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Post by aimee510 on Jul 31, 2011 9:13:44 GMT -5
I went to the doctor this week and was supposed to be 8.5 weeks pregnant. He didn't see anything but the sac. He said I have to come back in a week for a follow up us to see if anything had changed. they had me do the blood work for the RH (which made no sense since there isn't a baby in there) but didn't mention anything about checking my levels. They didn't really explain my options about what happens after the u/s on Thursday. I told them I wanted to book the appointment right away for Friday to get this removed right away so I can get back to normal and start trying again. But now I am at home and looking into what the procedure is and reading about this D&C and it looks like major surgery. are they going to put me under? I hate IV's. so I am panicking and going to call my doctor tomorrow. I saw someone else in the practice who turned out to be a guy in my surprise, so the visit was off to a bad start before we even saw there was no baby. I am panicked and think maybe I should cancel Friday and just wait it out. but I fear how long it will take to pass naturally? assuming i am right around 8 weeks, which I could be give or take a week since my cycle is long, about how long will it take if I wait it out? Am I looking at 2 weeks or a month? or two months? which method is less harsh on my body? I want to start trying right away as I am already 33 and was so excited that the baby was going to arrive before my next birthday. I am extremely angry (not sad) that all my good news and joyous feelings were snatched away from me in an instant with a doctor I wasn't even comfortable with. Please advice?
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Post by existential27 on Jul 31, 2011 11:38:55 GMT -5
I'm so sorry you are going through this. It's good you are scheduled for another ultrasound as that will help confirm if you have a blighted ovum. I wouldn't necessarily call a D&C major surgery. It's a very quick procedure, although often women are put under general anesthesia which requires an IV and a breathing tube. Honestly, I don't remember too much about having the IV put in, and I was out for the rest of the procedure. I had my D&C done at a same day surgery center, and was in and out in about 3 hours. The physical recovery was very easy-- I didn't have much pain or much bleeding, and was back to my normal routine in a couple days.
It is very hard to know when a natural miscarriage will start. For some women, it never does start on it's own, and they end up needing either something to get it started (like medication) or end up having a D&C. As you get farther along, like past 11-12 weeks, the risk for heavy bleeding can go up. Many women go through natural miscarriage without problems, but there are those few who have complications and end up needing emergency medical attention, at all weeks of gestation. I don't want to scare you about natural miscarriage-- again, it usually happens without complications, and the same is true for D&C's. It' a personal decision, and both have their own risks. There is the uncertainty of when a natural miscarriage will start and how it will play out, but then it avoids having to go through a medical procedure. I don't think there's much difference on recovery time for either route.
I'm sorry you had to hear this from another doctor. Would your next appointment be with your doctor, or the same one you saw before? I do think it is important to have at least 2 ultrasounds, at least a week to 2 weeks apart, for comparison. That will show if there has been any more development, or if things are starting to break down. Depending on the mesurements of the sac, the second ultrasound may be enough to confirm the diagnosis. I always tell women make sure you get all the confirmation you need before going through a procedure that can't be reversed. If this does not appear to be a viable pregnancy, I think your options come down to waiting to see if anything changes, waiting for a natural miscarriage, taking medication to help start a miscarriage, or having a D&C.
Know that you have found a great place for support as you go through this!
KC
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Post by venusapollo on Jul 31, 2011 13:12:57 GMT -5
I'm so sorry you are going through this. Hopefully seeing some of the "success" stories here will give you hope as they have for me. I was somewhere between 6-8 weeks when I found out I had a blighted ovum from an u/s. My Dr checked my hcg levels that day and again 2 days later to confirm the levels were going down. He said the sac was around 6wks 4 days. That could mean I was farther along but the sac had stopped growing. My cycles are irregular(3 months). My m/c started about a week after we found out. The dr confirmed the 2nd blood test on a Saturday. He said to call him if 2-3 weeks went by without anything happening. The natural m/c started a week later on a Monday. I had complications that Thursday and had to go to ER for a few hours of severe bleeding. I most likely would have been ok at home but our dr didn't warn us that sometimes most of the material passes all at once, so I was a little more scared having not expected it. I wish I would have read through the story section here first to see how many different experiences there are. It is now a week later and I am still having a bit of bleeding. I wanted to avoid d/c because for some reason in my head I kept thinking if there were a mistake and the baby was somehow still viable I didn't want to get the procedure. The natural process made me feel that 100% we had lost the pregnancy. I understand the want to move forward quickly and try again. I am 31 and this would have been our first child. I am eager to try again but know I have a few months of waiting until after I have a normal period. (I guess I could ignore dr and try now anyway, but I think 3-4 months is ok to wait.) I have heard mixed reviews on the d/c mainly because of possible scar tissue. Again, reading through the stories on here may help give you some additional info to make a decision. I hope whatever you decide that it goes as easily as possible for you and you have the support you need emotionally and physically to get through this tough time.
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Aug 1, 2011 22:31:24 GMT -5
Everytime someone new joins us my heart breaks. I am so sorry for your loss and that you have to go through this. I have m/c by D&C, natural and with meds. I wouldn't say one way is better than the other. The D&C was the easiest but I didn't want to take the risk again so I chose the meds the second time they worked in one day and it was over and the only reason I m/c natural is because it was a chemical. I wish I could give you the answer about which way is best for you but you are the only one who can make that decision.
Just remember we are here for you when and if you need us. The women on this site helped me through so much. Even now there are times that the ladies have been an incredible support. (((HUGS)))
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Post by mdax75 on Aug 2, 2011 16:19:40 GMT -5
Hi Aimee,
I'm very sorry to hear your story. I understand very, very well what you are going through and feeling right now. I just had a natural m/c yesterday at 7 wks, 5 days. I started spotting a week ago Sunday, and found out a few days later via u/s that my pregnancy had never progressed beyond 4 weeks, 2 days.
It's a heart-wrenching and frustrating experience to try and decide what the best way to proceed is, since all options will end in sadness. I had decided that I would ask for a D/C if I hadn't m/c naturally in one week. I just wanted it over with, and like you I was (am!) angry and confused. If it helps at all, I'm now happy that my body took care of itself naturally. I wasn't fun, but I had an u/s today and am told everything is "clean". I can tell you that the physical act of m/c was much easier than the emotional side. I hope you have a loving and warm support system around you.
Like you, I would like to heal quickly and TTC again as soon as possible. I'm 35, so I totally get it. I sincerely hope that whatever you decide, you find peace and all goes smoothly and without complications. I've found a lot of comfort from the stories and women here. Good luck to you.
m.
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