alaskaice
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"When God shuts a door.... He always leaves a window open"
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Post by alaskaice on Jul 26, 2005 17:29:25 GMT -5
I'm extremely glad I found this board. I need someone to talk to it seems. I was 11 wks pregnant. I went into the emergancy room last thrusday for bleeding and they said it was fine. They detected a heartbeat of 72. Which is not high enough to even consider. I went in today excited about my first u/s and found out that there was nothing there. I was shocked more than hurt. I understand that my body was only taking care of itself. I'm glad it happened now rather than be born or to far along I got attached.
The thing I don't understand is what are the chances of it happening again. I'm 21. This would of been my first child. I haven't even heard of blighted ovum until today. How did you guys cope... having a hard til getting through my head that i'm no longer pregnant. It's hard. Just wanting to know how everyone coped.
I have chosen natural miscarriage. With the way I was raised dnc is an abortion rather there is anythignt here to abort or not... so any idea how long it takes. I might end up going in if it takes to long. Im already passing tissue but no cramping or pain. Is this the bottom of the barrell? Does it get better? and how long did it take to get back on the horse and try again?
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Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on Jul 26, 2005 18:58:32 GMT -5
I'm so sorry you had to find us I was 11w3d when mine was diagnosed. I had a D and C and was told to wait until 3 AFs and then I could ttc. I did this, and got pg again on the first try. I've gone on to have two children and no more losses. There's no way to know if it will happen again--there are gals in here with multple losses, but odds are you will be like me and everything will be ok. Age can be a factor (I'm 37, with my loss taking place at age 32) because of older eggs. The bottom line is that you didn't cause this and I promise that it will get better. I doubt that anyone ever gets back to that pre-pg place--there's always a bit of sadness that prevails even after other children are had because of the little one lost, but I promise there are happy days ahead. There are lots of women on here who are pg and are doing great--they are proof that there is hope. {{{hugs}}} Let us know if there are any questions we can answer or anything we can do. Lin
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Post by justinsmomma on Jul 27, 2005 4:57:40 GMT -5
Hello,
I am so sorry for your loss. I can only speak from my experience, and I hope it doesn't offend you and your beliefs. For me, I had surgeries to finish off what mother nature had started quickly and painlessly. With both my losses I was pretty much blood and pain free, and I was grateful for it. Once I wasn't pregnant anymore, I was able to start moving on mentally. It took me a good year to want to try again...and I mourned my losses for that entire time. I needed to be in a good place to get pregnant and be able to accept whatever God's plans were for me. I will always miss my two blessings but I know that I will be with them one day in Heaven and our family will be complete. For now I have two angels here on earth, my 3 1/2 year old and my baby that is due to arrive in October.
God bless you hun you will get through this but it is a day to day thing and a very real grieving process. Let us know if you need help or support.
HUGS
Kris
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Post by gobigred on Jul 27, 2005 8:41:36 GMT -5
Hi.
I am so sorry for what you are going through. I think it is truly something in your heart that will help you decide natural over d&c. I wanted it to happen naturally, but after 10+ days of bleeding, I decided to have the d&c. I am glad I did, it helped bring closure. Your doctor can do U/S to see if the tissue is progressing. This should give you some idea if things are moving along. My U/S showed that the tissue had not changed/moved for those 10+ days, so that is why I decided to go ahead with the d&c. I had the same feelings about abortion as you do, but I had no "guilt" following the d&c. If you are close to your doctor, they can really be helpful in helping you decide what is best for you.
Also, my doctor said I needed to wait one cycle. AF arrived last Sat., so I am excited about ttc again. Good luck to you.
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Post by kurby68 on Jul 27, 2005 13:43:52 GMT -5
I am sorry that you had to find us. It is a very hard tme indeed, but I promise it does get better. I had 2 children and was remarried when I had my b/o. So it isn't always a 1st pg. I have since gone on and am now 22 1/2 wks pg. Time is the biggest thing for me as well as a healing power.
There are a lot of us here that only had 1 bo and have either had children r are pg now. I hope that you find closure and that you m/c naturally soon.
Good luck Take care
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micki
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Post by micki on Jul 27, 2005 17:00:39 GMT -5
Im very sorry for the pain that you have to go through. I was waiting to miscarry naturally but after 2 weeks the doctor didnt want to wait any longer because of possible infection. That was my first pregnancy and I too had never even heard of a BO before. I just wanted to let you know that so many on this board are thinking of you and praying for you at this time. Micki
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alaskaice
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"When God shuts a door.... He always leaves a window open"
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Post by alaskaice on Jul 27, 2005 21:11:10 GMT -5
Thanx for the support guys.. it's just want I needed at this tme. it's nice to know there are others out there and I'm not the only one in the world and my friends here don't understand my loss.....
I got an email the other day... it was a about a gental man that got up every morning and decided to "live" instead of die. I got up this morning and decided that I was going to "keep going" and not "give up" I of all people know that god does things that people don't understand. I know whatever is in his will is in mine. So i'm pretty strong. Today is alot better than yesterday.
Thanks guys!
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Post by kurby68 on Jul 28, 2005 6:35:58 GMT -5
Crystal
Going on is a good place to start. And really we can only do what we can do. I wish sometimes that we understood and knew more than we do, but we don't. I always try to look at it as God will give us no more than we can handle. I have learned that I can handle more than most and more than I would have believed.
Take care
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