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Post by dani70023 on Jun 21, 2005 16:04:32 GMT -5
Hello, my name is Dani. Last Tuesday (6/14) I went in for my 10 week appt, I was completely happy that I was going to hear a heart beat. The Dr tried to find a heart beat, finally gave me a ultrasound and said it looks like I have suffered a blighted ovum....again. I just recently had a blighted ovum in 3/05. I was told then that it was just bad luck. So I got pregnant right away, and this time I did not tell any of my family. I was going to wait until after my appt to tell anyone. I will be 11 weeks tomorrow and I am waiting to miscarry naturally. I cannot believe this is happening to me again. My last blighted ovum ended around 12 weeks. in 7/04 I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks exactly, now I am wondering if that was one too. I am just lost right now, because I do not know where to go from here. My Dr is not really helping..she wont even return phone calls for at least 3 days. Should I see a specialist? What kind of questions should I ask? I am new to all of this, and now I see that maybe this just isn't "bad" luck...there is an issue here that needs to be dealt with. I do know that I have a translocation in my chromosomes.... but I'm terrified to try again. Every m/c is painful emotionally and physically. Thank you for listening to me rant...I have only told a few people and all they say is sorry, and change the subject. So I don't really have anyone to talk to. ((HUGS TO ALL))
~Dani~ m/c 6/05 3/05 7/04
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Post by justinsmomma on Jun 21, 2005 16:40:01 GMT -5
Oh wow, I am so sorry. I know you have heard it before and not had comfort in those words, but for those of us who have had this horror happen to them, and some of us even more unlucky to have it twice (like me)...you can believe that we mean it and we know how sad and upset you are right now. I don't know much about chromosomal translocation but I did a quick google on it. It does seem as though this condition causes infertility problems. If you don't mind my asking, did you find out about this due to testing done on your miscarried baby? Or did you have infertility testing? I definitely 110% would see a specialist if I were you(reproductive endocrinologist) from now on if you do decide to try to conceive again. It made all the difference for me after my 2nd loss. They generally test for blood clotting disorders (which I tested positive for), other chromosomal issues with both you and your partner, STDs, autoimmune disorders, etc. They also may recommend in-vitro, in which they can be sure that a healthy embryo is implanted.
I am so sad for you today and praying that you can make it through. Please know that we are here for you and we all care.
HUGS
Kris 2 b/o's 3/00 and 9/03 Justin 11/15/01 due 10/28 with miracle #2
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Post by mommy2brayden&Isaac on Jun 21, 2005 17:27:25 GMT -5
I am so sorry to hear about your losses I know exactly how your feeling right now having gone threw 2 BO's myself and actually might have a 3rd as we speak. I would def. see a specialist, I wish like everything that I would have last mth. before TTC, like the previous poster said it can make all the difference. And if your doc. isn't helping much maybe you should find a new doc. There could be so many different reasons why you have had consecutive BO's that testing should be done to find out exactly what it is or like a lot of docs. say it could just be "bad luck". I had a HCG and progesterone testing done yesterday and will have another tomorrow. My doc. went ahead and put me on a progesterone supplement (prometrium) to increase the levels, if that is even the problem we don't even know for sure yet. I take 200mg 3times a day orally but I know it's available threw a shot and via vagina. I wish you the best of luck!!! Shauna
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Post by laureng on Jun 21, 2005 17:42:03 GMT -5
I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this again. I have only had one bo, but I had a d&c and tehy did testing on it because we had had infertility problems and were already seeing a specialist. The genetic tests showed that there was nothing wrong chromosomally with my pregnancy, so I did a whole bunch of immunological tests. It turns out I have something called Elevated natural Killer Cells. I am now pregnant again, and have to have an IV called IVIG once a month, and I am also taking 600 mg of Progesterone daily (2 100mg orally, and 1 400mg suppository at night).
You may want to consider having a d&c so that test can be done?
I know there is nothing I can say to take away your pain right now, but know that all the women on this board do understand, and the sharing of information is really helpful. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Lauren
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Post by kurby68 on Jun 21, 2005 21:01:34 GMT -5
Dani
I am so sorry for what you have been throuh and what you are going through now. I personally would be looking for answers ans most dr's don't do it unless you have had 2 m/c or more. If your dr isn't giving answers you need to find a different dr.
I wish I could take away all the pain you are going through and give you the answers that you are looking for. Keep us posted and know that we are here for you.
Take care
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Post by amyhindman on Jul 7, 2005 15:57:38 GMT -5
Dani, I am sorry for your loss. I just found out today it looks like I have my 2nd, possibly 3rd, BO. I am 6 1/2 weeks. I am 40, so I attribute it in part to that, but I am like you in that I don't know what to do next. Genetic testing? I have had 2 natural miscarraiges and don't want to go through it again. I will be having a d and c this time. My husband and I KNOW we don't want to go through IVF etc. We do have one gorgeous, healthy, son who is 21 months. I guess it's just a matter of try and try again, but it is so painful. my prayers are with you. amy
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Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on Jul 8, 2005 20:15:49 GMT -5
Dani and Amy,
I'm so very sorry both of you are going through this again.
I was told that after 2 testing was an option, I would definately do this if it were me...there are several women on this board who have done this and went on to have successful pregnancies.
Again, I am so sorry--it's more pain that one person should have to endure.
***hugs*** Lin
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Post by joy on Jul 9, 2005 9:53:38 GMT -5
Oh Dani I am so very sorry that are you suffering so badly! I know the pain you are feeling and it is so hard to go thru...I absolutely think you should see a specialist - you could have aminor problem that could be fixed so easily! The infertility/endo. doc will do tons of blood work in the beginning and rule out all possibilities and maybe find something small that can be fixed with just a pill or a minor surgery. There may be nothing wrong and you may just need to be watched by a specialist and watch your levels from the very beginning! You could have low progesterone, which I have, and all you need to do is take a supplement. Progesterone supports the pregnancy for the first 3 months because your placenta wont make enough until then. I think if you see a specialist, you will feel much better and be in very capable hands! Good luck with everything and i will put you in my prayers! Joy
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Post by dianne on Jul 19, 2005 10:16:57 GMT -5
Dani - that's so sad - I'm really sorry to hear that you're experiencing this again. I went for my 12-week scan yesterday and saw only an empty pregnancy sac on the screen - I really wasn't given any advice or even any terminology for what it could be. It's really hard, as people don't know what to say and, unless they've experienced it themselves, they really don't want to talk about it. I've taken time off work, so I've ended up having to share it with many more people than I wanted to, some of whom weren't very sympathetic. I would see a specialist, if you can - I'm thinking of doing the same thing, as I don't want to go ahead and try to get pregnant again if there is something I could be doing to prevent this happening again.
Just hope that you know there are lots of supportive people here and we'll want to share everything and not change the subject or think you should be "over it".
Let us know how you get on - I'm having that horrible wait too, so I totally empathise.
Dianne x
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Post by thurese on Jul 19, 2005 11:39:44 GMT -5
Dear Dianne x, I am so sorry to hear about your loss...it's so difficult to accept especially when it feels like no one is really telling you what is going on, what to expect, and WHY it happened. This site has been so helpful and it helps to know there are others who feel your pain. Please keep us posted about your progress. You are all in my thoughts and prayers, ~Thurese
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Post by kurby68 on Jul 20, 2005 7:11:27 GMT -5
Dianne x
I am so sorry that you are going through this. Please know that you have found a great bunch of women that will be here to listen and cry with yoiu. If you need anythin please let us know.
Take care (((((((hugs))))))
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Post by blshepherd2003 on Jul 20, 2005 19:54:29 GMT -5
Dani, I know only too well what you are going through as I just had my second D&C on Monday...7/18/05. This is my second blighted ovum. I had one in February 05 as well. I have been driving myself nuts trying to find answers and solutions to why this has happened again. It terrifies me to think that I may never have a baby and my heart is breaking. I too, feel as though I have noone to talk to about it. My friends and family all mean well, but I feel alone. My doctor is going to test the material they pulled out after the D&C this time, so I gues we'll see. I am so glad to have found this site and hope that everyone here can be a comfort to each other. Take care, Betsy
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Post by justinsmomma on Jul 21, 2005 5:04:12 GMT -5
Betsy and Dianne X,
Hello and welcome. I am so sorry for your losses. It is unfortunate that you have to join us here, but I hope we can help you through everything you are experiencing. I know how alone you are feeling, no one says the right thing, and some people even say the worst thing, that there never was a baby. Some of us have had natural m/c, some of us have had surgeries following our diagnoses. So please feel free to ask anything and everything. We have some graduates who have been through a ton of testing too...we can help answer lots of different questions.
Big HUGS and God bless Kris 2 b/o's 3/00 and 9/03 miracle #1 Justin 11/15/01 miracle #2 Jake expected 10/28/05
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