for the warm welcome and words of advice! This has been such a difficult week, but having support has been so helpful. I have faith that one day soon It will be my turn to bring a bundle of joy home! Thank you for everything!!
Hugs Carrie
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Post by thurese on Aug 21, 2005 13:02:23 GMT -5
Carrie, I am so sorry for your losses. Did you have a second ultrasound to confirm the doctors diagnosis? I had a d & c on July 5 and it wasn't too bad although I was emotional when they had me sign the paper work to cremate the "products of conception". It is a very difficult time and it is understandable to be scared and heartbroken. My advice is to take good care of yourself, take time to grieve, and buy some throat lozenges (for after the procedure). Please let us know how you are doing.... ~Thurese
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Post by carrie12929 on Aug 21, 2005 20:36:32 GMT -5
Hi Thurese,
Thank you for your encouragement and support. And thank you for the heads up that I may have to sign paperwork like that- I think I would probably have freaked out if I was handed that having never heard of it before! I have had three follow up ultrasounds to confirm the diagnosis and now at 8w4d I have come to accept the diagnosis. I am hopeful that after some time to heal we will move on to round 2 of IVF in December or January and hopefully be blessed with the baby we want so badly. Tonight I have so many mixed feelings- sad because today is the last day I will have our little creation inside me, eventhough I know he or she cannot grow and isnt viable. I have wanted to be pregnant for so long and I still feel very pregnant- Im sure it will take time to sink in and start to heal! Thank you so much!
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Post by Lauren on Aug 22, 2005 7:17:41 GMT -5
Dear Carrie, I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that your D & C goes well. I did not find mine too painful, and the pain was not much at all. For me, I had a much harder time with the grief, and I eventually sought out the help of a fertility therapist. I too had a lot of trouble getting pregnant, and then when I did I had a BO. It is very hard for other people to understand the pain that you are in, and I found it helpful to talk to someone who was not a friend or family.
My thoughts and prayers are with you. Lauren
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Post by kurby68 on Aug 26, 2005 20:06:53 GMT -5
Carrie
I am so sorry for your loss. I don't know if you are checking the board but I hope that you are doing ok. Please keep us posted.
((((((((hugs)))))))
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