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Post by venusapollo on Jul 18, 2011 14:13:31 GMT -5
Like many here I just found out last Saturday that we had a blighted ovum and lost our first pregnancy. I had been feeling morning sickness and breast tenderness since early June, but for some reason thought I had an ulcer or something. We took a pregnancy test on June 22 and were so excited. The dr confirmed and we saw an OBGYN the following week. He guessed I was at 5-6 weeks. My periods are not regular. I have them about every 3 months so it was hard to date the pregnancy accurately. He ordered an ultrasound and we went on July 7th. They didn't see anything on the monitor at first and then decided to send us to our OBGYN instead of just having us talk to an onsite doctor. The dr explained that they saw a gestational sac at about 6 wks and 4 days but no yolk sac or fetal pole. He had me go get a blood test that Thursday and then again on Saturday. My hcg levels were at 28,000 Thursday and then 14,000 on Saturday July 9th. He said that my body should miscarry in 1-2 weeks but because of my high levels it might take awhile. The feelings of morning sickness and soreness went away almost immediately when I found out. I have had some mild cramping ( I never get cramps) in the last week but nothing has happened. So now I am sitting around feeling like I never got to see the baby or confirmation I was pregnant and until I miscarry it just all feels like a really good then really bad dream. The doctor was saying I will need to come in and get rh shots as my husband is positive and I am not. He also advised a 6 wk follow up exam after miscarriage and then 3 cycles of waiting before trying again. That could be 9-12 months for me. I don't want to wait that long and I have seen some people say that fertility can be high after a miscarriage. The waiting game is driving me crazy. I just want to be pregnant again and be on that excited high and right now I feel totally out of control. I haven't felt that happy in so long. Seeing other people's stories gives me comfort and hope. I know it isn't my fault and was shocked that 1 in 4 people miscarry, but being in limbo is just excruciating.
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Post by alspals13 on Jul 18, 2011 16:05:27 GMT -5
I know I replied to you in a diff post too, but I just read your full story and want to let you know that my doc told me to wait only 1 cycle afterwards and only as a barometer for my body to make sure everything is back to normal. And it makes it easier for them to know dates in the future without confusion of it running into this current "pregnancy". So I really do not think 3 cycles is necessary according to the explanation my doc gave us. Also she even explicitly said that if we do get pregnant in the first month after, there is NO harm in it, just makes it a little confusing for the doctors. Hope that helps?
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Jul 18, 2011 23:38:01 GMT -5
I am so sorry you had to find us. This site has been great for me. These ladies have saved my sanity. As for fertility being higher after a m/c I don't think that changes anything. I have seen women on here get pg right away and others take a long time. It took me 9 months to get pg with DS after my BO. Please remember this isn't your fault and there is nothing you could have done different to change the outcome. Have you tried asking your Dr. if there is reason he says to wait three months? We are here for you. (((HUGS)))
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Post by venusapollo on Jul 21, 2011 9:56:27 GMT -5
I think the 3 month wait is just to have a few regular periods and emotionally get ready again. I have seen various people say they were told 1-3 cycles. My doctor may be forgetting my irregular cycles though. I am guessing I was around 6-8 weeks. The gestational sac they saw on July 7th that was empty was around 6wks 4 days. So I am hoping that the early miscarriage means an easier miscarriage. I started bleeding Monday night. By Wed. it had gotten pretty heavy(at least for me). I never get cramps and I have them now, along with a lot of pressure in my vaginal area, lower tummy and rectum. My periods are usually 4-5 days and pretty light. I am seeing a little bit of material/tissue each time I go to the bathroom but just small clots. I am not sure if that is enough. I had to go get blood drawn Tues to see if i had developed rh antibodies, which I hadn't and then wait 45 minutes at the hospital to get an rh shot. Not fun. I stressed myself out to the point I got a migraine which has been re-occurring daily since Tues. I am not sure if I am supposed to go see the doctor on my own after this for a check up. When he last talked to me about waiting for the miscarriage he said to come in 6 wks after for a check up. That seems like a long time to wait to know if I had a complete miscarriage.
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Post by venusapollo on Jul 22, 2011 10:16:49 GMT -5
My bleeding had been light to moderate since Monday but I had a heavy flow on Wednesday and lots of cramping. I was noticing a few clots and some tissue each time I went to the bathroom. Thursday was more of the same. In the afternoon my DH and I went to meet with friends at the park. The cramps and bleeding were pretty heavy. We went to an outdoor mall for ice cream and I went to the bathroom then was sitting outside. All the sudden I felt a gush and got up to go to the restroom. 5 ft later I felt another gush. And looked down to see I was dripping. I had soaked my pad, my leggings and had blood on my legs and feet. I went to the bathroom and there was blood everywhere. There were some very large masses of tissue coming out at this time. The first person to come in was an employee and I sent her to get my friend and husband. They came in and tried to calm me down and clean me up. My DH bought some clothes at the store over while I washed up. The restaurant employees blocked off the restroom for us. My friend said there was a trail of blood from the front door to the restroom. I was bleeding really heavy and after making it back to the car with just my regular pad and wet rinsed out underwear under new clothes we decided not to risk it and just went to the ER. The gushing started again 10 minutes later at the ER check in. I ran to the bathroom and caught it just in time. The nurse brought me a stack of heavier pads. We called our OB since I was going through a pad every 10-15 minutes and the ER was packed. I kept feeling the heavy gushes. This was about 8:30pm. Our doctor called us to ask some questions and called the ER to have me seen sooner. I think we waited about 1.5 hours. They drew some blood, took a urine sample and then did a pelvic exam. After cleaning out a lot more tissue and blood with some gauze he said that he could see that my cervix looked like it had been open and was now closing back up and that the bleeding should taper off a bit. They gave me a shot for the pain and cramping and another shot to help with the bleeding. My Dad showed up for support before we were seen and my DH had him come in for a bit to sit with me. My blood pressure was high the whole time (around 160-165 when it is normally 125) so they were a bit concerned but it was better than low bp which meant too much blood loss. When we left the ER it was 3am and I felt like the bleeding and cramping had gone from 100% level 10...down to 60% or so. They gave me Tylenol with Codeine(I refused Vicodin) and some pills to help with bleeding(counter intuitive but we will talk to our DR today) and something for a urinary infection which they diagnosed. I was in complete shock last night and pretty traumatized. No one had warned that there could be such a sudden "hemorrhaging." If I had know I would not have been out in public or would have bought the huge pads. I am exhausted on 3 hours of sleep but couldn't stay asleep. I know I will be resting a lot today and my DH stayed home from work. I feel better but am still in a little bit of shock and wish I had fair warning. The bleeding is much more manageable today, but the ER still warned about the of incomplete miscarriage. I don't see how given the amount of blood and tissue I saw last night. They said to watch for fever or severe pain in the next week or so as an indicator of left behind tissue that can cause infection. I really hope no one else has this kind of experience and everything goes "normal" and as expected.
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Post by carlsangel on Jul 22, 2011 11:57:35 GMT -5
I am so sorry you had to go through that. I had a miscarriage in Dec. At 10 weeks an the same thing happened except the tissue wouldn't let go and I almost hemmoraged out. They called a dr in for an emergency D&C, and that helped the bleeding. The truth is, no one can warn you, because what happened to us isn't exactly typical. My first b/o was nothing close to that...I did have bleeding and passes tissue, but I never leaked out of a heavy pad. I would say my biggest warning sign that my body wasn't letting go, was that I spotted for a few days first before I hemmoraged.The dr told me the reason you hemmorage is because there are parts of the placenta that are stuck to the uterus and if they dont break free, those blood vessles remain open.With my first m/c once I started bleeding, it gradually got heavier, then got lighter after the worst was over. So, you never know what will happen...I definitely wasn't prepared, and it was my 3rd miscarriage. I just that God that I happened to be visiting my sister in the hospital when mine happened because I might not have made it otherwise. Well, I will be praying you have a speedy recovery and no more complications. Hugs! ~Hannah~
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Post by alspals13 on Jul 22, 2011 13:04:05 GMT -5
I just read your story and it brought tears to my eyes. I am so sorry that you had to go through such a traumatizing event. Hopefully they now have everything out and you are on your road to recovery and better times. I have been thinking about you and hoping that the worst is over with and you can move on from here. I am here for any support you need.
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Jul 22, 2011 14:43:00 GMT -5
I felt the same way when I took the meds. No one warned me that it would be so heavy I couldn't get off the toilet because even a thick pad wouln't hold it. I am glad I was at home I can't imagine what it would have been like to be out and have that happen. That is one reason I chose meds so that I knew when it was going to happen and could be somewhat prepared. Like Hannah I have had more than one m/c and they were all different so there is really no way to tell what each person will go through. I am sorry you had to go through all that on the positive side at least the worst is most likely over. (((HUGS)))
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