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Post by my3girls03 on Jun 21, 2012 12:49:00 GMT -5
I went to the OB at 5 weeks and 3 days. They saw nothing and asked me to come back in a week. I'm 38, I have had 4 successful pregnancies and 4 healthy deliveries. No history of miscarriage. I lost my 5 year old son in a tragic accident when he was age Five, 4 years ago. My LMP was May 8...we were only intimate the night of the 25th The sono tech dated me at 6 weeks 5 days. I'm actually 6 weeks 2 days. (I measured 2 days ahead by sac size) Today I saw nothing there. The years came instantly. I know what it's supposed to look like:...but ive NEVER had an ultra sound this early. She wanted me to go over IMMEDIATELY for a D&C I asked to wait so she gave me till Monday and told me if I bled heavily to go to the ER. I've had NO BLEEDING. Not a spot. Her internal exam said I was progressed as was normal. I'm devastated. We WANTED to have another baby. We tried for over a year an FINALLY when it happens I get a smack in the face. Shouldn't I be cramping or spitting? Should the baby be visible at 6 weeks 2 days? And if they want to get technical, we had sex at 11pm. I'm not even halfway through day 2 of my 6th week. What if I do this thing she wants without waiting? I will feel like its "possible" I killed my baby!!! Just because they couldn't see anything at 6 weeks 2 days. I don't know what to do. This is so new to me. LOSS is my daily companion....I never dreamed I would lose anothe child.
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Post by my3girls03 on Jun 21, 2012 12:50:37 GMT -5
I have never had HCG count tests. Nothing. Just a sono an a urine test to confirm the pregnancy. She's a great doc. She handled my last pregnancy 4 years ago. I don't know what to think!!!
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Post by my3girls03 on Jun 21, 2012 15:49:46 GMT -5
I immediately went back after reading information online and asked for an HCG today and will ask for another on Monday when they do another scan (all have been transvaginal) I'm preparing for the worst but holding to a tiny hope that it's just so early God this sucks.
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Post by existential27 on Jun 23, 2012 19:12:29 GMT -5
I'm so sorry you are going through this. It would be helpful to have hcg tests 48 hrs apart to see if they are doubling, as well as if they are within the expected ranges for your dates. When I had by BO, I had an US with an empty sac at 6 weeks 3 days, and my hcg levels were 900, only increasing slightly in 48 hours. I started bleeding heavily a couple days later.
I definitely WOULD NOT tell anyone to have a D&C so early, especially based only on US. Sometimes, the baby can't be seen on US before 7 weeks, and even a bit later in rare cases. When one gets past 8 weeks and at least 2 US done a week to 2 weeks apart have shown no heartbeat, that's more conclusive of a failed pregnancy in my opinion.
Not all women spot or bleed with a BO-- some end up needing intervention to miscarry. If one has really high HCG levels, it can take the body a long time to recognize the failed pregnancy.
I would still hold onto hope, and if this truly is a loss, make sure you get all the confirmation you need before having a D&C. Some women choose to miscarry naturally because that's the level of confirmation they need. I hope you don't have to make that decision, and it really was just too early to tell.
And, I'm very sorry about the loss of your son. It has to be so hard facing the potential loss of another child. My heart goes out to you, and I pray things work out for you.
KC
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Jun 25, 2012 1:13:10 GMT -5
I completely agree with KC I would wait. I have seen women on here give up all hope then a miracle happens. Unfortunately I also agree that sometimes there are no physical signs, I did not have any for my BO except a little spotting at 13 wks. Please keep us updated my thoughts are with you. (HUGS)
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Post by my3girls03 on Jun 25, 2012 11:29:08 GMT -5
Thank you guys SOOOO much! I have agonized all weekend long. I KNEW the date of conception. They had me off nearly a WEEK. Today? Yolk sac. Fetal pole and strong heartbeat measuring 6weeks 1 day!!! I am now crying tears of JOY! I still can't believe they nearly sent me over to KILL my baby! I'm finding a new doctor. ASAP I DO have a pocket of blood near my sac that they have put me on progesterone for. Now THAT WORRIES. Me
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Post by existential27 on Jun 25, 2012 13:58:21 GMT -5
So happy for you seeing the baby today! I hope the progesterone helps, and the pocket of blood resolves. Sorry, I don't know anything about that or remember anyone mentioning a similar situation on here, but maybe someone else has experienced it. It's been really quiet on this board lately-- one happy reason being that lots are busy taking care of the kids they had after their losses.
I hope and pray that things continue to go well for you!
KC
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Post by my3girls03 on Jun 25, 2012 20:29:04 GMT -5
Thank you!!! I think it's called subcronic hematoma? She said its very common, that it mostly clears up before the end of the first trimester BUT!!! If not, it can cause placental abruption if it gets behind the placenta. We actually thought this "sac" was a TWIN when we first saw it. It wasn't until today they actually TOLD me what it was because they thought it was the culprit for the BO. It CAN cause a miscarriage but not likely. It's the leftover from either implantation bleeding OR from the rapid growth of the gestational sac. (at least that's what I've read). I'm on the Proesterone "just in case" as they only did the HCG test I requested last week so she's adding it till they get my progesterone levels back from today's blood draw. She seemed quite mortified that she nearly sent me too early. Every nurse there went silent and one had tears in her eyes. I'm ANGRY that doc didn't give me more time before scaring the mess out of me. I SWEAR when I was younger they never DID anything till you were 8 weeks along. Even THIS doc wouldn't see my pregnancy till 8 weeks when I was 35. Is it my age and "high risk"? I don't know. I just shudder to think how many other women she's diagnosed so early!!! Maybe their gut didn't tell them to wait or they were young and inexperienced. It hurts my heart. My prayers for everyone here who has suffered and I am so thankful many of you have been blessed with children after a loss. Your such strong women. I'm not out of the woods yet but little Bean has made himself known. Hope all will be well. So much love and hugs for this group. I was desperate for information and found you straight away. Thank you or being here!!!!!
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Post by carlsangel on Jun 26, 2012 3:48:04 GMT -5
I went through a very similar situation last fall. I have had several losses and my most recent was an ectopic pregnancy. I got a positive pregnancy test last sept. and went in right away for blood work. My HCG and progesterone were very low so I started to have them monitored.they were rising, but not completely doubling. I went for my fist u/s at 5w2d and there was nothing but an empty sac. I went back one week later and there was a very large sub chorionic hemmorage/hematoma and the sac was still empty and has actually shrunk in diameter. The radiologist came in the room (something that had never happened in any of my pregnancies)and told me it was definitely a failed pregnancy and there is no way it could continue. I also had the dr in the walk- in clinic i had been to call me later that day and tell me to schedule a D&C with my OB. When I went to see my OB, he convinced me to wait one more week. At the u/s one week later, there was a perfect little baby and heart beat. The bleed had also started to shrink. So, I dO agree that Drs are far too quick to diagnose miscarriages these days. I'm so thank ful for my good old fashioned OB dr who didn't have much faith in the u/s machines or even in my HCG numbers. I'm so glad things worked out well for you...I will be praying things continue to do so. I am also very sorry for the loss of your son.Someone here in my town just lost their 4 year old little boy when he fell off the bulldozer he was riding with his dad. I can't imagine the pain. Please keep us updated. I really wouldn't worry about the bleed. I have had that with several of my healthy pregnancies.
~Hannah~
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