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Post by mzr on Mar 12, 2011 9:59:56 GMT -5
Oh B. Holding your hand, sweetie! I hope it was just too early to see the HB. A few things that may help you get thru the next few days with hope... As I've said a few times on other threads, the fetal heart doesn't start to beat until 27-28 days after conception (6wks LMP) so, literally, a day can make the difference. Also, LMP measurements are based on a 28 day cycle. So, if your cycle is even 29 days or 31 days, that will change how "far along" you are. And, third, u/s are good but they are not error proof. The margin of error for first trimester u/s is 1 week. So you could be as early as 5wks pg now even though that sounds unlikely based on your LMP. BUT, again, fertilization can occur upto several days after ovulation. I guess my point is don't give up hope just yet.
Thinking of you, M
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Post by bangladesh10 on Mar 14, 2011 17:10:25 GMT -5
She didn't mention anything about a yolk sac. She referred to what she was looking at as a 'smudge.' I go back tomorrow morning so I should have an answer either way soon I guess.
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Post by bangladesh10 on Mar 15, 2011 0:20:54 GMT -5
God I am so nervous about tomorrow. When I went in last week for the first u/s my pulse was 85. Every time I start to think about the u/s I can just feel my heart start pounding in my chest. I'm just going to have to get up tomorrow, drive to the dr., get my news either way, go to work, and continue life as normal. But first I have to find a way to fall asleep tonight! Boyfriend is out of the country for work which really sucks.
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Post by bangladesh10 on Mar 15, 2011 11:23:32 GMT -5
Well it is definitely over. Im going to try and wait and just let this one pass
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Post by existential27 on Mar 15, 2011 12:55:18 GMT -5
Oh, no! I'm really sorry the news was not better. I take it that you may have been alone getting the news, too? I don't know what else to say but my thoughts are with you right now.
Big hugs to you!!
KC
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Mar 15, 2011 21:08:31 GMT -5
I am so sorry to hear your news. Take care of yourself. We are here for you (((HUGS)))
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Post by mzr on Mar 16, 2011 8:52:21 GMT -5
Oh b, I am so sorry. I was really hoping that everything would be alright. But please don't lose hope. Take care of yourself and know that we are here for you whenever you need us! Hugs, Marisa
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Post by bangladesh10 on Mar 22, 2011 17:05:56 GMT -5
Thanks again for everyone's support. I had kept my expectations low but it is still real hard to swallow. My boyfriend is especially depressed. He said he had always been optimistic about our ability to have children and now he's really convinced himself that it's not going to happen. I don't feel that way but it's so sad to me that he does. The dr. said that after the miscarriage happens they would do some fertility testing. I know most people say they won't test until fter 3 times so I don't know if our insurance will cover it but i think we'll go ahead and do it anyway. Does anyone know what kinds of tests she is talking about? Will my boyfriend need to be tested? How long does this process take? As I mentioned I'm 33 and we are anxious about time. I'm at about 8 weeks. I'm hoping I'll start to miscarry next week since last time I had the D&C at about 9 weeks and the dr. said based on the ultrasound it looked like i was about to have miscarried at that time. I'm kind of OK just waiting but i know my boyfriend is anxious to do the testing and i guess try to start again. Our wedding is in July - I kind of wanted a break until after the wedding but I guess a lot is up in the air and I'll just wait and see. Sorry if I'm rambling.
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Post by bangladesh10 on Mar 22, 2011 17:13:51 GMT -5
p.s. My HCG level when I went in at 6 weeks 3 days was 30,000 and then at 7 weeks 1 day it was about 50,000. Today I think I am 8 weeks. I don't know how fast the HCG levels can fall and if this can tell me anything about when I might pass the tissue. I've asked my dr. but she is extremely condescending and doesn't want to seem to give me any straight answers.
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Post by existential27 on Mar 23, 2011 8:56:27 GMT -5
Your hcg levels seem really high to me-- in comparison, mine were in the 900's when I started miscarrying my BO. With levels that high, it may still take awhile for them to drop.
As for testing, one big thing that is often tested is for blood clotting disorders. Also thyroid levels, and some female hormones that play a role in pregnancy, including progesterone. Others on here have mentioned vitamin D levels, too. Blood tests are usually the first place to start. Considering that you were able to get pregnant, there's less likely to be issues with your fallopian tubes or uterus, but some doctors do an ultrasound to check those things out. The main thing they do with men is a semen analysis/sperm count-- but again, since you were able to get pregnant, there wouldn't necessarily be a rush to do that.
There are definitely things that can help if a woman is found to have blood clotting issues or hormone issues, like taking baby aspirin or other medications, or supplemental progesterone when pregnant. But, often times, nothing abnormal is found in the testing. Many losses do come down to chance. Sometimes the best you can do is take good care of yourself, and try to be as healthy as possible in mind, body, and spirit while you keep trying.
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Post by venusapollo on Jul 18, 2011 14:01:17 GMT -5
What a rollercoaster you have been on. I just found out last week that we had a BO and am waiting to miscarry. It is hard to find ways to calm myself and not go to that scary place where the worrying goes wild. I hope you find ways to truly take care of yourself during this difficult time. I guess there is some comfort in knowing I am not alone. *hugs*
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Post by bangladesh10 on Aug 26, 2011 14:56:32 GMT -5
Hello again. Well I am pregnant again. 5 weeks today. No symptoms beyond the peeing. My boobs had been kind of hard but a few days ago they lost the hardness. This 3rd pg has so far been the worst emotionally. I can't bear to let myself think itll work out and I just keep imagining in my mind that first u/s and hearing the bad news, another d&c etc. My husband is leaving on a 3 week trip so I'll have to go to the doc alone again this time. It's crazy -part if me is hoping this depression is a pregnancy symptom while the other part realizes it's a rational reaction to a crappy reality. I would do anything to have a healthy baby but this waiting and disappointment and then trying again is really awful. In oct it will have been a year since we first started trying and also my 34th bday
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Post by stillwaiting on Aug 28, 2011 10:36:16 GMT -5
I am really sorry for your earlier losses. I had 3 miscarriages in the last 2 years and right now I am 7 weeks pregnant. I know exactly what you are going through. I had a tough time coping with each of them and this time I just feel I don't have it in me to face another BO. I dread the u/s and I am due for an u/s on sept 2. I pray that things work out for you this time. Are you on any medication? My doc put me on progestrone and I m hoping it will help. I am worried as I have not seen any changes in my belly in the last 2 weeks. I thought it should grow every week. Keep us updated on how things go. I found a lot of comfort in this website and I hope everyone will be there for me. Lots of prayers,
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Post by rita828 on Aug 28, 2011 12:06:37 GMT -5
Good luck to both you ladies. I will be keeping you in my prayers.
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Aug 28, 2011 23:04:15 GMT -5
Good luck! Many of us have had more than one loss and then a successful pg. My pgs with both my boys were full of worry. Every little symptom or lack of symptoms was full of emotion. I am crossing everything I can for both of you. (((HUGS)))
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Post by bangladesh10 on Aug 29, 2011 20:00:02 GMT -5
Thank you both. I am pretty convinced it's not going to work out. I know my body well enough by now . I've read that symptoms can come and go but they pretty much just went about a week ago. I am taking baby aspirin, folgard and progesterone. I hadn't wanted to measure my HCG levels due to the stress but now that I'm convinced it's not progressing I'm going to go in and have them measured. My understanding is that the progesterone can prolong the pregnancy and I certainly don't want that if it's another BO. So hopefuly the hcg will shed some light. Otherwise i wait till next fri for the u/s. After 3 in a year I'm starting to really think there is something wrong with me. Has anyone read the "is your body baby ready" book about immune problems? Good luck with your ultrasound Still Waiting. I don't think you should be seeing any changes in your belly at 7 weeks, maybe just bloating.
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Post by stillwaiting on Aug 29, 2011 20:38:51 GMT -5
Hey, Don't loose hope. Its still early for you to jump to conclusions. I know its tough to stay positive. I am having a difficult time myself but our negative thoughts will not help us. So lets stay positive. Pregnancy symptoms may vary from day to day. I feel like I am having nausea some days and other days I don't feel pregnant at all.
So keep up your spirits and get your hcg levels checked if that will help you feel better. Lots of prayers,
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Post by bangladesh10 on Aug 30, 2011 20:47:50 GMT -5
Thanks still waiting. I just got my test results back. My HCG is 15,000. My doc said he would expect about 30,000 and i should come back in two days. From what I've seen on the web though my level looks fine. I'm 5 weeks 4 days. However, last time they had continued to rise so I guess it's not a predictor for me. Just telling me it will be along time before i naturally mc and i'll probably end up in the operating room again for a 3rd d/c. Of course I have that tiny glimmer of hope but psychologically I just can't let myself get my hopes up. On the one hand I haven't gotten any hard scientific evidence that things aren't OK. On the other hand my symptoms stopped so abruptly, like before, and have been gone a long time now. Each passing day I wake up with no symptoms it gets harder and harder. I'm grateful for this board to have a place to vent like this.
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Post by stillwaiting on Aug 31, 2011 20:26:38 GMT -5
Glad to hear that your hcg levels are good. I am also not have any symptoms except breast tenderness. I have heard that for some people there are no symptoms and for a few others the symptoms suddenly kick in after 7 weeks. So hang in there. You never know...you might have an u/s and see a healthy growing baby!
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Post by bangladesh10 on Sept 2, 2011 19:03:39 GMT -5
Wouldn't that be a nice surprise. I could not get my 2nd hcg test results today b/c i guess every doctor is on holiday. At least I only have 1 week left now till the u/s. It's hard to believe it's only been 2 weeks since i got the bfp. Seems like an eternity.
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Sept 3, 2011 9:30:10 GMT -5
I will cross everything I can for you. Keep us posted.
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Post by bangladesh10 on Sept 3, 2011 10:46:00 GMT -5
p.s. good luck on your ultrasound sept 2 Stillwaiting !!!
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Post by bangladesh10 on Oct 7, 2011 21:25:27 GMT -5
In case anyone was wondering - it was not good news and I had my 3rd D/C 3 weeks ago. I just got the chromosome test back on the tissue and they found nothing wrong with it. They told me it was a girl. I'm not sure why they felt the need to tell me that. Anyway the doc says "try again." I'm getting really sick of hearing "try again, chances are next time will work out." If they spend half as much time researching miscarriage as they do erectile dysfunction maybe we would have some answers.
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Post by meeko08(Lisa) on Oct 7, 2011 21:39:00 GMT -5
I agree with you on that one. Sorry you had another loss. It doesn't get easier even though you have been through it before. The decision to try again should be up to you. I don't think the heartbreak is ever understood properly by dr.s I found most don't really understand what we are going through when we have a loss. (((BIG HUGS)))
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Post by Heather (hlam) on Oct 8, 2011 19:06:37 GMT -5
So sorry to hear about your loss! It is good news that there was nothing wrong with the tissue but I'm sure that leaves just as many questions as it gives answers. Sending big hugs your way. I'm really very sorry!!!
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