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Post by venusapollo on Aug 29, 2011 14:10:32 GMT -5
I am so frustrated. Beyond frustrated. I posted most of what has been going on, but this is the continuation. I found out July 9th I had a blighted ovum, started bleeding July 18th and had a traumatic "miscarriage" on July 21st. The bleeding has continued ever since.
Without knowing what to ask the doctor or what is normal, I saw a few people say(friends of family too) that it can last sometimes 4 weeks. At the start of week 6, last week, I called the doctor, also concerned due to a developing odor that was really strong. He asked me to come in immediately, quoting the process should have only been 1-2 weeks, not 6. At the dr office I passed a rather large mass, something similar to the miscarriage on the 21st. He said I had the start of an infection and gave me antibiotics, assuming that there is still tissue left behind. He had me go get a blood test for HCG levels and an ultrasound. I didn't get to talk to him and he hasn't called me back, but the day of the ultrasound his receptionist called and told me he had sent a prescription for provera to my pharmacy to take for 10 days in a row.
I now understand why people choose a d&c to get it over with. I thought it was odd that they prescribed provera and since taking it the past few days have noticed no change in my bleeding. I am calling the office today to ask what the blood levels were and ultrasound results...was there anything? are the pills a precaution? was there a lot of tissue still? am I still going to need a d&c after all this anyway? something I could have done 6 weeks ago? I just want to move forward and my body just keeps refusing to cooperate. I want to see an end in sight to all this.
If anyone has had a similar experience with the miscarriage not working out naturally I would love some input or peace of mind.
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Post by alspals13 on Aug 29, 2011 18:31:03 GMT -5
Venusa...so sorry to hear you are continuing to heal your body with not many answers. have you heard back from the dr? there must be something more going on...
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Post by venusapollo on Sept 1, 2011 9:26:49 GMT -5
I got a hold of my doctor and he said my HCG level was 11 and he would have preferred it be 0-3 this far along after the miscarriage. The ultrasound showed tissue that was left behind. I have two more provera pills. Supposedly when I stop taking them it will spur a period/flush of tissue (even though I have already been bleeding 7 weeks straight.) I would have thought with my experience back in July and rushing to the ER there was no way there was anything that didn't make its way out. Guess I was wrong.
If the pills don't help with material passing, then we have to do a d&c, and all this time waiting around for 2 months will have been for nothing. In the meantime each dr visit, blood test, u/s, etc has been a $20 co-pay and we have spent at least $400-500 and that would be fine and dandy if I was still pregnant, but this is just heartbreaking. I almost feel like every option the doctor has chosen has been to prolong this and create more $ for their services. We were originally told that the 9 month pregnancy would charge $3000 flat to our insurance for all dr visits with one $20 co-pay. Losing the pregnancy changed that. We had a charge for $929 to the insurance for one dr visit(our first and only for the pregnancy part)/one week on our insurance bill, our co-pay being $188 which just seems like fraud or something. I have to call and find out why or if there was a mistake since it just boggles my mind.
I keep trying to find a date to look forward to, something positive to grasp onto. At this rate, we won't be able to TTC until December or January by the time my body hopefully gets back to normal.
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Sept 3, 2011 9:37:28 GMT -5
I know how frustrating it is but believe me when you are holding a little one it will all be worth it. I have been through numerous losses but we have just decided to try for number 3 and the thought scares me but it look like I should be joining the cruise in about dec. we can cheer each other on. I don't have much to say about the money thing as I live in Canada and we don't pay for anything but it sounds crap to me.
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Post by venusapollo on Sept 8, 2011 18:31:51 GMT -5
Thanks for the support ladies. The progesterone has not helped the process so my doctor has me set up for a D&C. I am nervous and scared and worried about the risks, wishing I could have done this 2 months ago and just been done with it. I have to meet with someone Monday and then schedule the surgery for later in the week. If anyone has had a D&C can you please tell me what your experience was? I am going to read through some of the stories in a bit. I am just praying that the end of this is in sight soon as the bleeding and doctor appointments are taking their toll on me. We just want to start TTC again.
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Sept 9, 2011 20:05:58 GMT -5
I had a D&C with my first loss. I found it relatively easy (in fact out of all my losses physically it was the easiest). There was a little cramping after and period like bleeding for a few days but that was it. When I first got home and the first night I was tired but I think that was the anistetic but other than that I had no other issues. We should be joining the TTC cruise at about the same time (hopefully) so please keep us updated it is nice to have people that are either in the same place as you or have been there before to support you through this journey.
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Post by stillwaiting on Sept 10, 2011 9:28:18 GMT -5
Hi, I just wanted to share my experiences with D and C. Hopefully you will feel better. I have had 2 D and Cs and with both I recovered very fast. For the first the I was awake. Though the pain was tolerable the emotional pain was not but for the second I was put to sleep and it was all over in 20 mins. I had very little bleeding after both and was tired for a day or two but I resumed normal work in 2 days. So please don't worry about the procedure. You will be done with the physical pain in no time. Good luck with it and keep us posted.
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Post by venusapollo on Sept 10, 2011 11:01:53 GMT -5
Thank you for calming my nerves a bit. My doctor mentioned a twilight sleep, maybe not being fully out, he wasn't positive since it is a referral out of office. He also mentioned that they use a small camera to ensure they have done what they need to correctly. I have a friend who has been anti-D&C from the beginning and she tends to give me all these awful stories so I had to shut her down pretty quick and ask her to refrain since this is my last option and I don't need added stress. I am assuming that since I talk to someone Monday, I should be in later that week for the procedure. This process has been dragged out long enough as is. I thought with that traumatic trip to the ER I was surely done with it. But two months later, obviously not. If my AF does the usual thing i won't have a period for at least 2-3 months, then we can start trying, which is the light at the end of all this I keep reminding myself of. I will keep you posted. Thanks again for your support. *hugs*
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Post by Heather (hlam) on Sept 10, 2011 13:19:47 GMT -5
I'm just getting back to the board but read through your story and wanted to let you know how sorry I am for all that you have had to go through. I hope that having the D & C will finally put an end to the physical struggle that you have had to endure for the past 2 months. It is hard to look forward when your body isn't allowing you to move ahead. My heart goes out to you and I pray that all goes well for you next week and they get the procedure scheduled quickly....kind of seems like doc has been dragging his feet a bit!!! Hugs!
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Post by venusapollo on Sept 24, 2011 17:45:37 GMT -5
I am hoping to stick with this new doctor from here on out. I had the D&C a little over a week ago Friday. The worst part was getting the IV and the antibiotics coming through it. I don't remember anything from the surgery and have not had any pain or cramps. By the next day the bleeding had stopped for the first time in 2 months. She told me that if I had been her patient we would have done all this back in July. I am upset that it has dragged on this long due to not knowing enough info and having a doctor who was lagging. I have had some spotting since then and the dr office said I needed to lay low and let myself heal (even though I feel fine). I have a follow up appt on Tuesday and hoping this is all behind me and the spotting stops soon. The new doctor had mentioned provera or progesterone to help regulate my periods for a few months so we can start TTC again. Not sure which would be better or if they would help, I just don't want to wait 3 cycles at 3 months apiece the way my normal body handles AF. I am crossing my fingers that after so many things that are not supposed to happen in a pregnancy and miscarriage that the surprises are finally over.
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Post by empower on Oct 10, 2011 20:21:14 GMT -5
Hi Venusa
Just checking in to see how you are feeling - you would have had your f/up appointment by now.
Drop by and let us know how you are doing - BIG HUGS
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