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Post by thurese on Jul 5, 2005 12:53:38 GMT -5
Hello everyone. I am a new member (fortunately and unfortunately). I was informed of a miscarriage on Friday (7-1) by ultrasound b/c the doc thought it could be ectopic. Saw my regular OB/GYN DR this morning who thinks it was a B/O. She wanted to run some blood tests (I am assuming to test my HCG and progesterone levels). They think I was at 8 weeks on Friday but when my DH saw the u/s screen, he said he just knew b/c he couldn't see anything resembling a fetus like he did with our last pregnancy (we sucessfully delivered a beautiful little girl- she's almost two!). So I am wondering if the dr's can tell how long the fetus has been "non-viable" and if so, how long is too long to wait for a natural m/c. My dr couldn't tell anything this morning b/c all she received was a one page report stating it was "nonviable". (Can you all tell I do NOT like that word?) Anyway, isn't it kind of dangerous to leave it in there too long, like maybe I could get an infection or something? I have to repeat the blood test on Thursday and then the dr said she and I would make a decision about a D/C or natural but I was just wondering if anyone had any knowledge or ideas.
BTW, I think it is great that a forum like this exists because I am one of those people who wait to tell anyone until the end of the first trimester. So now I feel pretty alone because the only one that knows whats going on is my DH. I found this site after the dr app this morning and feel like I can share my feelings. Thanks, Thurese
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Post by micki on Jul 5, 2005 14:16:54 GMT -5
Hi Thurese,
I am sorry that you are having to go through this pain and my heart goes out to you and your husband. When I had my BO last August the doctors wanted to wait and see if my body would go through things naturally. They let it go on for 2 long agonizing weeks of waiting before deciding enough time had passed. My numbers were dropping so slowly they weren't sure when it would occur. Because of infection they said they didn't want to wait any longer. I don't know if there is a "magic" number of days?! Many other women are taken right away. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Micki
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Post by joy on Jul 5, 2005 15:10:02 GMT -5
Mikki
It is really hard for me to figure out the date that people post things. It seems to say "today" or "yesterday" on them and I know some are older than that!! Anyway...Is your u/s tomorrow?? I am sure you are so excited! Just so you know, when I was pregnant with my son, I experienced the exact same thing you explained...my boobs started to get less sore but they definately did NOT lose that heaviness feeling or the pronounced veins!! To me, you sound like you are feeling just as you should! Please know I will be thinking of you tomorrow and let us know all the good news right when you get home!! No, my u/s is this Thursday - the doc said he wanted to see me twice a week so see if it is growing at the proper rate. I am not overly optimistic though, but I guess I should never compare this pregnancy with my son. Totally different and that worries me. I know when a baby measure smaller than it should be - I know this is not good. I do not know of anyone where this story turns out ok...makes me sad... anyway...I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers tomorrow at 12 o'clock my time - 3 o'clock yours! hugs Joy
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Post by thurese on Jul 5, 2005 15:22:17 GMT -5
Hi Micki, Thanks for your kind words. I don't know if I can wait things out. I think it hurts more just knowing what happened and that for now, I can't do anything about it but wait. I have a friend who had a m/c the natural way and what she described was so awful I think I might want to just have the d & c and get it over. I have read a couple posts about the risks of a d&c but haven't had a chance to discuss with my dr. I am planning on going online tonight after the kiddo goes to sleep and checking on the risks. Thanks again for your support and prayers. It means a lot. ~Thurese
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Post by gobigred on Jul 5, 2005 16:29:38 GMT -5
Hi Thurese, Sorry you are having to deal with this. I found out I had a BO on 6/18/05. I decided to wait. On 6/28 my dr. decided it would be best to not wait any longer and I went ahead with the D&C. Now I feel like I wasted 10 days. I figured if it happened naturally I could ttc sooner. I felt so much better after the D&C! I guess what I am trying to say is that I did have closure with the D&C and I physically felt better. It is a very personal decision, I just thought I would share what happened with me. Good luck.
Nancy
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Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on Jul 5, 2005 19:50:45 GMT -5
Given the same options again I would still opt for a D and C. For me it gave me a welcome sense of closure--not that all the pain stopped at once but it felt like I passed through the door to being ok. I just felt like this weight had in a lot of ways been lifted. Waiting the three months to ttc was really hard thiough. Good luck in whatever you decide, only you can decide what is right for you and surgery does come with a certain amount of danger--although minimal.
**hugs** Lin
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Post by kurby68 on Jul 5, 2005 21:20:00 GMT -5
Thurese,
Welcome. I am sorry to have to meet under such circunstances. It has been a year since my bo. For me I m/c naturally. That is how I found out about my bo. It was like mini labor or really heavy af w/ heavy cramps. For each person it is different.
I hope that the drs can give you the answers and you can make the correct decision for you.
If you need anything there is a large group of women here that are more than reasy to help.
Take care (((((((hugs)))))))
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Post by justinsmomma on Jul 6, 2005 5:21:49 GMT -5
Hello Thurese and welcome,
I am so sorry for your loss. We can all share in your sadness and bewilderment. I will keep you in my prayers.
About the surgery, well I was one of those that did not want to wait for nature to take its course. I figured I was pregnant for 7.5 and 11.5 weeks (I have had two missed miscarriages) and didn't want to find out how much longer my body would carry this "nonviable" (HATE that word too btw) pregnancy. So I had a D&E. For me, waiting to try three cycles wasn't an issue. I waited a whole year after each loss.
Anyway HUGS HUGS HUGS we are here for you
Kris
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Post by thurese on Jul 6, 2005 9:25:34 GMT -5
Nancy, Lin, Kallie, and Kris - Thank you for your words and responses. So much has happened since my last post. Yesterday afternoon my dr called and told me that my HCG levels were very high and wanted me to go in for a second ultrasound. Well, after reading Jenny's post about her miracle, I think I got my hopes up. Unfortunately, my second ultrasound confirmed the original diagnosis and my doctor advised I get a d & c right away. She said it was because my levels were so high that I would probably end up in the emergency room because I might hemorrage (blood clotting issues) if I tried to m/c naturally. When I asked if I did indeed have a b/o, she said she still wasn't sure. ( ?) Wouldn't just looking at the ultrsound confirm a b/o? My dr did say that by the ultrasound she is convinced it was never a normal pregnancy and she was encouraged by that (since it didn't just stop growing normally for some reason). Anyway, I went in to the hospital at 5:00 p. (Colorado time) and had a d & c at 7:00. It was over pretty quickly and I was able to come home by 8:45. The only time I lost it before the procedure was when I had to sign the consent to run tests on and cremate "the products of conception." When I woke up in recovery though, I was kind of a mess. This morning I feel ok with mild discomfort in my abdomen and a VERY sore throat. I guess from reading some other posts that I do consider the surgery to be some closure and hopefully DH and I can TTC again in the near future. My dr advised 2 normal cycles. Anyway, I am so grateful for your responses and just the understanding of it all. Thanks so much, ~Thurese
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Post by gobigred on Jul 6, 2005 10:48:51 GMT -5
Thurese,
You have had a traumatic couple of days. I will keep you in my prayers. Best of luck to you and I hope your recovery goes well.
Nancy
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Post by micki on Jul 6, 2005 11:40:40 GMT -5
Thurese,
I just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you and your husband and will continue to pray for you both.
Micki
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Post by joy on Jul 6, 2005 12:13:45 GMT -5
Thurese I am so sorry about everything you are going thru...You are definately being tested and I hope you recover quickly and are able to ttc very soon! I wish you luck! Joy
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Post by eeyore5667 on Jul 6, 2005 19:57:27 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for you. Get a D&C asap. I am scheduled for one tomorrow morning. I found out to day, at 13 weeks pregnant, that I have a BO. I am devastated, being 38 and feeling like am running out of time. I plan to get the D&C and try again as soon as my Dr gives me the all-clear. Don't waste time suffering and waiting. Get it over with. -Tanya
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Post by thurese on Jul 6, 2005 21:00:47 GMT -5
Tanya, So sorry to hear about your loss...the D & C wasn't too terrible. I had one last night. Be sure and buy some throat lozenges for after and take things slowly. I jumped up to answer the phone this morning and almost fell down. You and your family are in my thoughts. ~Thurese
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Post by kurby68 on Jul 6, 2005 21:44:19 GMT -5
Tanya
Welcome. I am so sorry that you have to be here. I wish that none of us did but you have found a great bunch of loving and caring women.
If you need anything at all let us know.
((((((hugs)))))))
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Post by Egirl on Aug 8, 2005 18:40:45 GMT -5
Tanya, I appreciate you sharing your story here. I want you to know how thankful I am to be able to read about your experiences here. I am 9 wks. along with a B/O and have been waiting about a week to start the Natural M/C process. I've had a D&C years ago with a Molar Pregnancy, so I know that side of things. It wasn't too bad, but anethesia and me do NOT mix well. I think that was the hardest part of my recovery. I go in for blood work tomorrow to check my levels. If they aren't coming down considerably from my last blood work levels I will likely opt for a D&C. I am starting to have mild cramps and pressure today. No bleeding yet. Feel like I'm waiting for the end of the world. (Sorry to be dramatic!) Just want this over with so DH and I can try, try again. My prayers are withyou... and THANKS a million for being here to talk to. By the way I went on to have 2 healthy babies after my 1st miscarriage. Keep us posted!
Erin Proud mommie to Walker and Noah Loving wife to the Love of my Life, Sean
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Post by kurby68 on Aug 8, 2005 19:52:53 GMT -5
Erin
Welcome. I am so sorry for your bo as well. I hope that you can get to m/c so that you can start to ttc. I remember being where you are the wait except that I m/c right away, but waiting even 1 cycle was too long.
Please keep us updated as well on how you are doing.
Take care
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Post by Heather (hlam) on Aug 8, 2005 19:58:39 GMT -5
Erin, Welcome! Sorry for the circumstances that have brought you here but I'm sure that you will find a lot of helpful information and people that understand what your going through. I myself took medication to induce a m/c so I don't really have any knowlegde of how long it will take you to have a natural m/c. From what I've read here it does seem to vary quite a bit. I know that I was diagnosed with my BO at 13 weeks and 3 days. I didn't have any signs of m/c at any point. Just an empty sac on the u/s. I hope that this is a speedy process for you so that you can get back TTC. I wish you the best.
Take Care
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Post by thurese on Aug 9, 2005 10:25:08 GMT -5
Erin, I am sorry for your loss. I am currently dealing with a molar pregnancy and since you have had one, I am sure you know how important it might be to have the D& C (because of your previous molar). Please do not let the anethesia fear cloud your first concern, your health. All the best, Thurese
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