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Welcome
Apr 12, 2005 6:46:38 GMT -5
Post by kurby68 on Apr 12, 2005 6:46:38 GMT -5
I have noticed there are a lot of new members. I just wanted to welcome all of you and say how sorry I am that we have to be here. If any of you need to rant, rave or cry on a shoulder there are a lot of us here that will be here for you.
My name is Kallie. I had a bo in 7/3/04. My 4th of July will all be a remembrance of that. I started spotting 7/2 and went to the ER where I was told after an u/s that I had a bo and the ER dr told my husband that I have no reason to be upset because I was not really even pregnant. It was ugly that is for sure. Right after we left the ER I did not go home to rest I logged onto my computer and looked for information which Lindy and many other woman provided me on my road to healing.
Please feel free to post and introduce yourself. If you have questions there are a lot of us that are here and more than willing to answer your questions.
Take care Kallie
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Welcome
Apr 12, 2005 13:54:58 GMT -5
Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on Apr 12, 2005 13:54:58 GMT -5
Thanks Kallie for starting this thread My name is Lindy, although on the computer I often sign things as "Lin" completely out of laziness. My blighted ovum was discovered on October 14, 2000--2 days before my first wedding anniversary. It was my first pg and I thought everything was going well. They couldn't hear the h/b at my first OB appointment but I was told that it was normal because it was early. At 11w3d I woke up with cramping. I went into the bathroom and saw blood. I immediately went to the E/R where they did a transvaginal ultrasond and I hear the word "blighted ovum" uttered for the first (actually, and only) time. I was asked if I understood that my pregnancy was over and I left in a state of shock, horror, and grief that I thought wasn't possible. I left a message for my OBGYN, who didn't bother to return my call. I called back a few days later and they finally made an appointment for me to come in on the following Friday. I was told the diagnosis was an incomplete m/c and I was scheduled for a D and C the following Friday. I asked about what the u/s tech found (she told me to ask the Doctor) and her only reply was "I thought they told you in the E/R". This was when I realized that there wasn't much information out there at all. I spent hours and hours and weeks and weeks trying to find answers. I found only a few sites that even mentioned what it is. Almost five years later there is at least more information out there. My website ( blightedovum.kokopuff.net/ ) was up about 6 months later on Tripod.com. They lost it (it literally disappeared with some other's accounts information overwritten on top), it got rebuilt on Geocities and is now on it's own domain. Lots of misinformation happens, like Kallie's insensitive response by the Dr. I'd heard the same thing. The truth is that an egg was fertilized, it stopped developing at some point and the pregnancy was lost. The comments like that upset me the most, it devalues (IMO) what we suffer after this loss. I went on to have two children, and was lucky to have no more losses. My kids are now 1 (2 in June) and 3. I've met some wonderful ladies online, and I hope that our losses do some good in that by forming together we can provide a kind of safe haven for those who have experienced this. There are some wonderful ladies on this board, and we welcome anyone who wants to join. I'm sorry you have to be here, no one should have to experience this, but we are here as shoulder's to cry on, for infomation, or just as support. hugs, Lin
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Welcome
May 2, 2005 14:13:40 GMT -5
Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on May 2, 2005 14:13:40 GMT -5
I see we've got some new members, so I wanted to bump this thread to remind everyone you are welcome to start a new thread or bump an existing one if you feel up to some support. We all have had different experiences and usually someone can relate to what you are going through and comment.
New people should never feel like an intrusion, we are here to listen and to help. We've all been there at one time or another. I know it's hard sometimes to get started, but we are all very welcoming and caring...I'm amazed by the women here. I've yet to see any kind of conflict. It's truly a good place to be.
Lin
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