Lisa
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Post by Lisa on Aug 10, 2005 0:18:12 GMT -5
Hello, my name is Lisa; I am 26 years old, married and live in Melbourne, Australia. I found this site on Wednesday August 3, 2005. My DH and I have been TTC since Jan this year and I confirmed our PG in mid July. Going by my dates, I should be now 9 weeks PG. On Sat 30th July, I had a LOT of brownish discharge, but I wasn’t too worried about it, due to the colour. 2 days later, I had bright red spotting, which then stopped. I was a bit concerned but after looking on the Internet, I thought it would only be implantation bleeding (which should have already happened if i was this far along) - I had no cramps or anything – physically I felt fine. I left it for a day, but then I started bleeding. Not a lot, only when I wiped, there would be a lot on the paper. I went to the ER, where they performed blood tests and booked me in for an ultrasound the next day. My blood tests came back with good results. I had the ultrasound and they couldn’t see anything, so I had to have an internal one, where they could see a sac. He said that it could be a BO as it was only measuring about 5 weeks. I had no idea what this meant. That’s how I found this website. It has now been just over a week and I have had numerous blood tests (yuck), which have all had positive results, but I am still bleeding. I had another internal ultrasound yesterday, and she said that it has grown a little bit, but not what they would have expected. No one can seem to explain why I am bleeding, or if it is or will be a BO. I have to go back in two weeks. It is a horrible waiting game. I have times where I am really depressed and other times when I am optimistic. I guess that if my blood tests are coming back positive, it is a good thing, and that is what I can cling to. Occasionally I have been getting some cramps, but nothing that I would usually worry about. I also have a lot going on in my life at the moment too. My DH has to get a Medical done for a new job and they found blood in his urine, and they have found a kidney and a liver disorder, DH uncle also died recently, and I am that busy at work, it is really hard to get time off for my appointments and there is a lot of pressure on me! It never stops! I am worried, confused and really, really tired. My DH is really good though and helps me a lot and we are there to support each other through this. I have been reading the other posts but no one seems to have had anything like this…not much pain, bleeding for over a week, a sac that is undersized and positive blood tests!!!!!!
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Post by justinsmomma on Aug 10, 2005 5:01:23 GMT -5
Hello there,
I am so sorry you are going through all this!! I didn't want to start out with the negatives just a big big HUG. You are definitely going through alot besides this pregnancy! I really feel for you hun. I can definitely understand being busy at work and not being able to get off for appts. That is my situation too, big ((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))!!
Unfortunately I can tell you that a good majority of us had no pain in combination with a undersized sac and continuing rising HCG #s with our blighted ovums. Some of us took as long as a month or maybe even more to diagnose. I was "lucky "in that I had an u/s at week 5 that showed a sac, then weeks 7 and 8, which showed no fetal pole and/or heartbeat...that is usually the telltale sign of a b/o in pregnancy development. No fetal matter is present weeks after seeing the sac. I was able to know for certain that there was no growth and that a baby was not going to develop, and I chose to have a D&E. The second time I went almost 12 weeks without knowing if anything was wrong, and went in for a routine u/s and was told I had an empty placenta/sac. I was completely devastated to find out at that time, even more so than the first. It is a really tough tough thing to be diagnosed with a threatened miscarriage. I am pretty sure they call bleeding in pregnancy like yours that. I sure will keep you in my prayers and send lots of HUGS!!! Please ask if you have any questions or need support. We are here.
HUGS
Kris
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Post by kurby68 on Aug 10, 2005 12:02:16 GMT -5
Lisa
I am so sorry for all the stress that you are under. Unfortunately on a different board that I am on I have seen this as well as so many other things. There can be a lot of different reasons for the bleeding too.
I hope that as you continue to get tests that the answers and results are good.
Please keep us posted. (((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))
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micki
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Post by micki on Aug 10, 2005 12:48:37 GMT -5
Hi Lisa, My heart goes out to you and your DH. You both have so much going on right now and are under a great deal of stress. I dont have much first hand experience with the bleeding because my cervix never did start to open. I just really wanted to reply to let you know that I am thinking of you and praying that everything turns out for the positive for you. ((((((((((HUGS)))))))))) Micki
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Post by Heather (hlam) on Aug 10, 2005 13:33:22 GMT -5
Hi Lisa, I also don't have much experience with the bleeding part of it. I never did have any bleeding or cramping and had no idea about a problem until I had an U/S at 13.5 weeks. Then I saw a perfectly shaped empty sac. It had grown up to 10 weeks but had stopped at that point. I had to wait for blood tests to confirm and at that point my levels were dropping. I am sorry to hear that you are going through all this worry. I hope that the outcome for you is better than it's been for some of us. I have heard of cases where they have gone on later to see a baby. However at 9 weeks I would think your far enough along to be able to see something. I will be hoping for the best for you. There are a lot of wonderful people here that are more than willing to listen, offer advice and understand what your going through. Hang in there.
(((((HUGS)))))
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Lisa
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Post by Lisa on Aug 14, 2005 20:38:42 GMT -5
Hello All,
Thank-you so much for your kind words. Unfortunately I had a miscarrage on 12 August. I understand that there could have been a number of reasons for this to happen and my DH is so supportive, but there is just a sense of loss.... We didnt tell many people in our family that we were expecting, so for me, it is easier to be around other people who are still carrying on in their everyday life as normal. It can get hard though, when my cousin was showing me the blankets etc that she had brought for her baby, which is due on the same date as mine was. But i would rather they didnt know, I cant handle people trying to console me by saying things like 'it was meant to be' or 'there must have been something wrong with it'....I dont need to hear it, I just need time to grieve. Thats all. I am so lucky with my DH - he understands how I am and is happy to just hold me. And that is how I will get through this. I suppose that I am also lucky that I found this web site. It did help hearing back from you, especially justinsmomma (thank-you) because you did prepare me for the worst, so this wasnt totally unexpected. I didnt have much pain, there were some bad cramps but it wasnt unbearable. After I saw the sac, the pain went away and most of the bleeding stopped, but I have had a few cramps and passed some tissue since. I am just so tired! Thank-you all again for being there for me. I wish you all the very best. ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))
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Post by kurby68 on Aug 14, 2005 20:44:20 GMT -5
Lisa
I am very sorry. I wish that I had some magic set of words that would take your pain away.
((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))
Please keep us posted and if you need anything wlse let us know.
Take care
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Post by Heather (hlam) on Aug 14, 2005 21:44:34 GMT -5
Lisa, Big Hugs to you! I am also very sorry for your loss and I completely understand what your saying about not wanting people you know trying to console you with "it's meant to be" or something else that won't make you feel any better. We will all be here to listen if you need us. I'm am happy to hear that DH is being very supportive and giving you what you need in your time of grief.
Take Care!
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Post by justinsmomma on Aug 15, 2005 4:43:01 GMT -5
Lisa,
I am so very sorry for your loss. We all know what you are going through. :0(
If there is anything we can do just ask. Sometimes it just helps to talk about it, or to get some rude comment that someone makes off your chest. You are very lucky to have a spouse that understands and is willing to just hold and HUG you. Believe me when I say that most men deal with this type of loss quite differently than we do. You hold on to him, he's a keeper. ;0)
Stay strong and lots of HUGS.
Kris
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Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on Aug 15, 2005 15:02:19 GMT -5
{{{Lisa}}}
I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. It's a horrible thing to have to process and move on from--but it will get easier with time, I promise.
**hugs** Lin
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Lauren
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Post by Lauren on Aug 16, 2005 11:24:34 GMT -5
Dear Lisa,
I am sos orry for your loss. I know what aa painful time this is for you and your husband. I pray that you have better luck next time. In time, you may find it helpful to tell some people who are very close to you what happened. I know for me, telling my friends and family helped me heal, and then they were more supportive when I got pregnant again.
Good luck to you. Hugs, Lauren
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Post by jenniferlynn on Aug 16, 2005 15:57:07 GMT -5
Lisa
I will be thinking of you at this time of pain. My blood resutls always grew larger, but the ultrasound always stayed the same size. I had a MC in Dec. and a BO in March. Hang in there and keep hugging your DH (it helps to be hugged). Sorry for your stress, just remember God only gives you what you can handle.
Jenny
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Lisa
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Post by Lisa on Aug 28, 2005 22:09:49 GMT -5
Hi Guys,
Thankyou all SO much for your support and kind words. Kallie - what you wrote really touched me! It means so much to me, because I know that you all understand exactly what it is like.....I had my D & C last wednesday and everything went really well. I had no pain and my bleeding stopped straight away. Im feeling heaps better now (happier). The doc suggested that I wait at least 3 months to TTC, but I am a bit scared to even think about trying again for a while! Anyway, thank-you all again and best of luck to you all! Lisa.
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Post by kurby68 on Aug 29, 2005 12:33:40 GMT -5
Lisa
I am glad that you are feeling better. I know that at least some closure will help. If you need anything at all we are here for you.
Take care
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Post by nina2201 on Sept 1, 2005 11:29:03 GMT -5
I understand what you are going through because at seven weeks I had an ultrasound and they saw an empty sac. I bled heavily for a day and before that was expelling brown tissue couple of days prior to the ultrasound. They told me that just to naturally let a miscariage happen. Nothing has happened so far so today, Sept. 1 I am again going to have another u/s. I don't understand any of this I mean it hurts to know that you feel pregnant and are going through these emotional and physical changes just to know the possibility that your child is not really there. Hang in there! and I'll be praying for you.
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