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Post by kkgg on May 18, 2005 11:11:24 GMT -5
I am 11.5 weeks and just started spotting. I went to the Dr. and they were unable to detect a heartbeat so then I had a regular and a vaginal ultrasound and they told me that I have Blighted Ovum. I am scheduled for a D & C tomorrow because I just want to get it over with. I am miserable and hope that this will help me start to heal. I am 35 and my dh is 40 and this was our first pregnancy, so in addition to having to deal with this loss, I am afraid that we will not have many more chances. We were so excited and now we are crushed. I am so sorry that so many people have had to experience this, but it is very helpful to me that you were able to share your stories. It has helped me to not feel so alone. Thank you all.
Kathy
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Post by kurby68 on May 18, 2005 11:51:15 GMT -5
Kathy
1st let me say how sorry I am that you have to be here. If you need anything there are a lot of us that have been where you are now. I promise it does get better.
I am 36 and had a blighted ovum at 35. My dh is 31. I was worried too because it took us 8 months to get pg. We started ttc again and after ttc for another 8 months we were pg again. This time we have been very fortunate I am almost 13 wks and we have seen our baby on an u/s and I heard the heartbeat today. So please don't give up hope.
Please keep us posted and let us know if you need anything else. Take care
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Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on May 18, 2005 13:57:15 GMT -5
Kathy, first, welcome...I'm sorry you had to come and find us and that you are dealing with this. Your story sounds much like mine in many ways. Mine was discovered at 11w3d via transvaginal ultrasound when I began to cramp and spot. They had failed to detect a h/b at 9w but I was told it was early and not to worry. I know that the age thing is scary. I'm 37 (38 in three months). My blighted ovum happened right after I turned 33, I conceived again at 33 and had my son and later conceived my daughter at 35. Age can of course cause some problems with sperm or egg quality and of course the issue with conceiving in the first place. I've noticed lots of women on here though who are in our age group and have gone on to have a successful pregnancy. I wish I had some statistics to quote here but I don't. Still, I think your odds are still good. With DD we decided to start trying right when DS turned 1 with the reason being it might take awhile to get pg again. It took one try and I ended up with kids less 1 yr 9 months apart. Also, IMO many people get pg pretty quickly after a loss, for whatever reason that is. I had an RN tell me the same thing. I'm so sorry you have had to go through a loss this way, I know all too well the pain it causes--but please don't feel like because of your age it might be your only chance because the odds are very good it won't happen ever again. {{{{{{hugs}}}}} Lin
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Post by kurby68 on May 19, 2005 17:01:23 GMT -5
Kathy
Just checking in to see how your d&c have went. I hope you are doing ok.
Take care ((((((((hugs)))))))) Kallie
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Post by justinsmomma on May 20, 2005 5:08:50 GMT -5
I am so sorry for your loss hun. Believe me, we all know what you are going through. Prayers and positive thoughts for a quick recovery sweetie.
Believe me 35 is not too old to have a baby! You will get another chance, I promise...and next time I pray it will go smoothly and you will get the baby you are dreaming of!
HUGS
Kris
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Post by jenniferlynn on May 20, 2005 5:34:26 GMT -5
Kathy,
First, I want to say I am sorry for your loss and we are thinking of you in this painful time. (Hang in there). I have a 2 yr old at home, has a MC on Christmas Day and found out I have a BO this past Easter weekend. We all can relate to how your feeling and that is why we are here to support you. God only gives us as much as we can handle. Sometimes he pushed to the very edge, but he would never let us fall. Keep your hopes up and tell your husband you need lots of hugs (they help). We are thinking of you!
Jenny
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Post by kkgg on May 23, 2005 8:38:53 GMT -5
The D & C went o.k. I was really tired on Thursday, the day that I had it done, but I felt better on Friday and Saturday. Sunday for some reason I experienced a lot of cramping, but physically I feel better today. Still just so sad. I think I have seen every advertisement for new babies or pregnant women that was ever made. Even my DH said that it sure seems like there have been a lot of them recently and I am overly sensitive to them right now. I'm trying to just hang in there. I just want to get past all of this so that we can try again, but I don't want to take any additional risks by trying before my body is ready. It seems like time has slowed down so much since this happened. Thanks again for all of your encouragement.
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Post by kurby68 on May 23, 2005 11:55:21 GMT -5
Kathy
I am so glad that the D&C went ok and physically you are feeling better. Mentally and emotionally does take some time. I didn't have a d&c and started ttc right away. After looking back I think it was good I didn't get pg rigt away because it gave me sometime to deal w/ those things.
Take care and keep us posted.
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