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Post by mouskey on May 28, 2005 21:48:42 GMT -5
My name is Brenda. I'm 33 and have one miracle who just turned 13. Since the day he was born I've waited with baited breath and my whole heart, but never had any luck conceiving. I started to feel sick a couple of months ago. Thinking it was my allergies, I didn't pay much attention to my body. Over the Christmas holidays I came to believe I was selfish and had my miracle and I should be happy. I began to think I would never have the large family I wanted. One of my co-workers mentioned she would quit smoking when I annouced my pregnancy. She insisted I take a test. To humor her I did. What a surprise I had in store for my DH. My first u/s was around 7 wks. There was a small sac. She scheduled more bloodwork after my initial results came back. A 2nd u/s was done at approx 9wks. I was then dx with a BO. A d&c was recommended. I am now in what would be the 11th wk and I'm more confused than ever. I know stress has a lot to do with it. I feel like there are millions of questions to ask. What is the average time for a m/c? Why am I still feeling like there is morning sickness? trips to the bathroom? How long does a test come up positive after a bo? Is there any hope she was wrong? I am debating on seeing a counselor. I feel completely lost and I don't know if I can completely recover from this. My dh has been wonderful the last couple of weeks, but he is definately out of his league. I know I am pushing him away, but I think it's something I have to work on myself.
Thank you all for listening. Best wishes to you all. Brenda mom of Alex age 13
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Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on May 28, 2005 22:38:28 GMT -5
Brenda, I am so sorry by 8 weeks they should be able to tell if the diagnosis is correct or not--but is there a chance the pregancy could be dated incorrectly? That would make it a little iffier for knowing for sure. By this point, they should be able to tell beyond a doubt, did they ever do any blood tests and check your hormone levels? I would go back and ask that they check again to be positive. I was 11w3d when I started to miscarry (incomplete natural m/c required surgery), until then I had no idea. I had severe symptoms, mainly throwing up, until I had the D and C. I imagine you would still have a positive pg test until a D and C or a m/c is done, with a blighted ovum the placenta continues to grow until the body figures out that they baby is gone. I think that if you are open to seeing a counselor you should go. This is a tough thing to try to deal with, in a situation where you've been trying for so long it must even be so much worse. In my opinion, though, you need to address what is going on now to help your body heal and to start to put some closure on the situation if all is as it seems. I would call the Dr. and ask for another ultrasound, or at the very least for homone levels to be checked. {{{{hugs}}}} Let us know how you are doing and keep us posted. Also, remember you aren't alone here, everyone here has gone through something similar to some sort of degree and we are here for any questions you might have. Lin
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Post by justinsmomma on May 29, 2005 6:21:10 GMT -5
Oh Brenda I am so so sorry hun. I know how hard this must be for you. I myself have suffered two blighted ovums. It is a devastation that not many people can understand unless you have experienced it first hand. Just for peace of mind, I would suggest one more ultrasound and HCG level before making any decisions. I think the counselor is a great idea, it truly helped me when I needed it. My heart goes out to you. Please know that we are here for you, and we have all been where you are.
I don't have any answers on the natural m/c thing b/c I have had D&Es both times but several ladies here have been through it and hopefully can answer your questions.
HUGS
Kris
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Post by kurby68 on May 30, 2005 19:41:26 GMT -5
Brenda
I am so sorry that you have had so much that you are going through. I found out about my b/o while I was m/c. I had an u/s to show an empty sac. I have 2 dd's that I never even had any problems with. And then I remarried and all my dh & I wasnte was to have baby together. It took 8 months of ttc and we were so happy. We told everyone and then when I started cramping & spotting we went to the er and were told that we had a bo and that the sac was collapsing and that I would m/c.
There are a lot of women that have went on to have babies after a bo.
Please keep us posted and let us know if you need anything.
Take care
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Post by reedstephstuff on May 31, 2005 13:08:21 GMT -5
Brenda,
So sorry to hear your story! I feel for you! I JUST M/C last Wednesday and was 12 weeks the Monday before. My original diagnosis was a B/O at 7 week U/S... did another still believed to the a B/C, did another at 10 weeks, no longer considered a B/O but fetal demise. I was given the option to have a D&C, but the discussions with the doctor and the time between appointments took too long and I began spotting on the Monday starting week 12. I hope that if you choose to naturally M/C that it is a normal and not too scary experience; however, prepare for the worst. Read as many stories of M/C as possible, be well informed on what to expect! I was prepared, thanks to these wonderful women, however wound up in the ER after a horrible at home M/C. Be sure to have DH with you. Better yet, more than 1 person! I had my Mom & DH here, 1 took care of my 19 month old, 1 took care of me, BOTH had to carry me to the car.... I was afraid of the D&C, but given the option to do it over, I'd welcome the procedure with open arms (only because of fear of the M/C). You have gone through a horribly emotional thing and the waiting makes it that much worse, I know.... Unfortunately, M/C is extremely common, and nearly 80% of women are going to experience it. I suppose that in itself is comfort to me. Having other people to go to, like the ladies on this board, and friends who have gone through it somehow makes it a little bit better, or perhaps just a bit easier to handle. I hope your healing begins soon. All the best! Steph
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