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Post by octoberjen on May 12, 2005 7:09:51 GMT -5
I had a internal us on Tuesday 10th May at 7 weeks and was told that there was a sac and something else on the wall of the uterus but it looked like a bo...my dh and I had had 2 mc previously both at 17 weeks so we were not expecting this at only 7 weeks.
My dh asked what chance we had and the dr said 1%...I am now waiting for a natural MC and then if not I will go for the D&C but part of me wants to believe that after finally falling pg through IVF and our other 2 late losses we dont deserve this to happen.....Should I just sit and wait??
Confused and numb.
Jenny - Sydney
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Post by reedstephstuff on May 12, 2005 7:27:33 GMT -5
Jenny,
7 weeks is about the time my waiting game began. I am currently 10 weeks 4 days and got my answer yesterday.... Now, I'm waiting to M/C which is not fun, but at 7 weeks, there is definitely still hope! The fact that they saw something at 7 weeks would be reason enough for me! My 7 week U/S showed only the yolk sac, nothing else. Waiting is definitely hard, but for the certainty that you need, especially after your 2 most recent M/C (((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))))) SO SO SORRY!!! The women on this board are extremely helpful and have tons of advise! You've come to the right place. For now, I'll be praying for you! Remain hopeful, sweety! I'm sure you're already preparing yourself for the worst, but don't lose hope, NOT YET! 7 weeks could really be 5 or 6 weeks, right? Keep us posted on your situation!
Stephanie
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Post by kurby68 on May 12, 2005 8:20:09 GMT -5
Jenny
1st welcome and I am sorry for what you are dealing with. Are you sure of your due date? Could you be not as far as you think? Also I have seen people see a heartbeat by now and then I have seen some see it right after this. Have your levels for hcg been checked & monitored? That can be a clue of what is or isn't going on.
Please let us know how you are doing and keep us posted on what is happening. If you need anything let us know,
Take care (((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))
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Post by octoberjen on May 12, 2005 17:26:12 GMT -5
Dear Stephanie and Kallie,
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. I am so sorry for what you too are going through Stephanie, I read all about your last few weeks and can't believe anybody has to go through this.
As I had an IVf Blastocyst transfer on 9/4 my dates should be pretty acurate although does actual implantation time affect how many weeks one really is...is if it takes a week to implant. Anyhow as much as I want to have hope I don't think I can put myself through it. I don't feel pregnant other than the occassional feeling off and tired.
I was just cincerned about waiting to mc for too long and then haemorraging badly.
I found this group by doing a search on BO and feel like I have the support that I so desperately need now. My dh thought that I should go and see a counsellor as I have so much anger bottled up in side and said that it might help me move on...who knows!!
It also wasn't suggessted that I get my blodd /numbers checked...is that unusual??? My dh and I thought that we should still keep our U/S appointment that was booked for next Tuesday which would have been 8 weeks and see if it the same result....my IVF dr will be back then and I guess I feel more confident with him although the other dr we saw was the Medical Director and very nice.
Thanks to you both .
Jenny me - 38 dh-41 dd-4 2 mc 2003 - both 17 weeks IVF July 2004 BFN IVF April 2005 - BFP BO - at 7 weeks (10 April) waiting
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Post by kurby68 on May 12, 2005 17:36:48 GMT -5
Jen
I would take that u/s and I would ask about hcg levels. Because if this a b/o you will want to keep an eye on the #'s to make sure they go back down if you m/c naturally.
Please keep us posted on how you are doing.
Take care
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Post by justinsmomma on May 12, 2005 17:43:40 GMT -5
Hello and HUGS,
I am so sorry you are joining us. God knows you have been through so much. I know the anger you are feeling all too well. :0(
I hate to give people advice but I would wait another week or so and have a repeat u/s if possible. Also get your HCG checked now, and again in a few days. I am sure your IVF Dr. will give you better advice than we can. I am so so sorry, you have been through so much!
HUGS we are here for you.
Kris
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Post by Lauren on May 12, 2005 17:45:43 GMT -5
Dear Jenny, First of all let me say how terrible sorry I am that you are going through this. I know that I felt like it was even worse to have a bo after going through all kinds of fertility treatments to get pregnant. I felt so angry at everything and everyone. I did see a therapist who deals specifically with infertility and grief counseling, and I would actually recommend it. I would bet that your IVF doctor can recommend someone to you.
Good luck with everything and I hope that you get better news soon. Lauren
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Post by reedstephstuff on May 12, 2005 20:00:15 GMT -5
Jenny,
You're more than welcome! My experience has been rough, I'll admit, but not anymore difficult than this group of women here, or yours. Not that I enjoy hearing other people's suffering, but to hear that I'm not alone helps more than anything else right now. I can't imagine why your hcg levels haven't been tested. I agree with the rest, go for the next U/S! Also, one lesson this M/C is teaching me is to NOT sit back and let them "play" while you're aching for an answer. Never again will I let something like this stretch out for 3-4 weeks without some REAL answers. At this point, what have you got to lose? Those blood counts, up until 10-12 weeks are fairly significant (when done at least twice after 48 hours). Of coarse, I'm one of these who STILL has a miniscule bit of hope left having only been through this twice. You and your DH know what's best for you. Good luck no matter what you decide to do. I'll be thinking of you until we get an update! Stephanie
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Post by octoberjen on May 12, 2005 22:14:59 GMT -5
Hi Stephanie,
Thaks again for your e-mail. You encouraged me to call the clinic and so I did and asked if I should be having my HCG levels checked. I was bascially told that given I was assessed with a BO at 7 weeks it wouldn't make a lot of difference. (perhaps they thinks its giving people false hope who knows). So the nurse checked with the Medical Director who said that yes I should have another U/S next week as previously arranged just to confirm everything, but they don't offer much hope for the outcome being different.
I have also read that sometimes your numbers are still high as thepg sac etc causes tis so it wouldn't provide an indicative scenario of what my possibilites were.
ANyhow will sit and wait until next Tuesday and update you all then.
Thanks again for your support and for others that have e-mailed me.
Jenny
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Post by kurby68 on May 13, 2005 7:00:53 GMT -5
Jenny
I hope you get a miracle next week. My dr does check hcg levels because if your levels aren't doubling in a certain amt of time that is indicative of a b/o. Plus if they are low in the 1st place.
Keep us posted on how the u/s goes next week. If you need anything we are here. Whether just to say hey I am having a rough day to ranting about how angry you are. We have been through this and it is very hard.
Take care ((((((((hugs))))))))) Kallie
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