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Post by cowlover on Apr 15, 2005 14:44:44 GMT -5
Hi My name is Amy and I am 30. My husband and I decided to have a baby after many years together. It was going well....I went off the pill and waited for my period and then the next month we tried with success. I went to my OB visit on Wed and they couldn't find the hearbeat so they suggested an US to stage my pregnancy. Well, this morning I had a vag u/s and it put me only at 5 to 6 weeks. Knowing when I tested pos on the home preg test I should be at least a minimum of 8 weeks. I am so upset. I have been crying all day. They drew my lab but I know that this is not a viable pregnancy and an bo. The two hardest things are feeling pregnant and not having a real baby inside and now waiting for the "miscarrage" because I don't want surgery. My world is crushed. My hubby doesn't understand...he says we will again and it will be ok but he didn't feel what I felt...the dreams each night of having a baby...the "growing pains" I have felt....I feel so robbed...........I know I can probably have another baby but I feel so empty................how long will it take for me to miscarry??? I see my doctor on Monday...but that will kill me to wait.....I hate this. Thanks for listening.
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Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on Apr 15, 2005 15:06:35 GMT -5
Amy,
I am SO SORRY you are having to go through this. 8 Weeks is kind of on the border of being able to be sure it is a blighted ovum. I don't want to give you false hope, but you might want to hang in there for some further testing just to be sure.
I didn't start to miscarry until 11w3d. That is actually when mine was diagnosed, it was too early for a h/b when I had the one appointment at the OB. I also had all the symptoms and thought everything was going well. It was as if my dreams all went up in smoke in just an instant. For me I was bitter, sad, lonely (I shut my husband out) and just generally depressed. It does start to get better, but the initial part, where you are now, was so awful. I do promise the pain starts to fade although there will always be a "scar" for this having happened. It's hard, if not impossible, not to be scared with further pregnancies. Most people go on to not have further losses. I had two more pregnancies and no more losses after my blighted ovum.
The question of "how long" before you start to miscarry is different for everyone. I wish there was some specifics. I hope you will find closure soon, if in fact you are destined to lose this little one.
*hugs* I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better.
Lin
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Post by kurby68 on Apr 20, 2005 6:50:00 GMT -5
Amy
I am sorry that you are going through this. I had my b/o in July 2004. It is one of the hardest things that I have had to endure, but it is true that time heals all. There are permanent scars but you do indeed heal. Please keep us posted on how you are doing.
Take care Kallie
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Post by justinsmomma on Apr 21, 2005 6:01:59 GMT -5
HUGS I am so sorry for your loss hun. I have had two blighted ovum m/c, with a healthy child in between. I know how hard it is to wait for the inevitable to happen. Please ask if you have any questions or need support or HUGS!!!
You are in my prayers during this sad time
Kris
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Post by Lauren on Apr 21, 2005 7:18:18 GMT -5
Dear Amy, I am so sorry for the pain you are going through right now. I had my bo on December 22, 2004, and it was the worst day of my life. I know how horrible you are feeling right now, and that there is nothing any one can say to make that easier for you. Have your blood test come back yet? That might help give you some idea of what you are dealing with. I will tell you that I had a D & E, and that the procedure was not painful or difficult at all.
My thoughts are with you and I wish I had more to say to make you feel better, but I know there is nothing that will help right now. Lauren
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Post by yelhsatrah on Apr 21, 2005 9:48:41 GMT -5
Amy,
I know exactly how you feel. I just miscarried my b/o on Sunday. I didn't relly understand what happened. I can tell you to lean on your husband. They are great support.
I was 9 weeks and 1 day when I found out and I miscarried at 9 weeks and 5 days.
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Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on Apr 21, 2005 13:06:46 GMT -5
yelhsatrah, welcome to the board, I'm so sorry for your loss {{{{{hugs}}}}}} Lin
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Post by amyldougj on Apr 21, 2005 14:44:46 GMT -5
I know how you feel. I was 12wks 2 dys when I found out about my b/o. I was 13 wks when I had my natural miscarrage. My husband was the best durning my b/o and I'm sure your husband will be there for you also. At 12wks I had already started wearing the maternity clothes. It is very hard to except the fact that you were robbed. Just dont be afraid to cry, yell what ever it takes for you to get through this. This site is a great site and will give you as much support as you need. Good luck on your Monday appt. Please post and let everyone know how you are. Take care Amy
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Post by Lauren on Apr 21, 2005 18:48:06 GMT -5
I am so sorry for all of you who have just gone through this, or are in the process of going through this. It is a terrible thing to have to endure anad there is nothing any of us can say to make it easier, but knowing that so many other wonderful people had gone through the same emotions has really helped me.
My thoughts are with you all. Lauren
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Post by justinsmomma on Apr 21, 2005 18:53:03 GMT -5
Hi yelhsatrah,
I am so sorry for your loss as well. Please feel free to vent, cry, or ask for a HUG. We have all been there.
HUGS
Kris
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Post by kurby68 on Apr 21, 2005 19:26:45 GMT -5
Welcome yelhsatrah,
I am sorry that you have to be here. Please let us know if you need anything.
Take care Kallie
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Post by cowlover on Apr 25, 2005 12:54:08 GMT -5
This is Amy and I thank you all for your support, hugs and words of encouragement. Yes, I was like amyldougj who started wearing maternity clothes..I was almost "12 weeks". My belly was getting more pouchy and round....
I had my miscarriage starting last week...Wed. night was so bad for cramps and bleeding but now I am better. I am going to buy a little charm of a baby foot to wear for my little angel. My husband has been great. I think it made us even closer. I valued life before and now I value it even more.
Thanks again for all your support and thoughts and prayers. This site is a blessing and a healing process.
Love, Amy in MT
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Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on Apr 25, 2005 13:49:38 GMT -5
Amy, I think buying a charm is a wonderful idea to help you memorialize your baby. I had a book that was given to me to fill out about my pregnancy (not a baby book, it was different, I've never seen one before or since). I wrote down my feelings and said goodbye to her (or him), and I still have it and always will. I think that doing something to show that he or she matters is a great step at showing love and helps to say goodbye.
Lin (also in Montana!)
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Post by kurby68 on Apr 25, 2005 17:25:59 GMT -5
Amy
That is a very nice way to remember your little angel. I am glad that you are feeling better. We are her if you need us.
Take care Kallie
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Post by Lauren on Apr 25, 2005 20:57:32 GMT -5
Dear Amy,
I am so sorry for your loss. I know how painful it is. Please let us know if there is anything we can do for you. Lauren
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Post by jenniferlynn on Apr 26, 2005 10:34:25 GMT -5
Dear Cowlover,
I know the pain you are feeling. Hang in there things will get easier. Keep praying for peace, and understanding. Everything happens for a reason, though we may never know what the reason is. Things will never be the same, but they will get better. Someday you will hold a little one.
Jenny
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