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Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on May 8, 2005 13:15:40 GMT -5
I thought we would test this out, I'm going to make this thread sticky (it will remain at the top). Lets each tell our story here, but with no welcome posts or followup comments like we normally do. This way there will be an area for people to look and see what the poster's background is. If you want to add anything to your story, feel free to edit it at will. Thanks everyone!
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Post by Blighted Ovum Board Admin on May 8, 2005 13:19:14 GMT -5
I'm 37 and live in Montana. My blighted ovum was discovered on October 14, 2000--2 days before my first wedding anniversary. It was my first pg and I thought everything was going well. They couldn't hear the h/b at my first OB appointment but I was told that it was normal because it was early (9 weeks). At 11w3d I woke up with cramping. I went into the bathroom and saw blood. I immediately went to the E/R where they did a transvaginal ultrasond and I hear the word "blighted ovum" uttered for the first (actually, and only) time. I was asked if I understood that my pregnancy was over and I left in a state of shock, horror, and grief that I thought wasn't possible. I left a message for my OBGYN, who didn't bother to return my call. I called back a few days later and they finally made an appointment for me to come in on the following Friday. I was told the diagnosis was an incomplete m/c and I was scheduled for a D and C the following Friday. I asked about what the u/s tech found (she told me to ask the Doctor) and her only reply was "I thought they told you in the E/R". This was when I realized that there wasn't much information out there at all. I spent hours and hours and weeks and weeks trying to find answers. I found only a few sites that even mentioned what it is. Almost five years later there is at least more information out there. My website ( blightedovum.kokopuff.net/ ) was up about 6 months later on Tripod.com. They lost it (it literally disappeared with some other's accounts information overwritten on top), it got rebuilt on Geocities and is now on it's own domain. I went on to have two children, and was lucky to have no more losses. My kids are now 1 (2 in June) and 3 (4 in September). I've met some wonderful ladies online, and I hope that our losses do some good in that by forming together we can provide a kind of safe haven for those who have experienced this. There are some wonderful ladies on this board, and we welcome anyone who wants to join. I'm sorry you have to be here, no one should have to experience this, but we are here as shoulder's to cry on, for infomation, or just as support.
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Post by kurby68 on May 8, 2005 15:48:16 GMT -5
Hi, my name is Kallie. In June 2004 I was so very ecstatic that I was pg that I told every person I knew and probably every person thhat walked by and would listen that I was pg. See I have 2 great dd's, but I was recently remarried to my soulmate and we were expecting our baby. Well I had concerns from day 1 that something just wasn't right but everyone kept telling that I was imagining things. Well on 7/2 I was sitting at work and I got the eeriest feeling that I was getting af. That was what it felt like. I went into the bathroom and I was very very lightly spotting. I called my dr's office and was told to go home & rest that in reality there was nothing that they could if I was going to miscarry.
I went home & laid down but I couldn't stop crying. The next morning I woke up to cramping and still spotting. Well I wanted answers and I wanted them now. So dh & I went to the er. I was told by an incompetant dr that my hcg level was only 150 (which at that time it meant nothing to me) I then had a catheter to fill my bladder and wheeled to u/s. Well the tech was like I don't see anything we will need to do a vaginal u/s.. he grumbled at me saying that when you are early under 12w he preferred vaginal u/s. So he then did the vaginal u/s. Well he didn't say too much kept looking at me & dh funny and I kept saying what. Can I see and he said well I will send the info up to the dr. I knew that something was wrong then. Well then I went to the bathroom and passed a lot of clots and what I later found out was peices of tissue/placenta.
After we sat and waited and waited for the dr. He then says that it looks like a blighted ovum. Which he then looks at dh and explains that I wasn't really pregnant anyways... I am like ok how can I not be pg. I had a + hpt. My dr had a + pregnancy test in her office and had done an internal and said that my uterus felt the right size... I was so angry and upset. He told me that I was to go home & rest. I came home and logged onto the computer and looked up any info I could find. And came across Lindy's home page which directed me to this great bunch of women that answered a lot of my questions.
I continues to be followed by my dr and she sent me to a different ob/gyn that specializes in fertility and other problems w/ pregnancy. She checked my hcg to make sure that I had went back down and checked me w/ a vaginal u/s to make sure nothing was left behind after the m/c. She said everything was ok.
She is now my ob/gyn and my dh knows that I was pg and am very lucky because I am pg again. I am 11w 1d and so far so good. Had a few scary moments but we had an u/s 2 days ago. So there is hope for anyone going through this.
This is a great place for information, friendship and support. We are here and will try to answer every question or just lend an ear.
Kallie
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Post by Lauren on May 8, 2005 20:26:40 GMT -5
Hi, my name is Lauren and I have been trying to get pregnant since December 2003. After about 6 months with no luck, I went to see a fertility doctor because I had a sense that something was wrong. After a lot of tests we discovered that I had low progesterone and acidic cervical mucus, but our biggest problem was that my husband had a low sperm count and poor morphology. It was recommended that he have varicoceles surgery, which is basically varicose veins on his testicles. Much to his horror, he had the surgery and two months later after our third IUI I was pregnant. We were thrilled, and thought all of our problems were behind us. Well, on December 22nd I went for an ultrasound at 7w 3d and was told that there was no embryo in the sac that I was carrying. I was sent straight from the lab to my doctor's office, and he told me that I should have a d&c the following day, which I did. I was devastated. I felt like I could not understand how life could be so cruel to me.
Well, after the d&c my doctor had ordered tests to be done on the tissue they removed, which showed that it had been a genetically healthy pregnancy. This meant more tests to try to figure out why I lost that pregnancy. I was tested for about 12 different immunological disorders, and tested positive for elevated natural killer cells. This means that my body treated the fetus like a dangerous foreign body, and killed it. Luckily, my doctor told me that this was treatable with an iv treatment called IVIg.
I am now pregnant again (6w 3d) and have had one IVIg treatment. I will have at least two more, and last Friday I heard my baby's heartbeat. My husband and I are so excited and hopeful that we will have better luck this time.
I feel so lucky that I happened upon this site. It is so helpful to talk to other women who have gone through similar losses, and now with the fears of being pregnant again. For all of those who are new to this board, my heart is so sad for your loss. I hope that this board gives you the support and strength that I have found from it. Lauren
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Post by justinsmomma on May 9, 2005 5:46:20 GMT -5
Hello there and welcome. I am sorry that you have had occasion to find us. My name is Kris, and I have 2 stories to tell. My first began in January 2000. I found out I was pregnant on Super Bowl Sunday, and was thrilled. I told everyone, I couldn't believe that my time had come. I had just turned 30 and was excited to start this next chapter in my life. Around 5 weeks, I started to have some swelling and double vision, so I went to my OB. They did an u/s and saw the fetal sac, my blood pressure was good, and we thought all was well. February 28 was my first prenatal appt. It is my sister's birthday, so I remember it. My husband went with me, we were so excited. All was fine until they decided to do a 2nd u/s. That was when the Dr. told us that this pregnancy was "not viable" and that it was most likely a blighted ovum. He told me to get dressed and ordered a 2nd u/s for that next week. The 2nd u/s confirmed the diagnosis, and March 6 I had my D&E. I took a week off from work and just sat around and cried. My sister came to me with the news that she was expecting her 4th baby that next week. It hurt me so bad that we would not be pregnant together. She went on to have her first boy after 3 girls and the first time I held him I just cried. It took me a year to try again but I did get pregnant on the first try, found out I was pregnant March 6, 2001, 1 year to the day that I had my surgery. Justin Tyler came into the world healthy and happy, with minimal complications but a lot of monitoring, on November 15, 2001. ;0)
We decided to wait until Justin was almost 2 to TTC again. Justin was the most perfect baby and still is a wonderful little boy, and I wanted to enjoy him before giving him a sibling. I got pregnant on the first try in July 2003. We were estatic, the kids would be almost 2 1/2 years apart. In August, my Dr. gave me the choice of having a 7 week u/s or a 11 week nuchal fold scan. I decided on the nuchal fold scan because I had just had a friend go through the horror of having her baby dxed with Trisomy 18. So my first u/s was scheduled for September 23. I was almost 12 weeks. I went in with a full bladder and high hopes...but I knew something wasn't right. I didn't want to believe that I could miscarry again, without any symptoms, no bleeding...but unfortunately, I had to empty my bladder for a vaginal u/s. I knew it wasn't good. My heart tore into a thousand pieces that day. They did the vaginal and sure enough...nothing but an empty sac that by this point was starting to deteriorate. They said that the sac was about 7.5 weeks in size. I was and forever will be heartbroken. The 2nd loss was so much worse than the first. I was so excited to have a brother or sister for my precious son, and was almost in my 2nd trimester. I had my surgery Sept. 26, 2003. The tests came back chromosomally normal. It once again took a year to try again...that seems to be how long I need to "heal".
We decided to try again last September, and I did think I was pregnant in October. I spotted lightly for a few days, my BBs hurt, and I felt pregnant but then I got AF. We tried again in November, but once again, nothing. I got spooked. NO WAY did I want to go through another m/c...so I spoke to my Dr. about going to a reproductive endocrinologist or fertility specialist. In December I had a whole range of tests, from chromosomal to invasive (looking around at my ovaries and uterus with a scope) to blood clotting, immunological, etc. Well in January we got a hit. They forgot to do the blood clotting panel the first time, so I got the news in January that I have a genetic mutation that causes my blood to clot excessively while pregnant. Everything else was fine, but if I was to get pregnant I would have to inject myself with blood thinners for the entire pregnancy and up to 6 weeks post partum. I found out that I was at a huge risk with my son, either I or he could've died....and that this was most likely the cause of my miscarriages. The embryo simply did not get any oxygenation, either due to the placenta or umbilical cord being riddled with clots. That was so hard to hear. Also, I had to decide if I could handle being a high risk this time around. After much prayer and soul searching, I knew that I had to try the treatment or I would've been forever saying what if. We were going to lose our great infertility coverage on April 1 (husband's job was outsourced and his coverage was changing). I found out I was pregnant on Valentines' Day, and after about 6 u/s and one spotting scare I am happy to report we are 16 weeks along and finding out the gender hopefully tomorrow. After all this story, there is a happy ending. ;0)
Well blessings and good luck to you. The road may be long and sad but we are here for you, every step of the way. We have all been down this path.
Lots of HUGS and love
Kris
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Post by joy on Jul 2, 2005 17:12:50 GMT -5
Hello I am not sure if you want anyone to post here or just those who have been here a while?? Confused..sorry if i am not supposed to be here... My name is Joy and I am 34 (almost 35) and hubby is 46. We got married in 93 and have been trying to get pregnant ever since. We have had every surgery, proceudre, etc. to get pregnant. I have taken every fertility drug out there. I found out that I have 2 uteruses, 3 kidneys and 2 cervixes. I had surgery to make my two uteruses only one bigger one. I had an ectopic pregnancy first and lost one of my tubes. My progesterone is always extremely low and I always take a shot of progesterone every day for 3 1/2 months when I am pregnant. I was successful getting pregnant many times. I miscarried 6 times (2 sets of twins..most at 3 months and one at 5 months) before I had a very perfect little boy who is 6 years old now. I wanted another child badly and have been trying since I had my son in 1999. I decided to do a frozen transfer with some embryos left over from a fresh ivf from 4 years ago. I went in for a routine u/s and found that my uterus was once again two! It had grown back to the way it was previously. I again had the surgery to make it one. I have had 3 other miscarriages after him. I am pregnant right now (started out as twins again, one was a vanishing twin) and found out that I am currently having my first Blighted Ovum and am very sad. I also found out that I have Hashimoto's disease (thyroid disease) and am taking synthoid. I have decided to do NO MORE infertility because I think all the infertility drugs cannot be good for me. (by the way, after all the IUI's and IVF's and so forth, my son was natural - go figure) I just have to say that IF I would have given up after all my torment, I would not have my incredible miracle little boy! Never give up on your dreams. Warm Hugs Joy
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Post by eeyore5667 on Jul 6, 2005 20:36:30 GMT -5
I found out I was pregnant on my 38th birthday.. May 6th.
I was amazed. I am the mother to a 14-year-old daughter who took me 5 years to conceive... at 15 years younger and 50 pounds lighter. I conceived my most recent pregnancy after only 5 months off the pill with my new husband. According to my calculations, we conceived on the night of our 1st wedding anniversary...April 18th.
Things seemed to go well. I felt nauseated. My boobies were sore. My abdomen started to swell. My first OB/GYN visit showed good blood levels and a "nice large uterus".
However, I went for my next monthly visit and we listened for a hearbeat. There was none. I knew something was wrong but my doctor said not to panic, just to get an ultrasound asap.
Today I went for that ultrasound at 13 weeks pregnant. There is no fetus.. just a large, healty, empty placenta with a small, shriveled, mis-shapen glob in the corner. I am devastated.
I have the D&C tomorrow morning. I plan to get it over with so I can start TTC again soon. I am running out of time, age-wise. I am worried about the genetic health of my eggs, as well.
My heart goes out to everyone who has experienced this tragedy. I never knew this condition existed until today. It is an awful anomolie of nature, leaving us to ponder why and how.
I hope my story ends as happily as some that I have read at this forum.
-Tanya
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Post by gobigred on Jul 7, 2005 11:56:21 GMT -5
Hi. My name is Nancy. I am 36, married to a farmer in Nebraska, and have two wonderful boys ages 2 and 4. I found out I was pregnant at the beginning of April, 2005. My husband and I did not know if we wanted more children, however, after my 2 yr. old broke his femur and was in a body cast for 8 weeks, we figured we could handle having another child. Plus, my husband would love to have a girl! We were very excited, as were our boys, when we found out we were expecting.
On the evening of June 17th I started spotting. I had never done this with my prior two pregnancies, so needless to say, I freaked. I went to the ER the next morning and after 3 ultrasounds, we found out we had a BO. My husband and I both cried, but we suddenly felt so fortunate to have our two wonderful boys.
I often think that it happened because I was in the room when x-rays were taken of my 2 yr. old's broken leg (I would have been very newly pregnant when his last x-ray was taken). I need to get this out of my head, as there is nothing I can do about it now.
I decided to try and let the miscarriage happen naturally so we could ttc sooner. I ultimately had a d&c on June 29th. It wasn't too bad, and I did have some closure with it.
This board was a huge help to me and I am excited for the opportunity to post here again after hopefully getting pregnant again and coming here for support!
Good luck to you all.....
Nancy
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Post by magsdimona on Jul 10, 2005 5:14:31 GMT -5
I just want to say thanks to all the women who contributed to this website. Last friday I went for my 13 wk scan and was told 'no foetus' only sac present and was I sure I hadn't bled during the last 13 weeks!!! I was then told I had a blighted ovum and then taken to a room to wait for a dr. 20 mins later, no dr but a radiologist informing me I must go to emergency room! I was in shock and up to that point was given no information - fortunately, an experienced nurse in the corridor must have recognised my pain and she was very helpful - I was given full information about the diagnosis and I was given back the power over what to do next in relation to expelling the contents of the conception - I am returning tomorrow (Monday) to have tablets to help the process.
Although I have not experienced bleeding over these last 13 weeks and my womb has grown to indicate pregnancy - I have had serious doubts in the back of my mind about whether all was well - I had adominal cramps from about 8 weeks and maybe I should have gone and sought help about it - however, my job is so pressured I just ignored these and thought I would be okay.
I had never heard of this diagnosis, nor had my family, friends or work colleagues. I am fortunate to have a 16 year old son so I will not remain childless but for those women who do not have children, I wish you the very best in your hope of having a safe pregnancy.
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Post by alaskaice on Jul 26, 2005 17:44:37 GMT -5
Hello.... my name is Crystal and here is my story. This would of been my first child. I decided that i need to talk to someone to get me through this. I am 21 and married for a1 yr and a half. We had decided to start trying and got pregnant on the first try. My husband is military. The military does things differently from normal doctors. My first drs appt was a group orientation instead of a normal drs appt. I found out on june 13 05 that I was pregnant. i was exstatic. My best friend was 6 weeks ahead of me. I went into the er at 6 weeks. I had an ultrasound done for cramping they thought it might have been eptopic.
I was then put on threatened miscarriage. Today, yes today, I went in for my first ultrasound at 11 weeks and 1d. The midwife said there was nothing there, so they called in the obgyn doc. They did an u/s and a vaginal to find I had an empty sac. I told them they were wrong. There was on way..... I then went to the readiologist completly in tears. I told everyone I was pg. Including friends I haden't seen in 5 yrs. I was completely devastated. This was my first and I lost it. The radiologist confirmed it and now I'm waiting to pass the pg. I'm just hurting beyond hurt. But you know....
My mom is a smart woman... and says everything happens for a reason... so here I am just looking for support. I guess maybe the good man upstairs thought it just wasn't time. you never know what your made of until you go through something like this. IT's been a couple of hours since I found out.. I'm okay.. and i know not to do anythign stupid. That's why i wanted to talk to others that have been through this... to have someone to UNDERSTAND the emotional pain. I knew it wasn't a normal pregnancy but I thought I was just lucky to have no morning sickness, no heartburn, no nothing.....i didn't even think i was pregnant until the doc confirmed it. I was just getting excited now... and then I lost it.
Just trying to cope. Glad to know others have been there. Hubby is great but he doesn't know what it feels like to loose something and feel guilt for something you couldn't control........
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Post by jengriffy on Jul 29, 2005 0:36:27 GMT -5
On Tuesday July 19th I went to the bathroom only to discover a bit of blood more like spotting than anything else. We called our midwife and made an appointment to hear the heartbeat the next day. The bleeding seemed to go away however, no heartbeat could be heard. "Don't worry” was what we were told. On Thursday the bleeding continued but heavier. At this point I just freaked out. I couldn't stop crying. I knew something was wrong. Kai called the midwife again and we set up an u/s. On Friday the ultrasound told us exactly what I already new. The fetus wasn't viable. I was so upset. My partner and I decided we didn't want to miscarry naturally, mostly because I didn't want to see the fetus. At this point I thought there was a baby inside me. So Kai started calling doctors to find someone to do a D&C. I knew it was futile, but Kai was so upset and he really didn't want to take me to the hospital. Finally I convinced him that the hospital was the only choice. To make a long story short...another u/s was performed at the hospital and I was told that I had a blighted ovum, that there was no baby, just an empty sac. I was stunned, confused and heartbroken. I was given a choice to stay overnight at the hospital or go home and on Monday go to the doctor who is affiliated with my midwife for the D&C. So on Monday we went to the doctor and the procedure was done. And that’s it. There’s no baby and all I can think about is that my worst fears have come true. What a bummer.
Thanks for listening.
Jen
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Post by Heather (hlam) on Aug 6, 2005 13:53:21 GMT -5
Hello Everyone! My name is Heather and I'm 31 years old. I have two beautiful boys ages 5 and almost 3. I had 2 high risk pregnancies with them both. I was diagnosed with mild preeclampsia and hypertension in both of my pregnancies. It caused a lot more trips to the doctor and being induced with both at 37 weeks but the outcome was good and I considered and still do consider myself to be very lucky! Which brings me to the story at hand. In June of 2004 my DH and I decided it was time for #3 and got pregnant on our very first try. I pretty much knew right away I was pregnant. Long before a test would confirm it because my body goes through symptoms very fast. I had spent the prior year getting myself into better shape for this pregnancy to try and minimize my risk of another high risk pregnancy. I was on prenatal vitamins right away and pretty much figured 3rd time in that I was pretty safe! Which is sort of odd in the fact that I worried so much the 1st 2 times I was pregnant that something would happen and this time I was just sure that everything was going to fine. I gain weight quickly and never really get sick. I get quezzy if I don't eat regularly but other than that I'm normally lucky about not having any morning sickness. I do generally get really tired but with this pregnancy that passed early on and I felt great. I even said that "If I couldn't actually see that I was pregnant (expanding belly) then I'd really wonder because I felt so good. Little did I know that was a sign of things to come. I had a standard U/S set up for August 18th and I had to have my mom come up and watch my boys because my DH was tied up with classes and work and couldn't make it. That gave me such an eerie feeling that I just couldn't explain because he has always been able to make every U/S that I've ever had. I was just over 13 weeks because they don't offer U/S at my doctor's office until after 12 weeks. I went in very nervous. My cousin had an U/S the day before and found out that there was no longer a hb. I've had enough ultrasounds to know that when I looked at the screen and say an empty sac that there was something wrong. I didn't know what but I could see that there wasn't a baby there anymore. The tech said that all she could see was an empty sac and wanted to try a vaginal ultrasound and we did and still got the empty sac. I was told not to worry......as if your not going to worry when you know that something is wrong! They drew blood before I left and said that they would call me after they got the results back from the next one that I had to take 48 hours later. So now we wait! I finally got the call and the nurse practioner says to me that my numbers were good with the first draw but had gone down with the 2nd. I said how good were the first numbers and she said that they reflected a 4 week pregnancy. Well that didn't sound so hot to me since I knew that I was going on 14 weeks and the empty sac on the U/S showed growth through 10 weeks. I made plans to go in and meet with my doctor that day. I was given a prescription to induce the miscarriage and a couple of pain killers and a prescription to control bleeding. (I'm not sure the later one really worked all that well.) I went home and started the medication immediately. Looking pregnant and knowing that it wasn't viable was really messing with my head. I spent the next 22 hours getting through the miscarriage which felt more and more like labor backed up with Ibuprophen! I was told to collect the tissue and bring it back to the office so they could make sure that I passed everything and that it was indeed "a product of conception." I had some issues with blood loss afterwards.......I ended up Anemic and had to take Iron for 12 weeks. I was never told by anyone that this was a BO. They tested to make sure it wasn't a Molar Pregnancy and when I got the clear on that I had to ask whether or not I had a blighted ovum or not. The doctor said that I had but not to worry and maybe she'd see me back soon. Hardly the answers I was looking for!!!! I know that I have posted my story before but thought that it was time to post here now that I realize this is where we are posting our stories! My heart goes out to us all and I'm wishing everyone well with whatever stage of this they are at. Hang in there Ladies!
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Post by lani30 on Aug 15, 2005 8:20:20 GMT -5
Hi, I am Lani, 30 years old. Got married 2001, gave birth to my son Dec 2002. I had a perfectly healthy first pregnancy. My DH and I decided to have another child after a 2 year gap so this year would have been it. I got pregnant on our second try and I was pretty confident that everything will go smoothly as the first. I've been taking folic acid and prenatal vitamins months before I got pregnant. But things started to go wrong on my 6th week. I developed a nasty cold with fever, took acetaminophen and decongestant per doctor's advice. After one week, when I thought that was over, I woke up with a really bad case of sore throat which turned into a continuous hacking cough and then after several more days, I got pink eyes. I was becoming an emotional wreck thinking my illnesses and the medicines I've been taking are affecting the wellbeing of my baby since everyone says first trimester is the most crucial. Finally, on my 10th week, I had a vaginal ultrasound where I was diagnosed with a BO. There was only an empty sac. The following week, I had another U/S and something showed up. The doctor cannot ascertain if its the embryo (no movement and no heartbeat) or just the sac disintegrating. I was supposed to come back for another U/S this week to finally ascertain if that "something" was my baby when yesterday, at 12 weeks, I had a miscarriage. After experiencing heavy bleeding and intense pain for a day, my OB decided to perform a D&C. This has all been emotionally and physically draining but at the same time, I am relieved that it is finally over. Nothing is worse than just waiting for the inevitable miscarriage but still hoping against hope that it will not happen. I am glad that this board is here because I know that I am in the company of women who understand the pain and the loss. I believe that everything happens for a good reason which we may not see or even understand now. I am just leaving everything up to God and I know that in His own time, He will bless us with another child.
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Post by carrie12929 on Aug 19, 2005 20:19:06 GMT -5
Hi My Name is Carrie. I am 27 and my DH is 36. WE have been TTC for 2 years. I found out on 8/15/05 that our twins- created through IVF are both BOs and are not viable. IVF is our only option to have a biological child due to my poly-cystic ovaries and my DHs low sperm cound and virtually no sperm movement. WE have tried a variety of meds to increase his count and motility as well as increase my ability to ovulate. With the help of Metformin, a drug commonly used to treat diabetes, I now ovulate like clock work. We did our first IVF in July and were delighted to get pregnant the first time. I had spotting on 8/6 and had and ultrasound that revealed a normal looking pair of gestational sacs for their age. WE were so excited that we were lucky enought to conceive and be blessed with twins. Since we got this far via IVF we were still being followed closely by our reproductive endocrinologist. WE were scheduled for 7 week u/s on 8/15 and the MD told us she was 99% sure we had a double BO pregnancy and that neither of our babies were viable. A second u/s on 8/19 confirmed this diagnosis and we are scheduled for a D&C on Monday 8/22. This has been such a hard road- from dealing with the infertility issues then soaring high in the clouds with the hope and excitement of being pregnant and now to the lowest of low- knowing that our babies are no longer with us. I have never wanted anything more in my life than to be a mother and I hope that our dream of being parents comes true soon.
I am blessed to have a great husband, two lovely and goofy pug dogs, and an exceptional support system, but I do not know anyone who has had a BO and I am interested in learning from the situations of others. Thank you all!
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Post by Egirl on Aug 19, 2005 23:02:02 GMT -5
Hi ~ My name is Erin, I live in Iowa, and I'm 38 years old and have two beautiful boys (ages 10 and 12). My DH is the love of my life, and has 2 boys from his 1st marriage (ages 8 and 12). Loads of testosterone in our house!! I have suffered a Molar Pregnancy, a Blighted Ovum and a Chemical Pregnancy. I have also had 2 successful and healthy pregnancies which blessed me with my two sons. I am currently expecting another baby boy in March 2007. My Dh and I are very excited as this will be our first (and only) child together. I have found much strength on this site from many wonderful people who have given me advice and support during my B/O. Wish I would have had this years ago with the Molar Pregnancy. I'm just glad to know you are all here now. Hugs and Good Wishes ~ Erin Never, Never, Never Give Up!
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Post by chely on Aug 29, 2005 22:25:35 GMT -5
Hello Ladies~ My name is Chely and I am 30, my DH is 32, with no children. I had a BFP on July 19th, and had my first doctor appt. on 8/23 at 8w 5d. My dr did a transvaginal u/s that showed a gestational sac, a yolk sac, but no baby. He tried very hard to downplay the images, but he didn't look very happy (he's been my dr for 12 years so I got him to level with me that the outlook was bleak). His initial diagnosis is b/o. I would have more hope, but I volunteer at a crisis pregnancy center, so I know what I should be seeing on a nearly 9 week u/s. My bloodwork showed great progesterone and my Hcg was at 105,299. On 8/26 my Hcg had dropped to 99,000, so hopefully it's not molar (my sister had one and it's horrible). He thinks that the levels were so high at 9weeks possibly because it was twins, but I will not know for sure til I reach glory. However that thought has only salted my wound...I would've loved twins. Wednesday I have a repeat u/s, just to be sure, and my D&C is scheduled for Thursday morning. I am really dreading that, but at least I will be knocked out. I pray we will be able to ttc quickly after, but I will follow whatever my dr recommends to hopefully avoid another m/c. I was so optimistic about this pg that I told everyone I know, so now it's harsh retelling this story 5 times a day. Just when I think that I'm all cried out I get another hug, and I lose it again. Next time, we aren't telling until after our first positive u/s. People try so hard to console and minister to me that they say stupid and hurtful things without even trying to be malicious. So far the worst has been "Maybe God knew that you couldn't handle twins". Even though I forgive them, it's still painful. I really have appriciated this site the past week...previous to the bad news I had been lurking on WebMD's 1st trimester board, so this has been a comforting distraction from the dozens of "baby sites" on my favorites. I want to thank you all for sharing your stories and loving on all these hurting women, it really makes a difference for us newbies and lurkers. I'll close this with one of my favorite verses, and I don't think that it has ever been more applicable to my life than now... "Though the fig tree does not bud and there are no grapes on the vines, though the olive crop fails and the fields produce no food, though there are no sheep in the pen and no cattle in the stalls, yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior." ~Habakkuk 3:17
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Post by Joli on Sept 3, 2005 18:10:30 GMT -5
I am 34 and live in Alabama. I have been married to my soulmate for 10 years and have two wonderful step children, Josh, 14 and Beth, 12. I have taken BC pills since for over 15 yrs. due to having two periods a month. DH and I decided to start TTC and I discussed it with the Nurse Practitioner in March 2005. She told me to take multi vitamins and folic acid supplements when I stop taking the OC's. AF came in April, May and June, and in July, on DH's birthday I thought I should do a pregnancy test because I had been really hungry earlier in the day than normal and getting dizzy. It was a faint positive, so I scheduled to have a test the next day. Their test was also positive. I called immediately and made an appointment with the OBGYN, but for some reason they do not see you for your first visit until 10-12 weeks. My appointment was August 30th. I had some tugging pain within a week of the test and was told it was normal. I would have been 5 weeks pregnant at the time. I had some mentrual cramping for a day or two after that and was still told it was ok. I went to see the NP who did a urine culture to be sure I did not have a bladder infection. The culture came back negative and everything began to be ok. I did not experience morning sickness, but I did have heartburn for about a week and would feel a little queasy if I didn't eat. Between July 13th, the first positive test, and August 26th, I gained 15 pounds. My BB's were three times the size of normal and I was emotional all the time. I was very tired all of the time, would nap most days after work. Sometimes wondered if I would make it home without falling asleep driving. The day of my first appointment I was so excited, I had been worried in the beginning but was finally feeling it was going to be ok. I was 11.3 weeks. When the nurse began looking for the heartbeat with the microphone stethoscope and could not find it, she said "don't panic, I think it is just moving around". She got another nurse to try and still found nothing. I made the comment that there should be two hearbeats because I thought I would have twins, just due to twins in both families and so much weight gain. The nurse ordered an u/s. The lady who performed the u/s immediately said she needed to do a vaginal u/s and told me to empty my bladder. She turned the monitor where I couldn't see it and said she wanted to take pictures for the doctor. She finished and said that the sac measured 8 weeks, but she could not see the baby. She said it was called "blighted". She told me she would let the doctor look at the pictures and talk to me. The doctor said he did not think it would be a viable pregnancy and that I could have a D & C right away or wait another week. He said " you may not be far enough along". He said he did not want to get my hopes up though, and explained that it was probably chromasomal and the baby just wasn't meant to make it. He said that since I had not been cramping or bleeding it would not hurt to wait another week and look again. I said that I could not have the D & C without knowing for sure and chose to wait. He explained that I may pass the tissue myself and told me if it was light spotting or a normal period, I should not worry, but if it was heavy bleeding to go to the ER. He said that if I passed the tissue, he would want to do another ultrasound to be sure it was all gone. So, I left, heartbroken and accepted that there was no baby. I saw the picture, can't get it out of my head. I cried that night until I fell asleep and dreamed that they were wrong and it was two babies. I woke up and reality sunk in again and I cried all morning. I was ok most of the day when I was with my Mom or DH, but when I would get alone, I would get upset. I went to work the next day and talked about it and thought about it and read some of these posts. I decided to do another test to see if it would show positive and got a BFP. I was hoping it would confirm by being a really faint line like in the beginning, and was going to have the D&C. Well, of course I decided I was not going to now, and I called the nurse at the OBGYN clinic. She was amazing, she talked to me for over half an hour and said she would wait too. She said she had experienced a BO personally and had been cramping and spotting and didn't even show positive on the test anymore when she went to the doctor. She scheduled a blood test for HcG level and said they would do another blood test when I have the follow up u/s. Well, I started bleeding on September 2nd at work and left to come home and have a m/c. I called the nurse back and told her I had bled a little and didn't want to have the blood drawn that day. She told me to take Tylenol regularly to help with pain before I started cramping, as she had started cramping one day with no bleeding, then spotted next day with no cramping, and on third day was bleeding heavily and cramping. She said that if the pain got real bad, the tylenol may not help after the fact. After I came home there was no more bleeding and no cramping. Only the little bit I saw at work. That was 36 hrs. ago, so now I am just waiting and wondering what will come in the next few days. I have decided I am not going to let them do a D & C next week. I may get them to check my levels and I know I will get another u/s, I guess I am just waiting to see what it shows. But I probably won't be satisfied with just the u/s, unless I start bleeding and cramping. I am so glad to have been able to find this site and read all of your stories, it has been very helpful to me in this tough time. I know that it is true that everything happens for a reason and am just waiting to see what happens next.
Joli
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Post by kristie on Sept 3, 2005 20:56:27 GMT -5
I am a 34-year-old mom, wife, and nurse who lives in Nebraska. I have had four pregnancies with two blighted ovums. I have a son who is 8 years old. My pregnancy with him was really uneventful except for the fact that I was miserable - nausea, vomiting, fatigue, and headaches the entire time. Tyler was born prematurely, at 34 weeks, following a very fast labor and emergency c-section due to being breech. He had every medical complication one can dream of related to his prematurity. The first few years of his life were really stressful for me and my husband, so we put off trying for a sibling for a long time.
About 3 years ago, we decided to go off the pill and start trying. I got pregnant fairly easily and we were so exicited, nervous, and a little scared. Thinking nothing could go wrong, we told everyone right away. I thought I was having the easiest early pregnancy ever, no nausea or vomiting or other issues, I was sailing through that awful first trimester! I was tired and had sore boobs and had even begun to wear loose-fitting clothes and baggy dresses to cover my poochy little belly. I had my first OB check at 8 weeks, and while my Dr. couldn't find heart tones, we weren't concerned....I knew that they weren't always easy to hear at that stage. Then one Saturday morning when I was 12 weeks, I woke up to go to the bathroom and noticed a little bit of dark brown discharge. I called the OB who was on call for my Dr. and she told me to go onto bedrest for the weekend, call if things got worse, and to see my Dr. on Monday. Well, the bleeding got worse but there was nothing anyone could do. The ultrasound on Monday showed the empty gestational sac. I decided to have the miscarriage naturally. It took four days of intense pain and bleeding along with the huge emotional toll. I became pregnant again 6 months later. Due to the first miscarriage, the Dr. checked my progesterone and HCG levels. The news was dismal...my progesterone was low and my HCG's weren't doubling as they should. I started spotting a few days later and lost that pregnancy quickly. We tried to conceive for the next few months, but I grew frustrated with tracking everything and having my period continue to show up as scheduled. So we quit "trying" an took a "let's see what happens" attitude. I didn't get pregnant again until this summer. I was in a little bit of denial that my period was late. We were going on vacation and I was just stressed and busy trying to get that going, so I didn't do the pregnancy test right away. When I got a really strong positive result, I was so happy! We decided to be cautious and not tell anyone until we knew things were OK. My progesterone was normal this time and my HCG levels were higher but still not doubling. I felt tired and had some nausea, so I thought things were probably going well. My Dr. ordered an ultrasound at 6 weeks due to the inconsistent HCG levels, and no fetal structures or heartbeat were seen. The Dr. thought maybe my dates were off (even though I was absolutely certain they weren't) so he decided to repeat the ultrasound at 8 weeks. Those two weeks of waiting were so hard, but when the results were the same I was devastated. Another empty gestational sac. The Dr. made me wait until miscarraige symptoms started before we could take any action, and I started spotting one week later. I decided immediately to have a D&C....I just couldn't go through the physical pain of natural miscarriage again.
I'm only two weeks post-surgery and my Dr. isn't being very aggressive in trying to help me figure out why this is happening. I don't yet know what we're going to do from here. We both really want our son to have a sibling, though it looks like there could be 10 years age difference! I really need the support and advice of others who have been where I am today.
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Post by babyray on Sept 4, 2005 18:11:56 GMT -5
Hi All,
My name is Leigh(Lee) I had taken my first pregnancy test on July 28th, which was one day before my sister's birthday. When I saw the + sign I felt like crying (happy cry), I was SOOOO elated that I was finally going to have a baby. I called my sister because although I wanted to tell her on her birthday, I knew I was working and I didn't want anyone to know there just yet, so I called her that evening of the 28th, she was happier than me. And her coming to town to visit in a few days made it so much more exciting.
My boyfriend/donor who was trying to get me pg to all along was less than thrilled when I told him. He even offered to pay for an abortion. So instead I aborted him. I had no intentions on killing my baby to make life easy for him. I had it all planned to raise my bundle of joy alone and with the help of family and friends. I was overwhelmed by the support I received from my family and friends about this baby. After all, my announcement of this pregnancy was equivallent to the second coming, being that I am 36 and have never been pregnant. I went to my OB to do blood work to infact see if I were pg which the blood test revealed I was. I immediately asked for prenatal vitamins and the nurse gave me some samples that would hold me until my official prenatal visit.
I was fine with nothing more than nausia that would only last until I had a sip or two of Gingerale. Then the day of my prenatal visit I no longer felt pregnant, I felt like my normal self and I also noticed my boobs were not as sore as they used to be. I was beginning to have the pregnancy rhinitis. I guess even though I was no longer pregnant the symptoms were still there. My doc gave me my first transvaginal U/s it showed no fetal pole. I was 8.5 weeks then. She immediately sent me to the hospital the next day to the radiology department and the same thing, a sac but no fetal pole. She called me back and said she wanted to schedule a D&C for that friday and diagnosed me with a BO. I was mortified. I wanted this baby more than anything despite how her worthless father felt. Two days before my official prenatal visit my I had a dream about this baby girl who my family was playing with. That same little girl was in my dreams for two nights in a row, so I am guessing this was GOD showing me my little angel was a girl. Yesterday I went out and purchased a Raggedy Ann Doll, I feel every baby should have one.
I talked to my baby everyday, dedicated songs to her, told her I loved her, she was the only person that I was just looking so forward to meeting. Perhaps one day we will meet again in the distant future. A lot of people were saying it's my age, it's for the best, which are things I would NEVER tell a grieving parent. Because I just say that me getting pregnant at the age of 36 would have only helped me make more wise decisions that I would not have been able to make at an earlier age and it being for the best didn't make me love my baby any less. I am just glad to have found this site and found that I am nto alone. God Bless you and best wishes to you all.
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Post by fadedx11 on Sept 10, 2005 12:58:20 GMT -5
I am 22 years old and my dh is also 22. We got married over 3 years ago and have been ttc since then. It took me 2 and a half years to even get pregnant, but we did it on our own. When I got that bfp, I just knew my dreams were coming true. I told my mom, "I'm going to be a mommy." I was so naive. My pregnancy was normal on the outside. I was throwing up everyday. The doctor couldn't find a heartbeat though. I was 11 weeks 5 days. They did the u/s and confirmed that I had a bo. I had a d&c.
I then got pregnant again 2 months later. I felt sure that this time would be different. I have never heard of anyone having 2 blighted ovums in a row, and from what I hear it is pretty rare. I was also very sick w/ this pregnancy. My HCG test came back great. I was 11 weeks 4 days when I found out I had another bo. It was the same u/s tech as last time showing me the same thing all over again. I was shocked, and I can not tell you the grieve that I feel.
I am terrified that I will never be able to have children. I just had some bloodwork done last week, and am having an hsg (looking around at my uterus and tubes) done MOnday. I am afraid they will find something. I am even more afraid they won't find anything.
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Post by radcades on Sept 11, 2005 8:42:01 GMT -5
hi my name is lisa and this is my story1 last year a few days before christmas i found out i was pregnant. i was really ill with morning sickness worse than with my first child.when i went for my scan at twelve weeks i was told there was no baby just an empty sac i had never heard of this condition before so was very confused but the doctor explained it all to me and the options1 i was very upset but thought i was being daft as peole kept telling me there was no baby in the first place. i decided to wait to miscarry by myself, it took about two weeks and when it started i was getting terrible stomach cramps which was coming in waves(a bit like labour pains) it lasted two days and the bleeding never stopped eventualy my husband called an ambulance as i could take no more and i was rushed to hospital.i had to stay in overnight while they examined me it was not pleasant and i must say its the worst experience i have been through.this all happened in january im now pregnant again and dreading my first scan in case i have to go through it again,i dont think i could face it.im just praying everything will be ok this time around. if anyone would like to talk please email me on radcades@yahoo.com thankyou for reading x
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Post by numten on Sept 24, 2005 10:17:59 GMT -5
I just found out yesterday at my 10 wk u/s that my sac is pretty much filled w/ what the doctors call debris (can u believe they used that term w/ me!) and the sac was a little irregular shaped. There isn't really a baby in there at all cause it stopped forming a while ago, if at all.
At my 6wk u/s the docs thought the baby was only about 3 wks and they swore I miscalculated my dates which I KNOW I didn't so that means the baby really stopped growing or didn't really even start much.
The doctors aren't really telling me exactly what happened but after research this seems like it's a blighted ovum. My body still thinks I'm pg with symptoms like sore bb's, a tummy and frequent urination and tiredness.
In 2 days I have another u/s scheduled to confirm and then I go right over to the ob/gyn. At that point, I'll probably make the decision to go w/ the D&C.
I'm so scared and cannot stop crying because I don't know why or what is the cause exactly and I'm it doesn't affect future pregnancies. Thank you ladies for sharing your stories, it has made me feel a little bit of hope and closure, knowing that many of you have gone on w/ successful pregnancies afterwards. This board has been an invaluable resource to me.
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Post by merrymoon on Oct 8, 2005 9:15:43 GMT -5
Hi my name is Rachel 34yo, found out i had BO 7/10/05 by U/S couldn't believe it. I had slight bleeding and cramps the day before as soon as i saw the bleeding i had a feeling that something was wrong. Then this morning when i went to the toilet i passed what looked like part of my placenta and inside a blob thats the only way i can explain it. it looked like it could have been a embryo or fetus i just don't know but its something that will stick in my mind for a little while. This was my 2nd pg i have a beautiful 4yo girl called Pyper who now i am so grateful for, alot of parents try for ages to have children and never succeed but im blessed that i already have one. This has been really good therapy to write how i feel when so many other women on this site have gone throught the same thing as me. May the angels bring u all blessings through this period of time, they say to look into the sky and u will see your children know that they are looking after them and they will be reborn to us all in time.
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Post by ajones on Oct 25, 2005 11:29:43 GMT -5
I went to the doctor on October 11, 2005 for my first prenatal visit. I was 8 weeks and 6 days. When I entered the room I suddenly got scared, and I think the main reason is that 7 months back I had a still birth. I was 31.5 weeks; it just brought back some painful memories. . Well, the technician began the ultra sound and my husband kept asking where is the baby? She did not answer right away, I knew something was wrong. She asked me if I could be wrong about the dates, and I told her I am absolutely sure, because I am the type of person I track everything. Then she said well you are measuring at 8 weeks, and we should see a baby. I heard what she said, but I could not grasp it at the moment, pregnant but no baby. How could this be? She said can I be honest with you, and we said please do, there is no baby and you have what is called a "blighted ovum." We never heard of this before. I was stunned and so disappointed, my heart ached, and I just could not believe this was happening. I am still grieving from my still birth and when this happened my grief seemed to be more intense again. It seems like no one really understands what I am going through, I believe in God and I know He is with me. However, sometimes I feel so alone in my grief, my husband is supportive, but it is different for the man. I know I will get through this one day at a time. I am so glad I found this site, because it helps to talk with people who have gone through the same thing. Thanks for listening.
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Post by amyldougj on Oct 26, 2005 13:58:23 GMT -5
I was looking at the thread the other day and noticed that I never put my story in here. There for a long time I couldnt read post in this section because it hurt so much but I think I'm ready now. Here is my story. On February 23 2005 we found that I was pg again. We already had 4 kids and I wasnt sure if we could afford another one but what could we do. On March 23 I went for my first ob appt and everything looked good. The doc wanted me to have testing done because of my age. I was 35 and soon to be 36. On April 11 we went to a hospital for Genetic counsling and that was the day that my life changed and would never be the same again. We did the family history part and then they wanted to do a vag u/s. We were in the room with the tech. She was doing the u/s and asked me if we were sure about the dates and I said within a week. She told me to say undressed and she want to go get the other nurse to look at the u/s. Around 30 min later noone had come back so I got dressed and went to look for someone. The nurse was outside of my room and came in when I opened the door to go out. She told me that there was no baby and that I wasnt really pg. After that I dont remember much of what she said. She was so rude. Acted like she didnt care and just wanted us to leave. I cried all the way home which was about 30 to 45 min trip. When we got home I called my ob and she had called and told him what she found. He told me that we should do a dnc. At the time I didnt care any more and I said ok to the dnc and I wanted my tubes tied. The next day I thought about it and called the ob and told him I wanted another u/s to be sure and I didnt want the dnc or my tubes tied. On Wednesday April 13 I went to my ob for another u/s and he showed me everything. The sack was in the shape of a square and he said it wouldnt be long before I had the m/c. My dh talked me into a dnc on Friday. Thursday night I still felt pg and I told my dh I didnt want a dnc that if God wanted me to loose this baby then he would have to take it because I wasnt giving up on it. Sunday April 17th was the day that it all started. It was a warm day and we were on our front porch. I just got up out of my chair when it felt like my water broke. I looked down and there was blood everywhere. I spent about 30 min in the bathroom and then it was all over. I felt ok the rest of the day till about 8pm. I started having cramps. I went to the bathroom and that is when the bleeding started again. I got in the tub and just let the warm water run on me. I was laying in the tub with the shower going. When I thought it has slowed down some I went to get up and almost past out. Here I am now setting on my toilet naked and about to pass out. I told my dh to call 911 that I need to go to the hospital. By the time the ambulance got there I was feeling a little better and was able to put a shirt on and wrap a big towel around me and walk down the stairs to the front door with some help. I almost passout 3-4 time at the hospital before they sent me home around 11 pm. Durning that time I passed 2 melon size blood clots. That must of been my son. After we got back home that night I had such bad cramps it was almost 1am before I finally feel asleep for a while. The next day I felt better and the cramps had stop and I wasnt bleeding as bad. My dh birthday is April 19 2 days after I lost our son. What a birthday present. My mom took good care of us. She cooked dinner for 3 night before I felt like doing to much. I was so weak and had such a headache. I would say it took almost a week to get most of my strength back. I had bleeding form the day of my m/c (April 17) till May 8th. Then it only stopped for a couple of days at a time till May 17th I had my first af which lasted till June 12th. My ob put me on estrogen around June the 8th to make the bleeding stop. My af are better now but they still are not back to normal. It has been almost 7 months and we are still ttc with no luck. I guess I did leave out some. I was so depressed this past summer. I took prozac and it still didnt take care of it. I would have days that I was ok and then the next day I would loose it. I still have days but for the most part I am better now. My dh brother was killed 11 yrs agao and his dad passed away a year ago. They have plots together at the grave yard and we made a special place for our son there and when ever I feel down or just need to talk to him I go there. Durning the summer I was there at least once a day. Now I go about every other day. Now I can go there and not cry all the time. I took flowers to my son on his due date and cried some but i am better now and ready to help other ladies that is going through the same thing.
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Post by jessjupiter on Dec 8, 2005 13:00:03 GMT -5
hi, my name is jess and i am 23 years old. i got married in august to my wonderful husband and promptly moved out of the country to start my PhD in Ireland. in October to my great shock i found out i was pregnant. we were very scared at first both being still in school, but we quickly became excited as having children is something we both very much want. we went to one appointment and had scheduled another, but did not have an u/s as they are very limited in the area I'm in. i had most of the usual pg symptoms - and extreme fatigue. i could hardly do any work, which is very unlike me. luckily i didn't have the morning sickness.
the day after i was 9 weeks (Saturday) i noticed blood (just bits of spotting) and panicked! luckily my mom is an obgyn and called me every ten min to let me know what i should do. on Sunday was my birthday and i was starting to bleed heavily. i called the doc here and he sent me to the maternity ward at the hospital. by the time i got there i was bleeding like crazy (two weeks later i am still having nightmares about the bleeding). of course i had to wait to get a scan until the next day and in fact ended up staying two nights in the hospital.
i got the scan the next evening (basically bled like crazy for two days before i got the scan!) to find that there was no baby. the docs didn't say what it was but my mom told me it must have been a BO because i didn't pass anything until later that night. i ended up having a natural miscarriage and bleeding for over a week - but i didn't have to have a d&c or anything.
although the baby was unplanned we are so devastated. we were so excited and my mom had just sent us baby clothes and blankets and things because she was so excited as well. people really don't seem to understand that even an unplanned baby is dearly loved. its very difficult now because we desperately want a child, but we feel we should wait (its only been two weeks). it was our first pregnancy so we have no children. we named our baby Halyn which means 'special and unique unlike another' (and is 'gender neutral'). We miss our baby so much. When we went to movies we would pretend to cover its eyes and ears during the 'scary' parts. We hope one day to have a child and we know that our baby will watch over our family. every year now on my birthday we will celebrate both my birthday and the 'birthday' of our first child.
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Post by delaney725 on Dec 13, 2005 22:20:32 GMT -5
Deep breath.
My name is Jodi. I am 35 and dh is 38. We have a beautiful three year old daughter, conceived naturally after 1 year of fertility treatments, and were thrilled 5 weeks ago when we learned that she would be a big sister.
We held off on telling the families because we thought it would be really cool to tell them at Christmas. We made up photo books of our daughter with the last picture being her wearing a shirt that said "I'm gonna be a big sister." We ordered them yesterday. I also told my boss and two coworkers yesterday.
We went in for first appt today and had an u/s because I was on Topamax for the first four weeks and we were worried that something mightve been damaged. We kept a positive attitude and dh had even started to get excited about the baby.
Doc found an empty sac at the size for 6 weeks (I should be at almost 8). She kept trying to tell me that I shouldn't worry yet, that we should wait until the bloodwork comes back. She said maybe it was just the machine or maybe she just couldn't find it. I theorize that if she really thought that, we would have changed machines or she would have called in another doctor.
I couldn't go to work after that, so I came home. I looked up blighted ovum on the internet and it really sounds like that's what I have.
I am so crushed. We tried for so long to conceive this one. We really didn't know if we could do this naturally. I feel like I just can't face anyone, especially at work. How am I going to get through these holidays?
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Post by amelie on Jan 8, 2006 12:50:30 GMT -5
hi im amelie im 21 i had my 1st child in april last year i had af when she was 7 weeks then didnt have another but i was breast feeding so didnt think anything of it i started feeling sick and ppl kept saying are you pregnant so did bowt 10 tests all came back negetive finally after 10 weeks 1 came back postive went for my 1st scan and the midwife said there was nothing there i had a d&c a few days later and got a post operative infection me and my bf broke up and me and my dd moved into my mums we got back together i moved back in got pregnant again at 8 weeks started bleeding i lost the baby hopefully this year will bring my little family a new member
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Post by lmh691 on Jan 8, 2006 19:48:34 GMT -5
I just began to mc my 2nd BO since October (I MCd then at 7 weeks) We waited one cycle to ttc and got preg immediately. All seemed to go well this time (had stronger pg symptoms) but started bleeding at 8 weeks and had u/s done--it showed another BO. So all this weekend I've been passing tissue. I have a dr's appt tomorrow morning, I don't know if I will need a D&C, I didn't in Oct. I have 2 dd's , age 2 & 4, really want one more before I'm too old (I'm 38 next month). My DH and I are planning to wait this time, probably till late spring, to try again. Boy is this frustrating! I am also about 60 lbs overweight and want to lose some before trying, I can't help but wonder if that has anything to do with my 2 BOs!
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Post by caroleo on Jan 13, 2006 12:44:02 GMT -5
Hi, my name is Lynn and I am 39 yrs. old(40 next month). My dh is 42. We did not plan our pregnancy, but was happy when we found out for sure Dec.2,2005. Everyone was excited! Then on New Year's Eve I started spotting brown. I called the nurse on call and she said to go to bed and call ob office Tues. a.m. My wonderful family brought over the peas and collards to our house,since my mouth had been watering waiting for my favorite meal of the year! I continued to stay in bed while my dh would only let me up to go to the bathroom. And he went with me every time to see if the bleeding had stopped. The next night I had just got out of the shower and getting dressed when red blood came gushing out. Dh took me to the hospital and blood test and ultrasounds were done. Did'nt see anything but the sac. I knew for a fact that I was 81/2 wks., but they said I must have the dates wrong, because the sac looked 61/2 wks. only. The Dr. started talking about a B. O., but I thought that wasn't me!! That could not happen to me! So we went home with me back to bed to wait 2 days to go to OB office for another blood test to check those #'s. to see if they went down. We found out on Thurs. 1/5/06 that #'s had gone from 13,000's to 200's. Another vaginal u/s confirmed there was no baby, but the sac was still there. The Dr. was so matter-of-fact with this that I did'nt belived her! She scheduled a d&c. The whole time I was in shock! I came straight home and looked up blighted ovum,not even sure of the spelling. I found this site, and Dear God, thank you so much for all the information I found here. Today is a week since the d&c and I am still profoundly sad. Everything I see makes me think that I was pregnant last time I seen this or done this. I know it will get better as time heals our hearts. I need to return maturnity clothes that I had bought, but I can't. i still don't want to let go!!Maybe telling my story and crying yet again will help me.My Dr. went too deep with my d&c and thought she may have to do a historectomy(sp), but was kept at the hospital extra time and began antibiotics and so far everything is ok. I hope my story helps someone else as other's stories have helped me to understand that I am not alone. Thank you all on this board for helping me.
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