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Post by amyldougj on Apr 26, 2005 12:08:09 GMT -5
It has been a week since my m/c and starting last night I cant stop crying. What is wrong with me. I thought I had it under control and all day long all I can do is cry. Why now?? I dont know what to do to stop. I have a dh and 3 kids to take care of I cant let them see me like this. What can I do. Amy
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Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on Apr 26, 2005 13:48:54 GMT -5
Amy, I wish I had some advice...I was the same way. Maybe you could make an appointment to speak to a counselor? Having someone to spill it out to might make a big difference.
**hugs** Lin
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Post by Lauren on Apr 26, 2005 16:12:06 GMT -5
Dear Amy,
I was the same way for several weeks, and I did eventually go to a therapist which has helped me a lot. It is just great to have someone who is not a family member or your husband. I felt like I was really able to get a lot of my sadness, anger, and frustration out through therapy.
Please know that it is totally normal what youa re feeling. You sufferred a great loss and it takes a long time to get past it. Be patient with yourself.
Lauren
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Post by justinsmomma on Apr 26, 2005 16:20:03 GMT -5
Amy
You've gotten some great advice here, and here's an extra HUG for good measure. Remember not only are you grieving, but you also have a lot of hormonal things happening. The two of them make for a very difficult emotional time.
HUGS! If it feels like it is getting to be too much I definitely recommend grief counseling. It helped me tremendously too.
Lots of love
Kris
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Post by kurby68 on Apr 26, 2005 17:58:18 GMT -5
Amy
I am just adding that time does help. And here are more hugs.
Take care Kallie
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Post by cowlover on Apr 26, 2005 18:56:25 GMT -5
Amy, This is the Amy in MT...I would have times where I just be sitting w/my hubby and just start crying. He would hold me and ask me what he could do to make me feel better and knowing there wasn't anything, I would tell him. He understood. You put so much into having a baby let alone after having a few joys already at home, it is probably a lot harder to lose one like this. You know the joys of a baby...the smells, the coos, the smiles....so it is a lot harder to know you are "missing" out on that. For me, I am still sad, but I know I will have one. I haven't really ever had a baby from day one...We got my hubby's son at 2 and the odd babysitting jobs really don't count. It's like the lotto....I lost a $50 ticket, you lost a million dollar ticket....you had a lot more value and stake in your baby I think....you had so much more to look forward to, the experiences and all. I think the hormones don't help either. A counselor is a good idea to help you, too.
HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS
Amy =s
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Post by amyldougj on Apr 27, 2005 14:36:47 GMT -5
Thank you all for the support. I am better today. I took one of my dh prozac and it helped calm me down a lot. He has been on them ever since his younger brother was in a fatal car crash. I think it has helped me calm down and I didnt wake up with a headache today and when I did get a headache today it was not as bad. I dont know what I would of done if I had not found this site. You ladies are great. Thanks again Amy
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Post by malissa on Apr 27, 2005 19:41:00 GMT -5
I'm glad the prozac helped, but the nurse in me is coming out. Be careful, Prozac can sometimes cause some added anxiety and irritability, it also does increase suicidal thoughts in some of the population. If the crying continues go see your doc. with all of the hormones changing this can be alot like post partum depression. Hang in there! Malissa
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Post by justinsmomma on Apr 28, 2005 5:32:15 GMT -5
Amy,
My Dr. prescribed some Xanax for me after my m/c. I never did take it but just knowing it was there helped. I did wind up on Zoloft and it truly helped take the edge off my emotions.
I really related to what Amy II (LOL sorry about the nickname) said about the lottery ticket. I know after my 2nd m/c, I had already had my son, and I did hurt so very much more, knowing that I had lost. Thanks for saying that Amy.
My thoughts are with all of you. I was just praying last night, thanking God for helping me through those times. I don't even want to tell you what kinds of coping mechanisms I employed. I am embarrassed to admit this, but smoking, drinking, self pity and withdrawing from the world just to name a few. My son was what brought me out of it. I had to make the conscious decision to snap out of it, for his sake. If I had had my choice I would've wallowed in it forever, and blamed it for every thing bad that happened in my life. Believe me it was that bad, it took a whole year of my life up....and I am so sorry for that. I know God got me through it unscathed and my son remained oblivious to it thanks to Him. I began the healing during a seminar on pregnancy loss I attended at a local church and have been on a better path ever since.
HUGS guys,
Kris
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Post by amyldougj on May 6, 2005 21:42:45 GMT -5
Hello, It has been a few days since I have been on and I just want to start out and say thanks again for all the great support. I feel better now. I think I have it under control for the most part. Now I just want to ttc really bad. I do have one question, it has been 3 week since my m/c and I still have bleeding. Not very much, all day wouldnt fill a tampon (not that I use the same one all day). Its also kinda brown. How much longer before the bleeding stops? Thanks again and Happy Mothers Day Amy
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Post by kurby68 on May 7, 2005 13:32:58 GMT -5
I am glad to hear that you are feeling better.
Brown means that the blood is old and that I would assume means that the end is near.
Take care
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Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on May 7, 2005 14:54:58 GMT -5
I'm also so glad you are feeling better!
It's been 5 years for me so it is hard to remember exactly, but I think that I bled off and on for 2 weeks, but I had a D and C. I don't think that there is anything wrong, but if you are concerned I would call the Dr. to run it by them. I agree with Kallie that it should be the end of it.
What did they tell you for trying again? It's my understanding that without a D and C you can try after your next period. I've heard some Doctors suggest longer though. With a D and C the lining of the uterus needs to build back up, so that adds onto the wait. I understand the anxiousness, this part truly is the worst, your dreams are dashed and then it just seems like it take forever to get to the point where you get to give it another shot. Kris, Kallie and Lauren here are proof there is happiness within reach...getting through this part is the tough part.
**hugs** Lin
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Post by Lauren on May 7, 2005 17:04:26 GMT -5
Hi, I am glad to hear that you are feeling better, and I think it is normal to still have some spotting. I think I did for a full 3 weeks, but it was dark brown. I remember it was especially true if I lifted anything heavy, so if you have been doing any lifting that may make the bleeding last longer. It should be over soon, and once you get yur period you should be able to get back to ttc.
Good Luck. Lauren
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Post by amyldougj on May 9, 2005 15:58:26 GMT -5
Hello Ladies, I need your help again. I took a pg test this morning and when I first looked at it I thought it was neg and I set it down and got the kids ready for school. Later I went to look at it again and it looks like there are 2 lines. The 2nd line is very very light but I think it is there. My husband looked and saw the same thing I did. It has been 3 weeks since my m/c. Could I be 3wks and have a pos pg test??? What should I do take the test again in a couple of days or call the ob and tell him that I might be pg? Could the line been there because there was something wrong with the test or because it sat for a while before I looked again. I want to be excited and happy but I'm afraid to. Please help Amy
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Post by kurby68 on May 9, 2005 16:59:19 GMT -5
Amy
Did they ever check to make sure your levels went to 0. Also do you temp or use ovulation kits to let you know when you ovulate? I would definitely check with your doctor.
Keep us posted.
Take care Kallie
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Post by reedstephstuff on May 9, 2005 17:40:44 GMT -5
So sorry to hear your situation. I am currently going through m/s #2 since January. When I miscarried in January, I was testing + on p/g test for over a month and was told the hcg levels although minute could show for up to 2 - 3 months. I know it's upsetting, although if you take one in a couple weeks and the line is darker, that should be reason enough to call the doc!
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Post by kurby68 on May 9, 2005 17:44:52 GMT -5
reedstephstuff Welcome. I saw your post in the Poll area. I am sorry that you had a m/c in January and are now having problems again. Please let us know how things are going with you as well.
Take care
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Post by reedstephstuff on May 9, 2005 18:04:53 GMT -5
kurby68
Thanks for your reply. I'll definitely have a better idea of what's going on tomorrow. January wasn't nearly as traumatic as this month. I was only 6 1/2 weeks when I found started bleeding, although it was 2 weeks later that the blood tests confimed it. This time, I'm 10 weeks and am thinking well, it's almost a good thing that I did miscarry then, because I wouldn't have had any of these tests (other than hcg) if that hadn't happened. I haven't had any bleeding and have all the symptoms. Only prob is the last 2 u/s show all but the embryo. My first u/s sound was at 6 weeks this time. I am just holding my breath until tomorrow. In the mean time, I'm so glad I found this board and women like you!
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Post by justinsmomma on May 10, 2005 5:07:36 GMT -5
Reedstephstuff,
I read your post in the poll section too and wanted to offer a HUG. If you read my story up above, you will see that I too suffered a b/o at over 10 weeks, no bleeding. Believe me I understand when you say that this time is much more traumatic. ((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
I wish I could wave a wand and make this all OK for you. Please let us know how your next appt. goes.
HUGS again
Kris
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Post by justinsmomma on May 10, 2005 5:09:35 GMT -5
Amy,
I would definitely check with your Dr. It is possible that you are pregnant, you were trying, right? But it is also possible that your levels are dropping to near 0. Some tests are sensitive enough to pick up a level as low as 17. (Mine did with my last m/c)
HUGS please keep us posted, hope you are doing as well as you can be.
Kris
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Post by reedstephstuff on May 10, 2005 8:55:53 GMT -5
Kris,
Thanks so much for the support. Well, today is the day although 11:30 just can't come quick enough. It helps to know someone out there has been there, and I'm sure you understand that it's just very difficult to explain in words how difficult or for that matter just how I feel. The "emotional roller-coaster" is so up and down. After one appointment, I accept my fate and try to move on. Then a blood test comes back to give back some hope. No bleeding, no cramping, you can't help but to think, there is still a chance. That they are all wrong. I know the possibility of this is VERY slim, but.... Like I said, thanks so much to you all! This board has been very therapeutic no matter the outcome. I'll be back later with my news. Oh yeah, ((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))) I'm so wrapped up in my own ordeal that sometimes it's hard to step out of the box and console others. Sorry about the lack of huggies before.
Stephanie *impatiently awaiting my 11:30 U/S*
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Post by amyldougj on May 10, 2005 8:58:41 GMT -5
Good morning I took another Dollar store pg test this morning. The secound line is very very faint. You could over look it if you didnt look close enough. Maybe it just my eyes playing tricks on me??? I had a follow up with the OB after my m/c and they did a pg test then and it was neg. I have been tired lately and my breast are a little tender. I thought I was tired from a long weekend but it could be from being pg. I'm just so scared and confused. I still get upset when I think about the b/o. I dont think I could handle another m/c. I think I will take anohter test around Friday maybe the line will be darker then. What should I do??? Amy
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Post by kurby68 on May 10, 2005 11:46:40 GMT -5
Amy
I would definitely call your dr and at least go in for a test. What harm is there in that. And then you will know for sure. They also maybe able to follow you closer if you are pg again.
Please keep us posted. Take care
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