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Post by reedstephstuff on May 20, 2005 14:28:19 GMT -5
Good afternoon, Ladies! Hope all is going well, or as well as can be expected. I've had 2 more appointments since last I posted, and I have no more information than before. Basically, the doctor advised me that whether I opt for the D&C or M/C naturally doesn't make much difference. I was unimpressed with his bed-side manner or his advise. He scheduled me to come BACK for yet another appt on Monday, which I called today to cancel. I've decided to take the higher road on this one and to leave it in God's hands (although I am not a Godly person.) Should the natural M/C go badly, I'll go to the hospital then.... Monday will be the beginning of what would have been my 2nd trimester and I'm over spending my free time thinking about this or dealing with doctor's appointments. I'm averaging 2 appts a week and it's all for nothing! I'm not even P/G! I suppose this post should have gone into the Rants section of the board, but I honestly did not intend on going "off" so to speak. Sunday is a dear friend's baby shower.... If it were only her who were going to be there "with child" I think I might be able to handle it; however, I have 4 other friends who will definitely be there who are also P/G. I honestly don't think I'll be able to handle it! Nor do I want to be the reason why they are afraid to even discuss their pregnancies.... At this point, I'm no longer in the grief phase of this situation, in fact I've become somewhat nonchalant about the whole affair. Time for me to move on, and although I know a D&C would probably be the beginning of the end for me, I can't bear to deal with that doctor's office any longer. That's my update, not too thrilling, not too informative, just an update! Stephanie
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Post by amyldougj on May 20, 2005 18:09:23 GMT -5
Steph, I know where your coming from. Thanks for the support you have given me. I think the natural m/c will be best for you. Thats what i did at 13wks and it was bad but I'm still glad I did it that way. Before I had the m/c I started feeling like you and thought I could handle all of this and just move on and try again, well it is not that easy. After you have the m/c your feeling about it will change but just like me I'm sure we will get through this and be stronger women for it. As far as the baby shower, I know I could not go and your friend will understand if you don't. I see pg women at the store and I still want to go cry, I know it will get better. Take care of yourself and please let me know how you are and when you have the m/c. I hope it goes easy for you. Take care, Amy
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Post by kurby68 on May 20, 2005 20:14:33 GMT -5
Steph
I am so sorry that you are still going through this. I will say a prayer that you go through this quickly and soon.
Keep us updated and do not apologize rant away. We all have rights to do that. We have been through a lot.
Take care
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Post by Lauren on May 21, 2005 9:05:00 GMT -5
Dear Steph, I am so sorry that you are having to go through all of this, and hope that nature takes its course soon and as easily as possible.
I too would not be able to handle going to a baby shower at this point in your journey. I went to one a month after my miscarriage, and it was hard to be there. I am sure your friends would understand if you wanted to opt out of it.
I will be thinking of you! Lauren
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Post by reedstephstuff on May 21, 2005 9:07:24 GMT -5
Kallie & Amy,
Thanks for being so supportive! This has been a very trying time for me, and all of us! I called my friend (having the shower) and was very honest with her, and to my amazement, she was EXTREMELY understanding! In fact, she divulged to me her similar feelings after an abortion when she was 16. This board has brought me much needed advise, support, and understanding! I hope I can do for you guys what you have done for me: remind me there are people who care and understand. We'll be okay eventually, but for now, we can just be there for one another and help eachother get through this time. I guess I've pretty much decided "breeding" is not in my near future. I've decided to TTC after the end of the year. Another M/C at this point would be too much and I need to heal physically but more importantly emotionally. I've neglected my husband my toddler and MYSELF over these last few weeks and I've had enough of it. No more self-pity. I think I'm going to take the baby swimming today! The pool is finally warm enough for it. Time for ME to MOVE ON! I'm not going anywhere, because this has been a great help and I think helping other women with words of advise and encouragement is the best therapy for me. Again, thanks! Thanks to everyone on this board! ((((((((((((((((((GREAT BIG BEAR HUG))))))))))))))))) Stephanie PS - It's not over yet, as the subject line states, "Still waiting...."
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Post by reedstephstuff on May 21, 2005 9:08:27 GMT -5
OOPS! Lauren too! ((((((((((HUG)))))))))))) Wasn't paying attention before I posted that. You've been awesome as well!
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Post by amyldougj on May 21, 2005 12:38:22 GMT -5
Hello Steph,
Glad to hear that your still feeling ok. The wait is the worst. I found out on Monday from a rude nurse that I had a b/o and did not have the m/c till Sunday night. I think it was the longest week of my life. I'm better today and I know that one of these days I will be pg again with a healthy baby, until then I have to move on and start living again. I'm glad that you have already started the process of moving on.
Have you had any cramps yet? I started cramping maybe Wed or Thur before the m/c. On Sunday I started to really bad painfull cramps before it all started. Just something for you to look for. Please keep me posted on how you are doing. I hope everything turns out good for you.
Have fun in the pool this weekend. I wish it was warm enough here for ours but it has not been that warm this year yet.
Have a good weekend and remember we are here for you. Amy
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Post by reedstephstuff on May 22, 2005 10:26:55 GMT -5
Thanks, Amy for the kind words. Good to hear you sound a bit better as well.
So far, nothing. Monday will be 12 weeks and I'm getting overly anxious for this M/C to happen.... It's comparable to waiting for labor to begin. I pack a "daiper bag" for myself with pads and a change of clothes everywhere I go. I'm so scared that I'm going to be at the grocery store or something similar when it ocurrs! I guess it's somewhat comical at this point. I keep thinking I have cramping, but then realize it's just gas ;D. Oh well, patience is a virtue. I have to keep reminding myself of that.
In the meantime, take care of yourself! Relax and all will happen in due time! ((((((((((HUG)))))))))) Steph
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Post by kkgg on May 23, 2005 13:05:28 GMT -5
Hi Steph, my name is Kathy and I was diagnosed with B/O at 11.5 weeks (my first pregnancy) and opted to have the D & C done at 12 weeks (4 days ago). I admire your healthy attitude. It is such a terrible thing to find out when you believe that everything is going well. I couldn't stand the waiting for the m/c to happen naturally, especially when my doctor said that it could take up to another month. Plus, since I will be 36 in 3 months, I feel like I need all the extra time that I can get. Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you.
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Post by reedstephstuff on May 23, 2005 13:57:28 GMT -5
hi Kathy!
So sorry about your loss! I read a couple of your posts before and didn't have too much advise in the way of the age issue. I am only 28 and do have a 19 month old, but I feel your pain (((((((((((HUG)))))))))))). I actually had an appointment scheduled this morning to speak with the doctor (for the 3rd time) about a D&C and called to cancel it instead. I'm a bit fearful of what COULD happen with the natural M/C; however, I am and always have been this kind of person interested in the LEAST envasive choice as possible! I may end up in the hospital, but we'll see. I've actually had 2 M/C this year and perhaps that M/C has made the acceptance of this one that much easier. Don't get me wrong, it's NOT easy, but I guess I half-way expected the same disapointment again. It's awful to go through this. Hopefully you'll heal quickly and be able to ttc soon. So, you're going to wait 3 months to ttc? I only waited 1 and this was the result. Keep my updated on your situation! Again, thanks for your support!
Stephanie
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Post by amyldougj on May 23, 2005 16:23:30 GMT -5
Hello Steph,
Just checking to see how you feel today and to let you know that I'm thinking about you. I hope that you start the m/c soon. I know the wait is the worst but just remember that you have people who care for you and that are here when you need us. Let me know if you need anything Amy
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Post by reedstephstuff on May 24, 2005 10:26:12 GMT -5
Hey there, Amy! Thanks for checking on me. Well, the spotting started for the 1st time last night and had slowly progressed into normal period like bleeding. No major cramping or other Yucky Stuff, but I'm almost certain it's coming... I feel worse and worse as the day goes on. I'm sure I'll be fine, and I'll keep you posted!
How you doing today?
((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))) Stephanie
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Post by kurby68 on May 24, 2005 11:24:20 GMT -5
Stephanie
((((((((hugs))))))))) Hope that all goes well. Keep us posted.
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Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on May 24, 2005 14:16:44 GMT -5
{{{{{{{{Stephanie}}}}}}}} Hang in there girl. I hope you are feeling better soon.
Lin
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