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Post by jennym412 on Jan 26, 2006 12:30:32 GMT -5
Hi! My name is Jennifer. I'm 27 years old. My dh is 27 as well. We started ttc in September of 05 and were so excited to find out we were pg with our first baby in November of 05! We found out when I was only 4 weeks pregnant. I went to my first ob appointment in December when I was 6.5 weeks. They couldn't find a heartbeat with the doppler, but they told me not to worry and that that was fine and normal and maybe they just couldn't find it, and it was still early. Everything seemed to be going along fine. I had some nausea and lots of bloating and veins. I requested that I have an u/s at my 11 week appointment (Jan 18, 06). I went in for the u/s first and the u/s tech asked me if I was sure about my dates. I thought that was weird. She said that there was no fetus in the sac and she got the nurse to take me up to the doctor. I was told I had a bo/missed m/c and the sac measured 8 weeks. They recommended a d&c since I had not bled at all. My dh and I were so upset. We went ahead and had the d&c that same night. I have a follow up appt with the dr next week (it has been 8 days). Now, we are waiting for me to get af again and start ttc again. I really hope it turns out better next time.
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Post by mle24dec on Jan 26, 2006 18:41:15 GMT -5
Hi! My name is Michelle. I am 33 years old and my dh is 32. We have a beautiful dd who is about to turn 6. I found out on December 17th that I was expecting. We were so excited and couldn't wait to tell our dd. Unfortunately, I started bleeding on December 18th. I wasn't concerned because it wasn't much and I had bled with dd. I knew if I called, the doctor would say, "rest and no intercourse for 3 days." When the bleeding continued, I called and they sent me for bloodwork. The doctor said my levels were great. They sent me for an u/s on 12/30. The tech was great. She asked me about my dates, and of course I wasn't sure. She said everything looked fine, but that I appeared to be only 6 weeks and it was too small to see anything or detect a heartbeat. She told me not to be worried - it was probably implantation bleeding...Right after my u/s, I started bleeding much more heavily. I called my doctor and he said to take it easy - no work until my appt. He said that it could be a host of things and that some women bleed their whole pregnancy. He said he would know more at my appt. On 1/6/06 I went for my first office visit for this pregnancy. The doctor said that my cervix was closed, which was good. He felt that I likely had placenta previa, but he wouldn't know until I had another u/s. Amazingly I got in that day for an u/s. This tech was not as nice and I knew right away that it was not placenta previa. She didn't say anything about the screen. She just made small talk. When I asked her a question, she made a "joke" that she couldn't say anything for fear of "death." She just takes the pictures and the radiologist reads them. It was an excrutiating 30 minutes for and u/s and then I had to wait for the radiologist. After waiting for what seemed to be an eternity, they actually put my doctor on the phone - which I knew wasn't a good sign. He said that the sac was only measuring 5.5 weeks, but since the u/s was done at a different place, he couldn't be sure of anything. He mentioned the possibility of a b/o, but said he'd want me to go for bloodwork, etc. I could tell by the way he talked that he was pretty sure it was a b/o, so I asked him straight out and he said, "yes." They sent me for more bloodwork to confirm everything. My levels were dropping. They recommended a D&E and I had it done on 1/13/06. I am feeling pretty good now and I am thankful for the closure. We are looking forward to trying again soon, though my doctor recommended waiting 2 cycles before ttc. I am anxious to get pregnant again, but I want it to be God's timing. My daughter said we'll have a baby next April. Wishful thinking or prophecy? I guess we'll find out For me, I am very thankful for the way it happened. God was very kind to me. On 12/18, while at church, I thought I heard Him tell me, "I'm taking this one." Of course, I didn't want to believe it was Him, so I pushed it aside. Now I know, He was preparing me for what was to come. I am thankful that I bled, indicating something was wrong. I would not have handled it as well had I found out at a routine u/s or doctor visit that there was no baby. I am so thankful for all of the support I received from family and friends and from this website. I don't know why this happened, but I know that God's hand was in this whole thing. I will miss my baby, even though I only had him a few weeks, but I know that he is in good hands now. Thanks to all of you who have been so wonderful to answer questions and offer support. You are wonderful and I pray that God brings healing to each of you and blesses you with a healthy baby in the future. ***I just wanted to update this a little. I wrote the original part of this post on 1/26/06. Since then I went on to have one additional m/c in May 06 followed by a very healthy successful pregnancy due April 7, 2007. Keely Diamond was born on March 31, 2007. I am so thankful for this site. I learned so much and received so much support. I hope you find the same comfort and support as I di
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Post by tweez2 on Jan 28, 2006 23:25:06 GMT -5
hi im michelle me and my husband have been trying for 4 years to have a baby and finally in december 2005 i was pregnant. i took at least 5 test because i wasnt sure it was actually true i was so happy i had my last peoriod at the beginning of october so i calculated at least i was 6 to 8 weeks prego. well i went to my first doctor appt on dec 29th and had a u/s and the doctor just saw shodows in the uterus no sac or nothing he said i was prob only 4 weeks pregnant and had me go and take blood test and my numbers were 2400 which was good he said for a early preg well on new years eve i started to spot and it really upset me so i called my doctor at home and he told me to keep track of how many pads i used and he would see me on that tuesday well by then i was bleeding lightly but i knew i was loosing the baby at this point and when i went to see the doctor he told me i had a b/o and that i would miscarry on my own just like a period i didnt have much pain at all just felt like a light period well anyway im still upset and im slowly getting over it but i want a baby so so bad it hurts. well thanks for listening to my story and just wanted to let everyone know im ovulating so hopefully all get pg again soon thanks michelle
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Post by klk on Feb 10, 2006 7:55:25 GMT -5
Hi, I am 42 years old. My husband and I dated in High School and then went our separate ways. We found each other about 20 years later. We picked up right where we had left off - and I wound up pregnant in May 2003. I did not know it at the time, since I had never been pregnant before and didn't know what to look for. On a whim I took a pg test, it came up positive - however, three days later I started to spot. By the time I got in to see the doctor, it was over. They think I was about 8-9 weeks pregnant. This might have been a BO - it was not diagnosed, though. Then I got pregnant again in January - this one ended quickly - I think at about 5-6 weeks. In May 2004, right before I turned 41, I was pregnant again. My worst fear was a BO. I had an u/s done at about 6 weeks - we saw a sac that measured on target - but no heartbeat. Between that appointment and my next one - two weeks away, I knew for sure it would be a BO. God smiled upon me and there was a heartbeat. In January 2005, I delivered a healthy baby boy. We were not trying to not get pregnant - and in January 2006, I took a pg test, and it was positive - I was elated. I figured since I had just delivered a baby last year, that this would be smooth sailing - wrong. Last Saturday, I started spotting - When I finally got into the doctors office, he did an u/s - the sac was empty, measuring 6 weeks - where it should have been 8.5 weeks. Blood tests confirmed that my HCG levels were not rising as they should - diagnosis - BO.
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Post by dani on Feb 11, 2006 1:32:50 GMT -5
Hi, I'm Dani and I live in Newport Beach, California. I am 35, DH is 41, and we have been married for 10 years. Actively started to have a baby at the end f 2004. DH and I found out I was pregnant the first time while vacationing in Hawaii with family the first week of August 2005. Went to the doctor the next week, but because I was only 5 weeks pregnant they said it was too early to see how things were going with an u/s. Almost one week later I started spotting, and two days later it was confirmed with u/s that there was nothing developed in the uterus, therefore diagnosed with BO. Blood tests indicated that my hormone levels were way off. Miscarried naturally with no pain, it was just like a regular menstrual cycle. On December 30th, 2005, DH and I were again in Hawaii celebrating New Year's with another couple, and knowing I was 1 day late, took a preg test, and it was positive. Very anxious, very scared, but happy to know I could get pregnant again. Had first doctor's visit at 6.6 weeks and saw the yolk sac and the heart beat. Hormone levels tested within range...but no follow up labs ordered. Went back for follow-up visit at 9.9 weeks, midwife couldn't find fetus, called doctor in, he found fetus, but I knew immediately that something was wrong because there was no heart beat. Doctor said the baby stopped growing at 8 weeks. Haven't started to spot yet. Will try again when the time is right.
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Post by tamra on Feb 21, 2006 19:55:23 GMT -5
Hi! My name is Tamra and I'm 42 years old (will be 43 in April). I have 5 healthy children age 22 months to 14 yrs. Have never had any difficulties w/PGs or TTC (not that we ever tried - it just happened). We found Christmas eve 2005 that we were expecting number 6. We were excited and very surprised. After finding out, we decided that this would definitely be our last. Then everything changed. I always had nausea with every pregnancy and I did not with this one - my first clue that something might be wrong. Still I remained positive. Then, at 8 weeks (even before my first ob appt), I started spotting. Again, I didn't worry too much, because I had a little on my 5th PG that went away in a couple days. My OB sent me for blood work, which came back fine at a level of 13,000. On the 5th day of spotting, I was getting ready to leave church and noticed a difference - no spotting, but bleeding and clotting. Went to the ER as directed by my OB. Found out I had a BO through a u/s. Was devastated! Had a second u/s on Monday eve (hated going through that again) to see if the sac had delivered. It had not (which I knew). Finally got to see my OB on Wed. and she gave me the option of a D&C (really only needed the 'C' because I was already dilated). It had been a week since I had started spotting and emotionally, I couldn't take anymore, so my DH and I decided to go ahead with the surgery. I'm glad we decided that. It's been very emotional. Of course, we had said that this would be the last PG, but now I would like to have another, but my husband is not real positive about wanting to do that because of my age and some other non-health related factors. We are still praying about it all.
I've been blessed with many great supporters at my church. They provided meals for us for 2 1/2 weeks, prayed for us, and sent many, many cards (many of whom have had miscarriages themselves). I'm grateful for them and don't know how I could have made it without them. But, I know we'll see our little Aleda (means small and winged) in heaven someday.
Thanks for letting me share!!
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Post by snikkijo on Mar 13, 2006 12:22:39 GMT -5
My name is Sherri, I'm 29. I have an 8 year old son from my first marriage and new husband is 31. We found out that we were pregnant on 2/5. I had been having light menstrual cramps for 4 days even though my period wasn't due until 2/10 (that never happens!). I knew then that i was probably pregnant and the HPT confirmed it. The line was so light that I took subsequent tests for the next 3 days and the line always got darker so we were thrilled. We hadn't been trying to get pregnant, we were just letting nature take it's course assuming that it would happen eventually. I called the doctor's office and had my first prenatal appointment on 2/10. On Monday, 2/13, the lab results came back and my HCG level was 462. My doctor thought that was kind of low but within norms. He scheduled a sonogram for 2/20. I had the sonogram and there was nothing but an empty sac, but because I was only 5 weeks (according to the sonogram), my doctor assumed that we had done the sonogram too early. Going by the first day of my last period, I should've been further along (first red flag, but we just figured that I conceived later than I thought). I had brownish-pink spotting the morning after the sonogram and went to the doctor. They tested my HCG and my level and, the next day, we found out that it had gone up to over 9,500 in just 11 days so the doctor assumed that everything was fine and just scheduled me for another sonogram. At this point, we were really excited that things were normal. But the next sonogram on 2/28 just showed an empty sac again (2nd red flag)and we got a little worried. My doctor also showed concern because I was 6w3ds according to the sonogram and there was still no sign of a baby. On 3/3, they took my levels again and they were only up to 36,000 and were no longer doubling every 2.5 days...they were doubling every 5 days (3rd red flag). But because they were still doubling, my doctor said there was a slim chance that everything was fine and scheduled me for a 3rd sonogram on 3/10 (last Friday). That sonogram showed another empty sac even though I was supposedly almost 8 weeks and, at that point, the doctor made the official diagnosis and gave me the option of having a D&C or letting the miscarriage happen naturally. I chose the D&C. Even though I had been expecting the news of a blighted ovum (although I had never heard the term prior to this pregnancy), it still hurt. My D&C is scheduled for Friday 3/17 and we actually hope to try to conceive again. Thinking that we were pregnant with a healthy baby was so exciting that we've decided to work at making it happen again. That oughtta be real fun! I'm so glad I found this site and you ladies here. You're helping me to pull through this and I'm glad that I can be here for other women that are going through the same thing. This site is amazing.
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Post by lilly2740 on Mar 16, 2006 0:01:52 GMT -5
Hi, my name is lilly and I am 27 years old and my DH is 29. We have twin boys that are 3 and a great joy. I got pregnant after we had been married a year and we weren't even trying. So the twins were a surprise but the best thing that ever happened to us. We decided in dec we were ready to ttc and I got pregnant in Jan. I think I took my first healthy pregnancy for granted because I was not worried with this pregnancy. I had all the normal symptoms and was excited to go to my doctor. On 3-3 I had my first appt and an u/s at 9 weeks to find that I had a bo. I had my d & c on 3-8. I am so sad for the loss of my baby but my dh and friends have all been very supportive. It just helps to hear from people who understand what I am going through.
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Post by linley on Mar 16, 2006 8:14:05 GMT -5
Hi, my name is Linley (33yrs( from Perth,Australia.I feel so blessed to have found this site.I thought I would post my story, I hope I have done it correctly.I had my 1st BO on 2 Jan 06 followed by a D&C the next day.I was approx 9 weeks and was told there was a gestational sac measuring 5 weeks but it was empty.I came thru the D&C ok as I made a friend in hospital and we were able to support each other. We decided to keep trying as we thought it was just one of those sad but irregular things that happen and I fell pregant.I have just had my u/s 2 days ago and once again there was an empty sac measuring 5 weeks 3 days when i was 9 weeks again.My husband does not seem to understand what I am going thru, in fact it is driving a wedge between us.So with that and 2 BO's in a row I am not coping very well at all.Blaming myself for not having waited for a period before trying again or do my husband & I have some chromosomal disorder we're yet to find out about.I do feel blessed to have a 12 yr old daughter from a previous marriage.I have started bleeding this time around(the previous I had no bleeding at all), still very light but am panicking that this will quickly become very heavy and painful.At this stage I am to have a repeat u/s next Tues to confirm and then booked in for another D&C the following day.I am concerned that these repeated D&C's will cause more issues on top of this too.Thank you all so much for being there. Linley
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Post by momgreenlady on Mar 24, 2006 11:33:12 GMT -5
Well I just found this board yesterday. At this point in time I have not miscarried but the drs told me to prepare for it. We are still holding on to some hope that a miracle can be worked. This is my first pregnancy and we have been trying since May of last year. I started to bleed over two weeks ago so they brought me in for a sonogram. They were in complete shock when they saw that I had 3 sacs in my uterus. They were even more shocked when they found out I was not on fertility meds and I'm only 27. They took blood and my counts were going up but not doubling like they should have been. A week later I went in for another sonogram and that is when they told me that all 3 were BO! The dr. told me what to expect for a miscarriage and offered no other alternative. The talk was like it was done and over. My husband and I are holding on to every ounce of hope that we have that these 3 babies will form and a miracle will have taken place. I'm prepared though for the downside of things I just can't imagine having this wonderful miracle of 3 and then losing them all!!! It's just too much for me to take in. So it's not over until it's over for me!
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Post by sunprincess78 on Mar 26, 2006 1:54:48 GMT -5
Hi this is the first message board I have decided to post on. I am 27 years old and had my first blighted ovum and m/c Feb 10th of this year. It was going to be my first and like so many other I told everyone. So when I miscarried it was the hardest thing to tell everyone. I actually started bleeding on the 8th and bled/spotted until Feb 28th, so for those of you going through a natural m/c it takes a while. It was the hardest time to finally be done bleeding without a constant reminder. But I got my period on March 10th, so please keep your fingers crossed and I will for all of you. Thanks for letting me share.
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Post by tocrestore on Mar 30, 2006 22:23:15 GMT -5
My name is Katrina I'm actually living in Australia but started searching the web and came across this forum. I have 3 children already but my husband & I decided that we might like to try for 4th baby. Have just found out Wed that I have a blighted ovum at 9 weeks gestation. Am waiting to have D&C next week. Its breaking my heart at moment as I haven't miscarried and my body is still acting like I'm pregnant. I'm finding it hard to tell my husband exactly how I feel as he has taken it as a sign that not to tempt fate, for me I had waited 5 years for him to say that he would like to try again as our 3rd pregnancy was quite difficult due to a car accident I had at 20wks pregnant. What are the chances of it happening again?
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Post by christina on Mar 31, 2006 14:43:02 GMT -5
This is my first time posting to this board, hopefully I'm doing this right. I had a normal pregnancy and delivery 2.5 years ago. It was so easy it was surreal. Last September, I began spotting at 12 weeks to only find out that I was miscarrying. According to the u/s the sac was empty and it was considered a blighted ovum. I had the D and C done. To my surprise, after trying for 5 months to get pregnant, I found out that my tubes were 100% blocked. The specialist suspected that I had an infection after the D and C and it went unnoticed. My husband and I have been on this emotional roller coaster for the past couple of months through all of the testing. We had ourselves geared up to try in vitro over the summer when we found out two weeks ago that I was pregnant. Since I wasn't supposed to be able to get pregnant, we had blood tests and an ultra sound right away. To my disappointment, I was diagnosed with another blighted ovum. I'm so confused with all that has gone on this year that I feel exhausted about all of what has been happening. I will take any words of advice anyone has to share. I think that I should ask for the genetic testing but I'm so tired of tests, yet I so desperately want another child. Since we were able to conceive without in vitro, I'm now wondering if we should still go ahead with that or wait.
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Post by waltal on Apr 10, 2006 10:06:25 GMT -5
Hi, My name is Amy. I am 27 and have just had a d&C for my second b/o this past week . Both were lost within 8 months of each other. I am beyond devasted and feel hopeless that I will ever be able to be a mommy. I hope to find so kind of comfort here and maybe some answers God willing. Both b/o's were confirmed through ultrasound after I began noticing a brown discharge first time at 10 1/2 weeks pg and the day I turned 12 wks during this last pg. THis time the doctor sent out the tissue removed to do chromosome testing. I am so afraid to try again but am even more afraid of never experiencing being a mom. I am so blessed with a wonderful DH without whom I would never have gotten through any of this. NO one in my family has ever had any problems with fertility and i feel completely alone in this. I just pray that our prayers are answered and we find out whats going wrong and are able to have our beautiful baby one day. I am glad that i found this site because maybe i won't feel so alone in this and will be able to get some good information from women who are going through the same thing. Thank you and good luck to you all .
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Post by mariam on May 24, 2006 18:36:36 GMT -5
Hi my name is Maria I am 26 years old . We have been TTC for 3.5 years. In the beginning we had gone through a lot of test and they have determined that my DH's sperm was low in motility. At that time he had to go through the varicocele surgery. Even though that corrected the problem, we were still unable to get pregnant, as it was now an unexplained infertility, as all the cycles looked fantastic.
Finally after 8 IUI's, accupuncture and 1 IVF we finally got pregnant for the first time. Finding out a positive pregnancy result and seeing the levels double over the next two weeks was fantastic and we were sooo excited. However, I had a little bit of spotting around 6 weeks, which was very minor and I was told not to worry about it as many women spot and my HCG were at an excellent level. However, we have gone for our first u/s yesterday at 7 weeks and we were given the most devastating news that it was a BO pregnancy. When we got the news, we both felt numb, and completely crushed. After such a long time and such an excrutiating ordeal it was not a viable pregnancy. Now, I have to wait until next week to get another u/s to confirm the results, unless I m/c before than, otherwise I will have to undergo a D&C.
This has been the most crushing moment in my life and I could not stop crying for the whole day. But in the end, you have to get through it as life goes on and we will continue trying with the frozen embryos that we have left.
For everyone out there who has m/c: Never lose hope and hang in there. We will all get trhough it.
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Post by lauri on May 27, 2006 0:18:50 GMT -5
Hi everyone, My name is Lauri, and I had a BO almost 3 years ago. It was the worst and hardest thing I will ever go through, and I dont' know if I will ever get over it. The worst part though, was the lack of understanding that people have! They say the stupidest things, even people in your own family. But we were able to try again relatively quickly, and 5 months later, I became pregnant with our daughter, who was born in Jan of 2005. She is happy and healthy, I'm glad to report. But nothing will ever take away the pain of losing that first child. Yes, as far as I am concerned, it was a child, and I will miss that child the rest of my life. I'm sure you all feel the same way I do. Maybe someday, we can all find peace, and come to terms with this, but I'm not sure that is possible. God bless you all!
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Post by jadejo on May 31, 2006 21:48:04 GMT -5
Hello, my name is Julianne. I have been married for almost 4 years and this was my first pregnancy. My DH and I had been trying to get pregnant for a couple of months. I found out I was pregnant in April 2006 when we were on vacation in Chicago. In the middle of the night a few days after I found out I was pregnant I noticed that I had been spotting. To be safe, when I returned home a few days later, I went to my doctor. She did an HGC Beta test that day and one 48 hours later. She said my numbers looked great. My DH and I proceeded to tell everyone we were pregnant. On May 5, 2006, I went in for an u/s at 8 weeks and was told by the tech. it did not look "like a normal pregnancy". My DH and I were absolutely devastated. I went in a few days later for a D & C. I have been going in every week to have my HGC Beta levels measured until they go down to zero. We are anxious to try and conceive again but I am scared this will happen again.
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Post by jennygrl84 on Jun 8, 2006 20:00:12 GMT -5
On Tuesday 06/06/06 , I went to get my first ultrasound. Supposedly I am almost 9 weeks. I was so excited to hear the heartbeat. It never crossed my mind that something would be wrong. As the ultrasound tech pressed around she looked worried. She found the sac and I saw a little dot. I though "great there's the baby". To my surprise she could not find the heartbeat. She said something about the doppler not getting red near where the bloodflow should be. She told me to go empty my bladder and wait in the waiting room. She said they would probably have to do a vaginal ultrasound. Also she said it would help me see the baby better. I knew something was wrong. My boyfriend and I waited for an hour to see the doctor. We got called in to the exam room where I thought that the vaginal ultrasound would be done. The doctor came in and said there was no baby. After I heard that I was devastated and don't remember much from there. I do remember her saying that I would miscarry by next week and to just go home and wait. I wonder now if she should be doing more. I should be having bloodwork to test my HCG levels. She should have asked if my dates were mixed up. Or possibly I don't ovulate the standard two weeks after my period. I just needed some answers so I left a message last night and asked for the doctor to call me back today. The nurse called instead because the doctor wasn't in. My mom had answered the phone because I've been staying with her since I heard the news. The nurse asked if something was wrong. My mom said "no, she just has some questions to ask". To which the nurse replied " The doctor already talked to her what, kind of questions could she possibly have?" Talk about insensitive! How could I remember what she said to me in my state of devastation? All I know is that she wrote down "blighted ovum" on a paper towel , gave me a box of tissues, told me to go home, and sent me out the back door. And about the questions I have I answered myself by researching on the internet. Like if it was possible to misdiagnose, yes. I saw the dot and not an empty sac like other ultrasound pictures of blighted ovums i have seen. Should I change doctors after the unprofessional way she has dealt with this? Isn't there more she should be doing. "Maybe instead of go home and wait for yourself to miscarry" she could have said "go home and rest, let me know if you have cramping or bleeding within the next week and if not, we will do a vaginal ultrasound". I don't know what to do, I left work today almost as soon as I got there, I know God only gives us what we can handle but I am not sure in this case. It is too much to be given such a blessing and have it taken away from you. I really thought I was gonna make it through the first trimester. I must have been a fool to think this was going to work out for me. On top of all of this I have decided to break up with my boyfriend who had told me all along to get rid of it. He pushed me around knowing full well it could hurt the baby (though I know b/o is no ones fault) When we found out there was no baby he seemed supportive at first. That lasted about two hours. He then proceeded to ask me as I sobbed in grief, "when are you gonna leave". The next morning he was singing in the bathroom as he got ready for work. It is just too much to be dealing with this. My doctor said that the baby stopped developing a few weeks ago. So it was a baby and now its dead?
Jenny
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Post by heather1975 on Jun 13, 2006 13:07:57 GMT -5
I am new to this board and I am glad I found it. I had my first miscarriage 10 years ago when I was a senior in college. My doctor told me it was a Blighted Ovum although I didn't know what that meant. I had a D&C. This past September I miscarried again at 8 weeks and was told it was another Blighted Ovum. I had yet another D&C becuase other than my HCG levels not rising, I had no cramping or any other symptoms. I am ready to try again but I am petrified of another. I keep putting it off because I am too scared. I have an appt. July 7th with a new doctor who will hopefully shed some light.
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Post by wightd on Jun 28, 2006 23:22:30 GMT -5
My name is Danielle. When m husband and I married almost 3 years ago...we had a very clear plan. Establish ourselves professionally and then have a family. Never imagined the second half of the equation would be so time consuming and emotionally difficult...aah..to be young. I turned 30 in March and was excited to discover soon after that I was pregnant. I was trying to be quiet about it..but we had international travel planned for the summer so I told parents and a few friends. Our first ultrasound at 10w revealed BO and we were both devastated. We opted for D&C and waited for weeks for period. We have the go ahead again in July...only one problem...my irritable cyle seems to have lengthened by 1 week (38 days!!!!). We are now limited even more. This lengthening seems to be perm (had a m/c before the b/o that resulted in the 47 day cycle BO preg and now 2 straight 38d cycles)....frustating. We are trying agai mid July and end of Aug..say your prayers for us!!! Thaqnks!!!
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Post by misd76 on Jul 6, 2006 10:52:22 GMT -5
Hi! My name is Misty. In July of 1998 I was diagnosed with a BO. I was going through a pretty messy divorce and my ds was just about 2. I decided since my sister could not have children I would let her adopt this baby. It was an extremely hard decision, but I knew that it was best for everyone involved.
My sister took me to my first Dr's appointment. The doctor really made me feel good about the choice I made to let her adopt rather than abort. They ran all the normal tests, did blood work, checked my uterus, etc. She sent me to have an US. A vaginal US was performed and I knew immediately something was wrong b/c there was no heartbeat. She asked me if I was sure I was 10 weeks and I was very positive, 100% positive. I kept asking where is the heartbeat? She just said the doctor will be in in just a minute. I was just laying on this table telling myself this can't be happening, my poor sister. The doctor came in and looked and the US and basically told me that my body "thought" I was pregnant. I was like What? It thinks I'm pregnant. She continued to say the sac formed, but the baby didn't or stopped growing, but my body wasn't able to recognize it. She said I would miscarry in the next few weeks and just to let nature take it's course. I begged her for a D&C, b/c I had to work and I had a child to take care of. She refused and said just let it happen naturally.
I was devastated! Not so much for me, but for my sister. I felt like she was finally getting what she wanted and I had let her down. She really tried to be strong for me, but I knew how hurt she was.
The next day at work I started bleeding pretty heavily, like a normal period. My boss told me to go home and I was terrified of being alone so I went and stayed with my sister and her husband. This happened on a Wednesday. I bled for just a few hours and that was it. The doctor told me I still had not passed the tissue and just to sit back and relax. I called, or should I say I harassed the doctor several times a day begging for a D&C. By Friday nothing had happened, and I really needed to get out of the house. I had lunch with a friend of mine, a male friend (we'd been best friends since I was 14) and he was terrified it was going to happen while we were together. When we got to the restaurant, I felt something "pass" out of me. I said OMG I think I just had the miscarriage. I went to the restroom and there was a large blob of blood and I thought, Yep that's it. I thought it was pretty easy and I worried for nothing.
That night I went out dancing with a friend of mine and stayed out pretty late. The next morning I got up and my mom and brother had just left the house. Luckily, my ds happened to be with his father when all this took place. I was on the internet and all of the sudden I just felt this gush of blood and I ran to the bathroom. There was blood everywhere. I passed clot after clot and it was like a constant stream of blood and clots. It was awful. After 15-20 minutes, it finally stopped (or so I thought). I took a shower, laid down on the couch and called my sister and told her it happened. While we were talking it started happening again. I let her go and went into the restroom again. I started to get very weak and I remember turning off the light and the next thing I remember was my mom coming home. I had passed out in the bathroom for several hours. I tried calling out for my mom, but I was so weak I couldn't talk very loud. I heard her calling my name and she finally heard me and she said why are all the lights out? She then turned on the bathroom light and I was on the floor white as a ghost and blood everywhere. I told her I'd had a miscarriage - she had no idea I was even pregnant. She called the doctor and the doctor told her to bring me to the hospital. I couldn't get up. I told her I just needed something to eat, b/c I felt weak. She kept saying Misty get up, let's go. I kept asking for one more minute. Finally, she said I'm calling 911.
When the paramedics got there they picked me up and put me on a gurney, after doing a few tests. (I'm not really sure how they got it into the house, we were packing and there were boxes everywhere - there must've been 5-6 people in the bathroom with me and it was a tiny bathroom) Once in the ambulance they started an IV and the medic told me to keep talking to him. I couldn't I was just so tired. I told him I would later and he said no you have to keep talking to me, don't go to sleep. It took him a good while to get the IV into me, b/c my veins had collapsed.
Once inside the hospital the doctor and a nurse checked me. It was the worst pain I'd ever felt in my entire life and I've had 3 babies. The doctor and nurse were both upset that my doctor didn't do a D&C immediately. They said when a BO happens it should be done immediately b/c you can hemmorage, like I did. They performed a D&C and also 2 blood transfusions.
After surgery and some rest the doctor came to my room and told me I was knocking on death's door, but I was going to be ok.
I went on with life normally for a while. Didn't really think too much about what had happened. But when my due date came around it hit me like a ton of bricks. I was finally able to mourn the baby I lost. Eventhough I felt like this baby belonged to my sister, I was just a vessel to give it life, it was still my body that carried it. I loved the baby and was so sad for a long time.
I now have 3 beautiful boys. Although, I had some rocky pregnancies I'd do it all over again in a heartbeat...number 4 is on the way. I'm only 8 weeks, but I know there is a baby there, I've seen the heartbeat.
If anyone has a BO and isn't sure about having a D&C, let my story help you decide to have the D&C. You'll be risking your life if you don't. Losing a baby is hard enough, don't make it any tougher. And if your doctor refuses to do one, another doctor will!
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Post by arkoch on Jul 11, 2006 2:00:50 GMT -5
Hi, my name is Alisha. I'm 23 y/o, and have been married for 2 years this month. In early November of last year I found out I was pregnant for the first time. I was terrified, and burst into tears. My husband was about to graduate from college, and we were trying to decide where we were going to move, find new jobs, ect. My Husband is so very supportive, and we soon began to get excited about the pregnancy. On Thansgiving day we told our family and friends. (at only 5 weeks along). On December 15, 2005 we had our first Dr. appt. The exam went great, but during the ultrasound, I had a feeling something was wrong. The US tech didn't talk to us much about what she was seeing, except that she saw a "Huge Cyst" on one of my ovaries. She said nothing about the baby. As we were waiting for the doctor to come back into the exam room, I kept telling myself that maybe she was new, and not used to talking people through the scans. I was also a bit shocked about the cyst as I have never had any cysts or symptoms of cysts. When the doctor came in and told us that there was "no fetal tissue" it took me a minute to process what that meant. I had never heard of a B/O. She also said that the cyst was so large it needed to be removed right away as it was too dangerous to leave it. If it ruptured or twisted, it could cause serious problems for me. This was a Thursday, my husband was supposed to graduate on Saturday, and we were moving out of our appartment on Sunday, and leaving Monday to drive to Montana for Christmas. This was not a good time for surgery! We opted to have the surgery to remove the cyst as well as a D&C the next day. The cyst was benign, and the size of a large grape fruit and so intertwined with my ovary that they couldn't save the ovary. The m/c was definetly a B/O. We were so devistated. This was at 8 weeks. We weren't going to ttc any time soon, since we weren't exactly trying with the first!! However, on April 3, 2006, I once again found myself pregnant. I was again terrified. My husband would hardly even talk to me about the baby because he was so afraid of loosing a second baby. We didn't tell any family this time. Although I had to tell co-workers, as I work as a Nurse in a NICU, and needed to avoid X-rays and certian babies. I felt different this time. I was more tired, and just felt more pregnant. I tried to keep a positive attitude. My first Dr. appointment was May 5. Everything looked fine. I had to schedule an Ultrasound, which was for May 10. Between those dates, I started bleeding. Not heavy at first, and I tried to stay positive, and think that it can happen and we can still be okay. Being a nurse I knew there wasn't anything they would do, so I just took it easy. By the date of the ultrasound, my bleeding had picked up. I knew by the look on the US tech's face that something was wrong. I immediately started sobbing. My doctor asked what I wanted, and I said I wanted to do it naturally this time. By 10:30 that night I started cramping, and by 1:30 the next morning it was all over. I was able to save the fetal tissue, and had genetic testing done on it. Those tests have come back normal. Right now we are in the process of doing blood work to try to find out what is causing this. We are not ready to TTC just yet. My heart aches for my lost babies, and I want badly to have one now, but I know that physically and emotionally, it will be better to wait for a while. Maybe towards the end of the year we will try. Maybe then we'll have answers. I never thought this could or would happen to me. No one ever does. I believe that someday I will understand why my husband and I had to go through this. For now I will just trust in God. My Sister in Law told me that God chooses special people to raise their children in Heaven. I will have two babies to meet when we get to Heaven. I can't wait. ~Alisha
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Post by modag9 on Jul 13, 2006 18:34:07 GMT -5
Hi, my name is Monica
My b/o was diagnosed on July 11, 2006.
My husband and I were very excited to go to the doctor's appointment where we would finally hear our little one's heart beat. Being 12 weeks and 5 days along I figured she would have no problem finding it, but after a couple of minutes she still heard nothing. My heart skipped a beat when she left the room to get the ultrasound machine. Half-way through the ultrasound she broke the news and my world just shattered. This was my first pregnancy and to have it end like this is so cruel. I will be having a D&C tomorrow, after which I believe I will be able to begin the healing process of both ny body and my heart.
My little one was due on January 20, 2007. I loved you from the day I realized you were in my belly, and I will forever miss not being able to hold you.
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Post by kat on Jul 16, 2006 12:02:35 GMT -5
Hi, I'm Kat, 44 y/o, married 21 years. No children.
DH and I went thru infertility treatment in the 1990's with no results. No good explanation from Docs as to why. Years went by and we had accepted our fate of having no children.
In 1999, out of the blue, we discovered I had concived. Wow! Just as we began preparing and were sooo exited, it was discovered that there was no fetus, only the sac. Devastating to say the least. I was already 39 at this time. Life goes on and soon coping became easier.
Now here we are in 2006 to discover I have once again concieved in May (most likely was Mother's Day). Needless to say we were nervous and concerned because of what had happened before. Keep in mind now that I am 44 and don't have much reproductive time left. DH and I tried to remain positive and because of certain signs felt that everything would be fine. Upon having an u/s on our wedding anniversary, we were told the sad news that once again no fetus.
Over the past few weeks, my emotions have been in turmoil. It is hard enough to get over the loss, once again, physically. Emotionally is hard too. But, I have to say that the hardest part of all of this is the feeling that my God has abandoned me. Now, I know that God does not cause hurt or harm but why, after so many prayers could He not help me?! Why not grant me a miracle for something that shouldn't even be a miracle; it's a normal, natural thing!
Time is running out and we have decided to increase our chances of concieving again and maybe I can hang on to it! I hope and pray.
Thanks for listening. Hoping for all of us that things get better.
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Post by gbirishgirl on Jul 18, 2006 6:28:30 GMT -5
Hello everyone.
My story begins a week before our wedding day when our doctor confirmed that I was indeed pregnant. It was totally unplanned but a very welcome early wedding present!
We managed to keep the the news to ourselves for a while and hosted a special breakfast on the day after our wedding to announce our news to our parents, brothers and sisters. By that stage I was 7 weeks pregnant.
Exactly a week after the wedding, while on honeymoon, I began spotting. Reading the book we had brought on holiday with us, we were trying to console ourselves with the hope that it might be interim bleeding as my second missed period would have been due. In any case, we went to the resort doctor the following day but he really couldn't help and we made the decision to fly to the country's capital city to attend the hospital there. My husband was quite pessimistic, being that I had had little/no symptoms of pregnancy except feeling incredibly tired in the afternoons.
So we went to the hospital, and had a scan. And they confirmed it was a BO. We were advised to wait a week and if we wanted to, have another scan but to return to our GP when we got back home from honeymoon.
That afternoon was only the second time that I have seen my husband cry. The sense of lonliness was overwhelming at what should have been otherwise an incredibly happy time of our lives.
When we returned from honeymoon, I had already completed the miscarriage and there was no need for a D&C which on some level I'm thankful for but on the other hand, I think it might have helped me gain some closure.
In the months following the miscarriage, I found it really hard to deal with. I had a very stressful time at work and although my boss knew what had happened, I really felt that I wasn't dealing with things well at all and I wasn't getting any support. So I had a couple of sessions with a bereavement counsellor which did really help. Having said that, I have tears in my eyes writing this as I realise that I should now be a mom (baby was due May 24th).
I've read the stories on here and cannot even begin to imagine how I would feel to go through this again. This fear is almost making me not want to TTC again. But I am also inspired by the courage that you ladies have shown and by your success stories. Thank you for sharing them with me.
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Post by nac on Jul 26, 2006 20:44:42 GMT -5
I am new to this, so bare with me. My first BO was in Feb. of this year, which resulted in a D&C. I was told there were no reasons not to try again. We did, I am now going through my second BO right now. My emotions are a mess. In one wk we will have a repeat US, I have a sac and yoke this time, and hcg levels that are 32,000, never got above 90 with the first. I am scheduled for a D&C next Friday, so I feel like hope is lost now. At this point I will get my tubes tied. We have one wonderful child who is 5 and we were told we would never have. I can begin to explain the pain and torment that I am going through. Thankful to find your stories. So please, don't think it can't happen more than once, it can.
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Post by rebecca0711 on Aug 28, 2006 13:50:04 GMT -5
My name is Rebecca and I am 44 years old. On July 17th, I found out I was pregnant. My DH and I have been married for 4 1/2 years. We have never used birth control, so we figured that we could not get pregnant. We were elated to find out that we were indeed pregnant! On August 6th, I started bleeding and went to the ER. They did a pelvic exam and said that everything looked okay. They took blood and told me to have it rechecked in 3 days. On August 7th, I called my drs office and they said to come in that afternoon. The doctor did a pelvic and then a vaginal ultrasound. I was 7w6d pregnant - but on the u/s, the dr said it looked like 6 weeks. He then said that there was an empty sac. I was looking at the u/s machine and could see that there was nothing inside the sac. The doctor ran pictures of the sac and measured everything. He then said that maybe I wasn't as far along as I thought and that he wanted to check my blood levels. So the next day, I had my blood levels checked and the numbers had decreased. When the dr. called with this news, my husband and I just cried and cried. We scheduled a D & E for the next day. It was a very sad day, the nurses and all were very nice, but I did not want to be there! The physical recovery went very well. My emotional recovery is coming along slowly. I had my 2 week follow-up with my doctor and she put me on prenatal vitamins in case I get pregnant again. She told us to wait one cycle before trying. We are not going to do anything to prevent us from getting pregnant, so we will see what happens. Thanks for everyone's story, it really helps.
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Post by donita on Sept 20, 2006 19:10:20 GMT -5
My name is Donita and I am a mommy of 4 daughters. It all started in January of 1992 when I found out that I was PG for the first time. I soon M/C at about 8 weeks or so although the DR. said that the baby never developed beyond 5 weeks. I M/C again almost immediatly. In Sept of 94 my first DD was born. Next one in Oct of 96. I got divorced and was Pg with DD #3 who was born in July 01 followed by my dear Sophie in 93. I remarried to a wonderfull man shortly after this (Dad of DD # 3,4) During our P/g with Sophie we decided to go ahead with the Tubal Ligation (tubes tied) proceedure. Mostly due to pressure from friends and family. The proceedure was terrible. I had a reaction to the anestesia and then to the meds they gave me to counteract them. The Dr didn't do the sutures right and some came out leaving me a terrible scar. It took me longer to recover from the proceedure than the birth of the baby. I regretted that decision immediately. The nurses joked with me that they would see me again in a few years since failures do happen. I just cried. In Feb of this year, my normally clockwork period was a week late. I didn't think anything of it. I called the advice nurse to find out what could be causing this. She said to take a HPT immediately due to the fact that there is a very low but still real failure rate. Immagine my shock when it came back positive. They were immediatly concerned with the possibility of a tubal pregnancy and when I went to the Er for an U/S they saw a sac but no baby. They didn't say anythign except to follow up with my Dr the next day. I was just 5 w 4 days give or take. I was devastated to say the least. When I saw the Dr. he was very reassuring and said they couldn't see the baby because it was too soon. Get HCG checked over 2 day period and they would call me. I was so hopefull . So the nurse calls and says good news the HcG levels are falling just like we hoped they would. I was shocked. She had been misinformed that they suspected a tubal and had given me meds to induce a M/C. She was wrong. We M/C 6 weeks to the day. Friends and Family were of no support since they thought we were crazy to be PG again even though it wasn't our fault. With only 1 tube open my chances were lower (50%) for conceiving again but sure enough after 3 cycles there we were again. All looked good in the begining but we soon found ourselves back at the OB and this time other than the hormones they could not find the PG anywhere in the uterus or otherwise. Again we M/C 6 w to the day. We never imagined it would happen to us twice in a row. Well, here we are just a few weeks later PG again and again empty uterus, dropping HcG levels and an impending M/C. Its been a rough year to say the least. Thank God for the supportive women I've found here.
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Post by soleil on Sept 22, 2006 8:01:53 GMT -5
Hi Grils, My name's Helen (alias Soleil) and I've had the misfortune to have two BO's in the past year.
Our first little angel was conceived in Nov 05 and I thought it was strange that I didn't have many symtoms, it just felt wrong. At 7 weeks I went for my first scan and had a D&C. Of course as everyone here knows, the emotional trauma of that happening was terrible, but it was nothing compaired to the 2nd time around. After the 1st time, we thought we had just been unlucky and that it was a one off. I became pregnany again 4 months later and this time I felt VERY pregnant and was ecstatic.
At 6.5 weeks I lost all my symptons. Again at 7 weeks I went to the OB/Gyne and ended up with another D&C. This time I've been in emotional turmoil. It's been especially difficult being surrounded by pregnant colleagues and friends. It was at this point that I came across this forum and thanked my lucky starts that finally I could talk with some people who understood what I was going through and have more knowledge on the subject.
I'm now taking progesterone suppliments during my cycle (200mg per day for 15 days per month), as my doctor thought I may have a defective luteal phase. It's a little short 11-13 days, but now it's up to 15 days and DH and I are hoping for 3rd time lucky. So far it's 5 months since the last D&C but we've just had BFNs.
I feel now that I will never be the same person that I used to be. I feel emotionally raw and even during the happiest moments/times, my life is tinged with sadness and loss. My DH finds this difficult to understand, but he's very supportive. Sometimes I feel guilty because I'm not the happy person I used to be, but there's nothing I can do about it. Maybe one day we will be healed a little bit by the arrival of a little girl or boy.
Anyway, thanks for reading and good luck to you all. Helen
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Post by melbot on Oct 9, 2006 10:34:10 GMT -5
My name is Melanie and this is my story.
On 16 July 2006 I was blessed with a BFP. I was shock - in a good way of course. On 19 July the DR confirmed.
My pregnancy was uneventful - no morning sickness. I was so nervous (I am a real worry wort) looked up every imaginable bit of info to make sure that everything was going according to plan.
On 28 Aug (11w6d) I woke to find spotting - cried immediately. DH rushed me to ER - Dr said prob nothing to worry about but ordered u/s to make sure.
SHOCK - my baby did not survive.
I cried for days straight - 5.5 weeks later and I am still mourning my precious lost angel.
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